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Unread 08-17-2012, 03:14 AM
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Default Girl accepts date, then they all cancels

Hey
I do daygame and I have done it for like 3 weeks. I was not terrible to begin with because I have a good confidence and social competence. So I approach 8-10’s and get numbers 60% of the time. However, 3 times in a row now the girl has accepted to go take a coffee, and then the same day that we are supposed to meet all 3 of them have cancelled with lame excuses like “I don’t feel like getting into something right now” or “my Ex troubles me and I don’t want to bring you into it because you seem so perfect” bla bla. I send her back like "im not trying to marry you, it's just a coffee". So I haven’t gotten a single date yet because 3 out of 3 who agreed to meet cancelled.

I know it’s a tough question, but do you guys have any ideas what I could be doing wrong?

Here is how I do my daygame:
I approach her direct by giving her a compliment, she stops, smiles and we greet. I ask her what she is up to and a few other questions. I make her laugh during the interaction but without being a clown. We talk for about 5 minutes and usually the girls are interested and asks me a lot of questions aswell. I don’t do a lot of Kino and the conversation is kind off basic/fun. I tell her we should meet up for coffee sometime and that we should exchange numbers. She types in her number and I give her a hug and we say our goodbyes. The day after I text her something that makes her smile and we send 2-3 texts to each other before I ask here “How about coffee tomorrow or the day after?”. She agrees and then cancels :P



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Default Re: Girl accepts date, then they all cancels

The reality is that most cold approaches that you end up with their numbers are never going to pan out. For me the rare few women that actually go out with me later and I have sex with eventually almost always seem to contact me via text later in the day of when we initially swapped numbers.

Why? Cause they're so f@#$ing interested in me that they can't wait to interact with me again. cold approach flakes are so prevalent in fact that I no longer save a girl's name in my phone. If she's not willing to meetup at my first few date suggestions I move on.

One thing that may improve your odds is to try and set up a date with her right then (like to get some coffee of get a drink nearby) or to set something up in the near future before you exchange numbers.

Congratulations for having the balls to approach so much; Just stay realistic about the odds of success.

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Default Re: Girl accepts date, then they all cancels

You're game isn't bad at all. Maybe some fine tuning is due. Try to instadate when you meet them. If logistics allow it. If you have to number exchange then recognize how far you reached with a woman before you separate. Did she show at least 3 strong IOIs? If not then you will have to use text game to build more attraction before you set up a meet date. Just recognize when you need phone game or not. You don't always need it, but a good portion of the time you do.

And don't underestimate qualification. If you don't then she knows you are only interested in her looks, which is risky if she is looking for something more meaningful.

As for your comment about "I'm not trying to marry you. Its just coffee" sort of screams booty call to me. Focus on changing her mood and not her mind. Next time try this:

"Lol you are too adorable. I knew I had a good feeling about you. But don't go thinking you got a ball and chain on me yet. I'm rebellious."

Hope this helps and good luck.


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