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A special guest blog post by Rob Judge:

Wouldn’t life be so much easier if it were a romantic comedy script? Imagine if a screenwriter rewarded your perseverance with a happy ending that brought you and your dream girl together, to walk off into the sunset, hand-in-hand, with a baguette tucked under your other arm. (Aside: Why does every romantic comedy EVER have a scene where the male protagonist either buys, eats, or carries a baguette?!)

In movies, positive traits are usually rewarded (at least in the end). In life, however, there’s no guarantee that your “good character” will win you any favors, respect, or—most of all—a beautiful woman. I’ve had more than one coaching client who bemoaned the rules of “the game,” which punished him for possessing the good qualities that took a lifetime to develop.

Painfully distressing indeed, it’s very likely that many of your otherwise “good” traits are the exact “sticking points” that keep you from dating the girls you want. As such, here’s a short list of character traits that won’t win you any girlfriends.

1. Being Smart

Most guys can’t grasp the difference between academic and emotional intelligence. You may have been valedictorian of your class, but that doesn’t mean shit when you’re interacting with women. In fact, academic intelligence often sabotages emotional intelligence because it makes men too analytical and “in their head.” Interacting with women isn’t a fucking spelling bee. So stop worrying about being “correct” and start honing in on the emotional vibe.

2. Having Pride

Pride is a funny thing. Many guys discover dating advice because they take such pride in themselves that they don’t want to struggle with women any longer. Yet, that same pride then destroys their ability to implement the advice because they get so caught up in trying to be perfect. There are guys who only study dating advice—never approaching so much as a single girl—because their pride is so immense, they can’t imagine enduring a single moment of dented pride. Reality check: meeting women doesn’t have to be perfect—in fact, it shouldn’t be. Likewise, don’t let your pride ruin your dating life.

3. Acting Nice

No surprise here, but it has to be mentioned. As boys, we’re told being nice is of monumental importance. Then, later, when we become men, acting nice is the fastest way to ruin our chances with any girl we like. Literally, acting too nice is the kiss of death for attraction. Save the niceness for your grandma; when you’re looking to improve your dating success, you’re not doing anyone a favor by being too nice.

4. Remembering Stuff

Remembering “small details” about a woman sounds sexy, doesn’t it? Well it’s not. If you and a woman have a brief conversation, and you can recall every little detail from that conversation weeks later, she will not find this impressive. She will find it weird and desperate. Please note: remembering details when you’re in a relationship is helpful and sexy; however, with girls that you’re “seeing” or casually dating, remembering lots of details isn’t helpful. It’s creepy.

5. Showing generosity

Generosity goes hand-in-hand with acting nice. Showing too much generosity works against you because it seems like you’re trying too hard. This is not to say you should be cheap. You can splurge on the occasional round of drinks or even pick up the check at dinner. You should not, however, be overly generous—especially when there’s no need. She’s perfectly capable of paying for her own transportation and she doesn’t need any gifts (again, you can make an exception for a long-term girlfriend). If you want to be generous, be generous with your friends and family. (At least they’ll appreciate it!)

Well, there you have it. I hate being the bearer of bad news, but these positive traits will only work against you in the game of dating. Take it from someone who’s had his dreams crushed displaying all of these traits at one point or another. Don’t make the same mistakes: it may have taken you a lot of time and effort to cultivate these traits, but they’re of no use to you when you’re dealing with women. Disregard them.

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