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Old 11-25-2009, 10:37 AM
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My girlfriend is losing interest in me. I can tell. It sucks. Anything on how to Get Her Back? We go to the movies and everything. At first it was all cool because all we could ever think about is each other but now we're going out and she doesn't anymore. She's not as serious as she used to. Her parents fight all the time and then she gets mad. I do everything possible to make her happy but she's just not letting me help her.


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Old 12-09-2009, 06:59 PM
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Hi bro... I think your girlfriend is just having a bad time-her parents always fight. And because of that, she may seem emotionally disturb. All you can do, as her boyfriend is be supportive to her. Be creative in your ways to make her feel special and happy.


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Old 12-10-2009, 02:15 AM
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I say confront the issue. It's the only way you'll know what's really bugging her. If it's not you, you also still have to ask if she thinks she can handle a relationship while in the middle of all this drama... because you could be there for her if she'd like, but if she doesn't or cannot, better separate as friends then.

Life is too short for playing the guessing game.


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Old 12-10-2009, 04:20 AM
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I say confront the issue. It's the only way you'll know what's really bugging her. If it's not you, you also still have to ask if she thinks she can handle a relationship while in the middle of all this drama... because you could be there for her if she'd like, but if she doesn't or cannot, better separate as friends then.

Life is too short for playing the guessing game.
Nubbi is right.. You should not guess what your girlfriend is thinking about. But based on you story, I think she is just having a bad mood because of the drama happening in their family. As boyfriends, we should always be there for our girlfriends no matter what happens.


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Old 12-12-2009, 05:19 AM
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If you confront the issue, you get to know what's really happening to her. Maybe her emotions right now are overwhelmed because of the situation that she's in. Hence, she has difficulty in connecting to you the way she used to. But don't panic. It's not "her feelings for you are slowly fading". Try to confront her.Tell her what you have observed from her.And listen.


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Old 12-13-2009, 01:46 PM
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If you confront the issue, you get to know what's really happening to her. Maybe her emotions right now are overwhelmed because of the situation that she's in. Hence, she has difficulty in connecting to you the way she used to. But don't panic. It's not "her feelings for you are slowly fading". Try to confront her.Tell her what you have observed from her.And listen.

Agree. Don't play the guessing game. You might be wrong about what you will perceive. I say never read her mind. You'll never know what's inside her unless you confront her and ask her.


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Default Re: GF help?

Okay, I guess I am going to weigh in on this:

This is the pick-up side of the response and not the Doctor Phil show:
If you think she is losing interest in you, then one of the following scenarios is happening:
1. You are wrong you are just obsessing
2. You are right and there is nothing you can do about it.
3. You are right and there is something you can do about it.

First of all notice that the odds favor you not getting all distraught about this situation. Secondly, women generally lose interest in a man when she has complete control over him. So, trying to mollycoddle her is not the solution. The solution is always to be alpha. You need to confront her in a non-threatening manner. If it is a couple of small things or misunderstandings, you deal with them. If they are genuinely your fault, you deal with them and make a quick apology and move on. You don't supplicate, you don't obsess over them. If she wants you to change yourself, you politely decline and tell her, that you are your own person and that those are traits of your personality. If she can't deal with that, then you guys aren't meant for each other. Also realize, that the super romantic lovey-dovey relationship stuff doesn't ever last, it only happens for a small while. If that is what has left, then you and her need to set your expectations lower. Don't be possessive. If she isn't really feeling the relationship, tell her that maybe she needs to date other guys, and mean it. You should date other women. If you are completely non-possessive, there is a major chance that she will come back to you soon.


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