You’ve seen it time and time again – he is far from the most attractive man in the room --and yet he is surrounded by beautiful women who are laughing, touching his arm and hanging on his every word. At the end of the night, he leaves with either one of the women or several phone numbers.

Just how does he do it? Contrary to what onlookers might think, he was not born with this charm and talent. He has learned the art of the pick up: How to pick up a girl, to attract, seduce, get her phone number and so on.

What a smart idea.

He knows the importance of techniques, such as the “opener” (how to initiate a conversation) and the “Number Close” (getting a phone number from someone). Often, the opener is the key to breaking the ice.

You can learn these techniques, as well.

One technique is the “compliment opener” where you compliment the woman on something OTHER than her or her physical beauty. For instance, the incredible energy about her or the distinctive color of her handbag or how her poise reminds you of Audrey Hepburn.

Or how about the “opinion opener”, where you ask a group of girls their opinion on anything, such as “Hey guys I need your opinion. Do I look better with my glasses on or off?” or which cologne you are wearing (one on each wrist) smells best. When they give their opinion, continue to question them on it. It opens up the group and initiates a conversation, and is one of the keys to learning how to talk to a girl.

Another sure-fire opener technique is getting the girl to laugh. If you can get her laughing, you’ve broken down her natural barriers, helped her to physically relax around you and captured her attention for your next move. Many men underestimate the power of laughter and how it opens the doors to more meaningful interaction.

Some men hesitate to use pick up lines because they think they are cheesy, but honestly what comes out of your mouth really doesn’t matter. It has to do with your attitude, how your permission level and state are so in tune that what you say really doesn’t matter and that even the cheesiest pick up lines will work because your body language and tone are correct.

By learning this confidence and self assurance, the man in the example above is able to Attract Women to him likes bees to honey. His body language screams confidence and he reels them in with his effective pick up lines. It is something he learned only recently and something that will lead him to the woman of his dreams. Meanwhile, he is having fun dating multiple women and being the envy of every other man in the room.

This man learned and polishes his techniques from a like-minded community of men looking for love and adventure.