OK. Here is something I don’t admit to just anybody. I watch The Bachelorette reality TV show. Granted, I usually have a hot woman at my side watching it with me, but still, I watch it. (By the way, women think its hot when you watch a girly show with them.)

I know for a fact that there is a lot to learn from watching a dating show like this. Don’t believe me?

Although the show is not over (I think as I write this it has been narrowed down to six guys), there are still many lessons to learn. First off, not one of the guys is a pick up artist. If one of them was a pua, he would win the show easily... cause all the other guys are such wussies!

There are a few things you can learn from tuning in each week to the drama and sappiness inherent in these shows. You can get some startling insight into what women want. You can also at the same time learn a lot about what women do not want.
For example, during this season, Bachelorette Alie gave some pretty clear reasons at times why she decided to keep someone on the show or give them a rose for that night.

For instance, one night she gave a rose to the man who had spent the entire time being an alpha male. He was not a show off or arrogant, but he patiently took a leadership role and helped everyone else on the show with their horse riding skills. She pointed this out and was grateful to him and gave him a rose. She talked about how much she appreciated his take charge and helpful attitude.

Another episode, she gave a rose to the guy who brought her chicken soup and flowers when she was sick. That ability to nurture her and Comfort here and genuinely care about her well being paid off. He also has made it to the last six on the show.

Although it didn’t help him make it to the final cut, one guy who wasn’t the most attractive guy of the first 25, made it to the final 6. Why? Because he made her laugh. It only went so far because eventually she realized there wasn’t a romantic spark between the two of them, but his ability to make her laugh at least gave him a chance to explore whether there was an attraction or not.

In addition, by watching this show, you see what doesn’t work. For instance, one guy was very overbearing in his feelings. He expressed strong feelings that probably were a little early for only knowing someone a few weeks. He was overly sentimental and she didn’t think he was sincere, even if he was. It was just a little too much, too soon.

He professed his love for her with a tattoo and frankly, that was just plain scary to her.

So even if you have to do it in secret, I recommend you not shy away from watching reality dating shows. Look at it like a researcher or scientist. Analyze what appears to work and what doesn’t. Of course, it is a manufactured environment and is a far stretch from reality, but you can still find clues to what women want and what women don’t want by paying attention.