Boyfriend destoyer on an Ex g/f

Greetings,

I posted this because I really need your help. My girlfriend and I broke up recently. As I thought I could avoid the rules of the game, and became an AFC towards the end. But to the point.
She started dating someone else who is really into her. (is always telling her he loves her, doing everything for her, it's moving really fast) They are always together and spend alot of time.

As of now we still fark and hang out, and all that, but we are inevitably drifting apart.
I'm debating using a b/f destroyer technique on the other guy, talking him up, how perfect they are for each other and turning down sex.
My goal is keep a higher value, and be able to be there when their honey moon phase runs out.

Any advice thoughts would be wonderful.

would also add that I've been playing hard to get, but staying friendly.
I'll really make an effort to screen some calls and than when we do talk make it really good, and than have to leave to do something fun without her.


Her feedback is that she says she wants me back and wants to give it another shot. But also wants to explore things with this other guy as she has some feelings for him, and wants to be certain about her feelings for me.

Am I being played?

If it was me... I would keep nailing her, along with 2-3 other chicks and not sweat it. If you can find a way to pull that off, she is yours for sure.

BP

What Bill said. Be friendly, don't withhold sex. Just be completely unneedy about the relationship. She will like the guy who does everything for her, for awhile, but he is like a toy. After awhile she will become bored with him becuase he isn't a challenge. She will come back to you because you are being alpha and you are a challenge. When she comes back you need to continue to not be too needy, and don't let her rush right back to you. Make her work a little before you show any signs of commitment to a "relationship". Too many guys make the mistake of letting the girl run right back into their arms when they become interested again.

bill, gunsnglory

Yeah, thanks for your advice. I think I'm still letting my emotions cloud it and still want to get "revenge" in some way. My natural instinct is to Freeze Out too much. I will use this as a learning opportunity to really examine whether she is what I want, instead of what chose me.

I should add that she has a jealous/insecure streak. We agreed we'd tell each other when we hooked up with someone else. Which I plan on doing, but I know she will freak out act irrationally.
Any tips on handling this aspect?

This is a very bad idea. Just let her know that you BOTH are adults and free to see other people. Leave it at that. If you tell her a specific instance - she will freak the F out.

Again though, just let her know that you are seeing other people and she should do the same. Highly encourage her to date other guys.

You should be dating as many girls as possible - I recommend 5, but that can be tough logistically for some guys... but I multitask well. If you can't manage 5, date 2-3 other girls.

This girl should become your f-buddy or maybe your booty call. Let go of the fact she is with other guys... (read my newsletter about jealousy).

Good luck brother... and enjoy those 2-3 other girls ALONG with this girl.

BP

You're not together anymore. Apart from generally being nice to her, you don't owe her any loyalties, specially since she seems to be involved with somebody else. Go hook up with other women if that's what you want. Stop seeing her if that will make you feel better. Continue banging her if that's what you want. But the thing is, I think it's just bull to be saying you want to be sure of your feelings that's why you're seeing everyone you have feelings for. So move on.