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Default How to deal with hard-to-gets/attention whores

Hey fellow PUA's, I've been reading a lot of mixed thoughts on this topic and just want to get other PUAs perspectives. How do you usually go about dealing with teases and attention whores. You know the type, never afraid to initiate conversation chat it up and show interest but always has an excuse as to why they can't meet up. I've heard some PUA's talk about just being persistent until they meet up and I've heard of other PUAs either freezing out or straight up saying something like "I'm not looking for a phone buddy, give me a call again when you're ready to meet". Any opinions, success stories, etc?



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Unread 08-05-2013, 06:24 PM
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Hey fellow PUA's, I've been reading a lot of mixed thoughts on this topic and just want to get other PUAs perspectives. How do you usually go about dealing with teases and attention whores. You know the type, never afraid to initiate conversation chat it up and show interest but always has an excuse as to why they can't meet up. I've heard some PUA's talk about just being persistent until they meet up and I've heard of other PUAs either freezing out or straight up saying something like "I'm not looking for a phone buddy, give me a call again when you're ready to meet". Any opinions, success stories, etc?
I would say the Freeze Out. They are exactly what you said, attention whores. They want the attention. Therefore, deprive them of what they want and make them work for the attention. Your attention is valuable, to valuable to just give out to any chick walking around. They have to work for it to be worthy. Give them a taste of their own medicine, turn the tables


 
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The way I handle them is like a dance. They're attention whores because they live and breath off of validation. So devalidating them is your tool. The real trick is that you have to get them to seek your validation in the first place. You can do that by giving a tiny bit of validation, but then removing it. Which will make them seek for more of it. Ex: Wow you're so awesome. Too bad you're not my type. Anyways blah blah blah....

Sitting back and being the cool wallflower may not be enough. She'll be getting so much attention and may not notice you not giving it to her. That's why the concept "active disinterest" was created. So that you can engage in conversation with her (which could potentially show interest) yet you do and say things that will confuse her about your interest in her and she will then seek your validation.

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I have been straightforward with a girl in the past. I set up three meetings and each time she flaked with an excuse. After the third time I told her that I had a feeling she didn't want to meet me and that's she is wasting my time. The fourth attempt to meet up with her was succesful, I have had 7 dates with this girl so far.

Set your boundaries and be honest. You might lose the girl but if that's the case she wasn't worth it anyway.


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