01-06-2015, 02:57 PM
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| | Re: let's just be friends
It's hard to get out of the FZ when you call her every night and talk about common things and the ex girl/boy Friend. You have to be fun, flirty, confident, and playfully tease her. Right now you are building comfort, attraction has to come before comfort or else you'll just be a phone buddy
This is a GREAT post from T-Mal that breaks the process down
This doesn't mean when you introduce yourself to a girl, but rather, the very first moment you become a blip on her radar screen... it's her first impression she makes of you, mostly based on your body language & what she notices about you in a social environment, along with the way you're interacting with other people.
This is achieved through flirting. (AKA teasing, razzing & bantering with her.) It's the fun, playful part of the process. Enjoy it! Get good at it! Attraction is curiosity... when people are curious about you, they want to know more.
Building connections, comfort & friendship. (DO NOT skip attraction & jump straight into rapport... you'll find yourself in the friend zone in no time)
This is where you shift from being silly, fun & playful, to being a confident man & begin sexual escalation. (Be sure to incorporate lots of touching during the flirting/attraction stage, or else seduction will be extremely awkward & difficult.)
5- Relationship Balance.
Basically maintaining a balance of continuous attraction / rapport / seduction in a cyclical fashion, so that the relationship doesn't become stale & boring. This is CRUCIAL if you want to keep seeing the girl and not lose her after a short time.