Men nowadays are trying so hard to be sensitive, understanding, and affectionate, that they end up turning into supplicating doormats.

And it’s not even their fault. Women continually tell men that they are looking for a guy who is a good listener, who is emotional and caring, and who will spend hours having deep and meaningful conversations with them.

Well, it’s all a crock.

You see women probably really do think this is what they want. But they don’t. The proof is in the pudding. When you give them your sensitive, understanding, affectionate side, you basically turn into their new best girlfriend. Any chemistry that might have existed between the two of you has flown out the window and you’ve become her new BFF.

What women really want is a guy who is a bit sensitive. But just a bit. And who can be a good listener – at times. But one who is fully in touch with his alpha male side. One who might sit and have a meaningful conversation for hours, but is constantly sending the “I am man” vibe her way.

The men that women want are the ones who can seamlessly meld their masculine, alpha male traits with those of a good partner. The ideal man is an alpha male who isn’t afraid to say, “Hey, let’s talk about something else for awhile.”

He is the man who says, “I’d rather go to this other restaurant tonight. We can check out the one you like tomorrow.”

Being an alpha male means being comfortable in your own skin. It means not being afraid to express likes and dislikes. It ultimately means not really caring what other people think about you as long as you are being true to yourself and not hurting anyone else.

The alpha male takes charge and makes decisions. Sure, he gets input from others and considers that, as well.

The true masculine man also isn’t afraid to show he is caring and affectionate, because he knows how to do it in a way that would never take way from his masculinity, but would only enhance that side of him.

Here are some alpha male traits that all men should emulate:

• Decisive. Don’t be afraid to make a decision.
• Opinionated. Cultivate opinions and don’t be afraid to express them.
• Take Charge. Be the one to first leave the party if it is getting boring and take others with you. Buy tickets to the latest movie without asking what your date wants to see.
• Don’t reveal all. You can have meaningful, hours long conversations with a girl, but don’t spill your guts and reveal everything about yourself. Keep some things a Mystery, including exactly how you feel about her. You can let her know you like her, but don’t make a big deal of it.

If you emulate some of the traits mentioned in this article, you will be able to give women what they truly want. They may be describing a guy who acts like their new Best Friend Forever, but what they really want is a guy in touch with his alpha male.