Bringing up the topic of sex

I've seen on this forum where people say "use the topic of sex" to increase arousal of sexual interest. I believe it works, I know it works for me because a girl has done it to me.

But, if a girl is rather conservative and I wanted to bring this topic up and try to push things through, what can I do to remove the negative connotations and increase my attraction?

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I don't really know about conservative girls (I steer clear of them) but if I do want to find if a girl is game, and how game she is, I just ask opinion questions. Sometimes I ask her not to be offended but does she like it with the lights on or off, if she spits or swallows, etc. A girl seldom goes into details of what she likes sexually with a guy unless she hasn't or cannot consider engaging in the same with him.

Talking about sex is always difficult with a girl who is more conservative. However, you have to read the girl. A couple days ago i got a girl to tell me nearly every place she's had sex, what's her favorite position, what she likes and doesn't like in bed and how many times she masturbates. With this girl i was direct but i did it through a method called the "Question Game".

The "Question Game"

MO: To get the girl to tell you things about herself while she learns about you at the same time.

Rules: The questions you ask must reveal something about a person. Eg. You cannot ask "what did you eat for breakfast today". Second, you cannot ask the same question back at a person. Eg. If i asked "When was your last BF?" she cannot ask "When was your last GF"

Note* This is a little tidbit for us to laugh at. Never did i say in the rules that you couldn't lie. That means you can sugar coat the truth a little if she asks you something. NEVER TELL HER THAT SHE CAN LIE! If she's on the ball she'll figure it out. But most girls will divulge their intimate secrets pretty easily.

Now, how does this game lead to the topic of sex. First begin with underlying sexual questions. These can be like "when was ur last kiss" "When was ur last bf" "How many relationships have you been in" These light questions can go on for a bit and you can judge how ur girl is reacting. The second stage is more prominant sexual quesitons or acts but still going easy with the detail. "When was the last time you made out" "Have you ever been really attracted to one of your teachers/friends/neighbours etc..." "When is the last time you had sex" etc... Then, again watching her comfort level, move into more sexual questions with detail. "How many times do you masturbate" "are you horny alot" "have you had sex in public". You can even get into really really intimate subjects if the girl is comfotable. "Whats your weirdest fantasy" "Have you ever had sex without a condom" etc...

This is a good way for both you and her to talk about sex. And you are in control to comfortably lead the questions where you like. If you are talking about sex questions, so should she. Note* if you are, and she isn't, slow it down a bit, you're making her uncomfortable. Then you can scale back ur questions another notch. Never let the game go too far too fast, or go away from creating sexual tension. If you start talking about favorite movies. End the game. If she starts asking you really personal stuff fast, end the game. Tell her you can't talk about that stuff this early in the game (creates attraction) or move to Kino and Close.

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I've met a couple of girls who are very open with regards to sex. They freely speak their minds about it and provide more information on what they like and don't like. On the other hand, some girls are not comfortable about it. So bringing up sex in the conversation needs to be in a tactful manner.

Some girls are not comfortable talking or opening up about sex because of the norm that they grew up from. Although, some girls are very much open to it, some would prefer talking other interesting things than sex. They want more intellectual and informative conversation.

So far, I don't have any problems in opening up the sex topic. All the girls that I hang out with are very open minded about the issue. Hence, there are no clashing of thoughts about it. And sometimes, we get to discover our sexual thoughts on each other!

Find a 2 set of women at a club, this is more of my personal stash of favorites, make it hot playful chics, you can tell who they are, and open with "Are you guys lesbians?". Watch as they start cuddling and rubbing on each other, they will farking love it.

You can open that hot girl with "Do you floss or brush" or whatever, and discuss dentistry, I have them grabbing each others tits in 2 seconds, and because they went from just talking to crazy psyched up sexual energy nearly instantly when I approached, then they know that I GIVE THEM THAT FEELING.

No using these in South Texas or North-West Germany, those are my only rules. Have fun tonight.

I once had an experience when I was with these two girls hanging out in a club. We got a couple of drinks and talked a lot of things. I introduced sex in out topic in a casual and not in a pervert way. I was surprised when Girl A was suddenly upset but Girl B was just going with the flow. How can I avoid this to happen?

Give me the details bro. We are going to get you talking about blow jobs and rimming in no time...

