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Unread 01-28-2011, 12:04 PM
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Default I accidently stood her up, how to re-frame?

This girl seemed really into me until I accidently stood her up. By that I mean she waited for me in a practicly empty bar and when I got there the bar dude told me she just left and had been talking to him about me while she waited.

I tried calling her and she didn't pick up then we had a little text interaction and I think I bitched out and was overly apologetic.
I really think I may have switched off her attraction triggers with this one instance. I say this because before this I was doing all the right things, teasing, dhv, making her laugh ect and getting good responses but in the week since then I tried calling her once and sent her a playful little text but no reply and no call back.

I'm willing to chalk this up as a learning experience but if I can learn how to recover from a slip up well that's also a valuable lesson...



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Default Re: I accidently stood her up, how to re-frame?

You blew it.

Call her one last time, leave a voicemail saying something along the lines of "I get the feeling you took it very personally last week, it's a shame because if anything I think we would of made great friends (or replace with 'had a lof of fun' if you already made out with the broad,) pleasure to have met you *insert name here*"

And then forget about her.

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Unread 02-02-2011, 02:01 PM
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You blew it.

Call her one last time, leave a voicemail saying something along the lines of "I get the feeling you took it very personally last week, it's a shame because if anything I think we would of made great friends (or replace with 'had a lof of fun' if you already made out with the broad,) pleasure to have met you *insert name here*"

And then forget about her.
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Default Re: I accidently stood her up, how to re-frame?

not entirely true, you could freeze her out for like two weeks and then re-establish your self. i woulndt call her and say anything along the lines of oh well your loss. it makes it seem as if it bothered you or you are needy! thats AFC stuff my dude!

id wait two weeks. then send her a text along the lines of, "well i guess its time to draw up the papers" if she responds, she will probably ask something like, "what papaers?" then play it off like, "the divorce papers silly." then role play from there. any way you do it, it needs to be fun, playfull, and cocky.

if she doesnt respond, chalk it up as a learning experience and move forward. but do not call her on not responding that is the worse thing you can do.


 
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Default Re: I accidently stood her up, how to re-frame?

Yeah thanks for the advice guys I've gone for the Freeze Out, theres a chance I may run into her again where we met so if I do I'll re-frame with some dhv and playful negs at her.

I like JB's idea so I might try that in another week or two but I'm going to a party this weekend so who knows I might have a couple more phone numbers by then


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