To offhandedly insult of tease the target. Not to be too mean, but to disqualify yourself as a suitor or interested to build comfort in them but also build attraction. There is a great list of negs here: http://www.puaforums.com/how-pick-up...list-negs.html. Pure gold! I was doing this looooong before I knew it was a sanctioned technique... waaaaaay before I knew there was a 'community' for players of 'the game.'