Need help destroying boyfriend asap

Long story short(er) I met this one girl I started hanging out with. I liked her, so I did the right moves (at least I think) things were going well till her ugly bestfriend cock-blocked me (to a point not known to man) I was stupid enough to fall for her ugly friends' trap.

...few months later, this girl gets a boyfriend

boyfriend is lame, socially akward,doesnt hardly ever go out with her, no enthusiasm, boring, and I dont like to judge guys on appearance but, not attractive whatsoever.

Because he's not outgoing, (and she is) she keeps asking me to hangout/party/movies whatever to fill that void for him to going anywhere with her. Although they are dating, she has never reffered to him as "boyfriend" in my presence.

She litrally texts/calls me every day to do stuff with her, I do have a life of my own, so I will maybe agree to go somewhere with her less than once a week and still often Flake out last minute (this is the reason (I think) she is still calling/texting to get me out)

Do you think I may be in the friend zone? I mean, I don;t think I am
Also, I do know the basic destroyer teqniques of defending the bf when she bitches about him, but she doesn't, because she has never reffered to him as her bf to me.

What should I do, I want to Get Her Back, and make sure this guy is out.I still very much like her (i dont show it purposely, unless in a playfull way)

Few days ago a bunch of us went for drinks, I actually came with her, but her bf showed up with some mutual friends, I was doing whatever I do, having great fun, going crazy, talking/dancing with random people and she just kinda sat there looking at her bf (who was just sitting there still)and finally said to him "you know, if you dont wanna be here, you can leave, why are you always like this"

I dont know, any kind of assistance would be nice.

Btw, im going clubbing with her and a bunch of friends really soon (unsure if her bf will come or not) any advice even for that day alone? Thanks

Hi,

My concern is I don't want to see you end up this girl's "cuddle b!tch". You know what that is, right? She goes to you for emotional fulfillment but goes to her boyfriend for physical fulfillment. That's a terrible position to be in...and you don't want to be there.

What do you want from this girl? Are you wanting a relationship or more of a friends-with-benefits type of setup? I think it's important to know this because it will affect how you choose to proceed.

If you want her as a girlfriend, I think you've got to play this a little bit more straight-laced. I wouldn't put all my eggs in one basket, I'd continue talking with other girls, she may see this and become jealous and start trying to put herself out there more (which would be great because it would make for less work for you)

or...

If you're just wanting a friends-with-benefits situation...I think you should make innuendos out the @$$ about what you want from her. Don't just come right out and say it, that takes all the fun out of it. Make little hints and suggestions and see if she picks up on them...she's a girl, she probably will, girls are pretty adept at picking up clues.

If her boyfriend is as much of a bore as you say he is, I think it would be pretty easy to swoop in and get her to cheat with you on her boyfriend, but it might be a little bit more difficult to get her to drop the guy altogether. Either way, if she starts banging you, the other guy's days are numbered anyway, so it doesn't really matter much.

Just keeping going on this...push it through 'til you reach some sort of finality, your victory or his...

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BF Destroyer Technique

I want to be in a relationship with this one, and I perfectly agree with you, I have to make myself more unavailable in order to not become the cuddle-bitch. Tonight we went to a bar, me, her, her bf and a bunch of her lady friends. I positioned myself in between her two hottest friends and we were all joking, touching, each other and having fun, on the other side was her and her bf, he sat with his arms crossed staring at the ceiling. At one point she started staring at me, I pretended not to notice and kept having fun, then she looked back at her bf and said "you know, if you dont wanna be here you can leave" he mumbled something and nothing changed until 5 minutes later, she got up to get a drink, came back and sat beside me and pretty much ignored him for the rest of the night.

Me and her never discussed her bf, should I start bringing him up and saying how awesome he is, or just leave it be as it is now?

Please let me know if I should build him up or continue pretending he doesnt exist on both sides, in order to build him up I would have to bring him up in conversations as she never speaks about him.

I hope I can get this to all work out, I will keep you updated o whats going on.