Well Girl A walked out on us and Girl B and I were left on the table. After some flirting with her. I noticed that she is flirting back too. After we grabbed our last drink, we decided to go out and take some fresh air. During the time with her, I was still wondering why Girl A was upset. But Girl B keeps the nigh interesting so I forgot about Girl B. We continued talking about sex when we got inside the car. That time I was horny and I can feel she is horny too! (LOL!) She put her hand in my lap and stroke her hand towards my groin. A sudden rush of adrenaline came into my nerves and the game is on! She gave me a BJ and it was awesome. She asked for my number and said it was great hanging out with me and she wants to do it next time...

Way to go man!! Damn you nailed that one. You are one lucky guy. Give us some updates on how your game with the two chicks is doing. I wonder if Girl A will go back to you?

Those that were on the teleconference last night learned the top way to initiate a sexual conversation with women. This is the ONE technique that myself and top PUAs like Nick Sparks use on nearly every date we go on. It is absolutely the single best way to initiate a sexual vibe and get into some sexual conversation with women.

Think about it, if you are close to her and talking intimately about sex and asking questions, she will naturally start thinking about what sex is like with you.

This is the one technique that seems to work every time.

Like I said, it is so good I use it nearly every time I am trying to escalate from comfort to seduction.

Don't miss the next teleseminar.

One strategy my friend told me about that I have been practicing and is similar to what Bill is saying is this:

"If you keep doing /don't do something, I will do this or that." (Is there a name for this strategy?)

Examples.
"Know what, if you don't stop smiling like that, then I'll kiss you."
"If I win this round, you're going home with me!"
"If you don't start dancing, then we're going to start making out."

First of all, if she hasn't thought about getting physical with you, you've now given her the idea to toy over. And if she
has, then it would still look like you initiated it and that she's not going to come across as overeager. Just observe her
responses and see if her signals are congruent with what she's saying. She could not be giving you an outright NO anyway (she could be giggling, saying, "You're bad!" or "Oh yeah?" instead). And you just might be able to get a bathroom quickie
without sweating the small talk.

And if, say she said NO and got all stiff and moody, then you can cut short the time you're spending with her.

How was your game with Girl A doing? What would you do if she will call you back after farking at you in you latest hang out together?

As lame as it may sound, sometimes, I just resort to silence. Girls often go, "what are you thinking?' or 'what's on your mind?' and I just say, "I'm just wondering how soft your lips are" or "Nothing much. Just wondering if you moan when you're kissed."

When there isn't any outright resistance or violent objection... I just follow up with, "May I?" and kiss her. After that, I know the topic of sex has been brought up and is only a matter of when (provided we keep seeing each other).

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Hmm.. I like this advice. It can help me ease into the kiss close! Thank you solomon

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Maybe when the topic of movies or songs come up, you can use the sex material in those to steer them into a frame of mind where they're open to sex.

Even if you were talking about pets or issues, you can steer the convo towards sex. You just have to make the right connections. If they say dogs, raise PETA (nudity there, and Pamela, which brings you to Tommy Lee... though probably not someone you want to be compared against). If they talk about chick flicks like Troy (yeah, it's a chick flick, because of all the hunks in that movie), then talk about Eric Bana's love scene in that other movie (Olympic athletes, preggy wife?). If they're into romantic classics, Meg Ryan still has to be beat with all that moaning she did in When Harry Met Sally (oh by the way, do they moan like her?).

I like the word "sexy" once in a while. I never said it b/c I wasn't quite comfortable with it when I was younger but it's appropriate at various times. It could be about anything, shoes, something she's wearing or something she told you about herself that you think is 'cool', but call it 'sexy' instead. Maybe casually call her a 'sex kitten' b/c of something she insinuates about herself. Pull that $hit out of thin air for any reason.

Though there are times that sex topic is not so interesting to bring up, especially when having some casual conversations with a girl or girls whom you just met. If you gain rapport then maybe you can bring it up to add a little spice.

Are men allowed to notice shoes? I don't think there's any problem commenting if an outfit is sexy or swell... but shoes? Apart from wondering aloud if their feet don't get tired of those high heels, I've just always felt that noticing shoes or bags isn't a guy thing. Surely that's what their girl friends are for?