How To Overcome Jealousy

How I deal with jealousy?

I look at the big picture. Jealousy really falls apart when you think on a larger scale. Why would you feel jealous? If the relationship is monogamous then the jealousy must stem from trust issues. If you have trust issues, you need to deal with them immediately and head-on or the relationship is bound to fail anyway. Not taking action or just letting jealousy fester only makes things worse, and makes you the guilty party. If the relationship is open, you have no reason to be jealous. Otherwise you are being dishonest to yourself and to your partner. In fact jealousy is always a symptom of another problem, not the problem itself. If your partner is cheating on you (whatever that may entail from your relationship setup) then you have a right to be jealous, but once again, it isn't the problem. The problem is the cheating, or that your relationship is built on ridiculous standards. Either way, you deal with the root problem, and realize that sometimes honesty hurts. Jealousy isn't hard to figure out how to deal with, but it can be painful.

Definitely, jealousy is a very powerful tool. It can ruin one's thoughts and deter actions. It can also ruin a relationship if not controlled. I once broke up with my gf before because of her over jealousy.

When I get jealous, I:
1. Keep silent all the time.
2. Disinterest in the things around me, no matter how much fun they are.
3. When I get jealous because my gf is talking to her ex,I say, " Let's go" even if it is not yet over or we need to go to other places yet.


Sounds pussy but hey, that's me....

Thanks bill - jealousy has ruined most of my relationships. Ugh.