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Old 02-04-2010, 11:39 PM
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So far, I've been gaming record breaking amounts of girls (this is in comparison to my past). I can safely say I have about 3 in my palm to run around with right now and some that I haven't even touched yet which CAN become available if I want to.

I'm starting to get the hang of this pick up (I understand the concepts of how the attraction phases go a little better) and the girls are starting to react a lot more positively towards me. However, I'm at a point where I have problems choosing which one I should target.

I know a lot of you probably would just bed the girl and move on. At this point, I still feel that I would like to commit myself into an actual relationship first before I start going around bedding every hot girl I see. It's also my desire to have a deep connection with a woman that I love.

The problem then becomes "which one is most suitable"? I'm not here to ask for your opinion, but more like how you guys would determine the value of a girl other than her looks. All the girls I'm choosing are HB8+ which I'm happy with at this point.

So I'm throwing the Mystery question back at you guys, "What makes a girl special?"


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Old 02-05-2010, 12:05 AM
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So I'm throwing the Mystery question back at you guys, "What makes a girl special?"
That's easy.

When you have full choice with women. Choice like you've never had before... when have an amazing set of options of various women to be with any night of the week... and you choose to be with just one.

Then... SHE is special.

Welcome to "The Good Life". It's nice huh?

It looks like that copy of cyc has paid off.


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Old 02-05-2010, 12:08 AM
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Alot of guys chase a girl to love them, because they can't love themselves. This is why men become so needy and girlish today. They are taught that their natural urges and desires are wrong by a super feminist world. The truth is, women don't want a man who follows those rules and men don't want to follow those rules.

The question is, do you want to find the right girl, or do you want to find a girl who makes you feel, how you should be able to make yourself feel alone?

When I help guys with this stuff, I usually make a rule: "No one-on-one relationships for the first 16 weeks." What I mean is, you need to date multiple women, learn the difference between love and sexual desire and the need for self validation. The difference is quite big, but I truly feel that modern men mistake Sexual desire and the need for self acceptance/validation for love.

Don't lie about it, date three or four women at the same time, constantly improving your ranks of the 3-4 for 16 weeks, then, you can consider taking one for a one-on-one. But don't be one of these guys that sleeps with 4 or 5 women his whole life, and ends up needy forever.

Just knowing and being confident in the fact that you have plentiful options alone is going to be priceless once you are 2-3 years in a long term relationship.

This is why your girlfriend gives you so much bullSh1t, because she knows that you aren't happy with yourself alone and that you need her to feel good enough. She knows that she can get away with it, because you aren't going anywhere, your actions will tell her this.

The more options you have, the more value you have, the more your women will respect you and herself for being with you.

While the p*ssy media would tell you that she wants a guy who gives everything away right away and needs her for his very existence, women find this unattractive. She wants you to be out of her league, and obviously. She wants to worry that she is not doing good enough, she wants to be reading 10 new ways to please her man to keep you interested, and go shopping with the goal of keeping you hot. She wants this drama, she craves drama. Without this, she has no direction in the relationship, and she will become quickly bored, or, if she also has low value, will start creating fights and arguments just to create it.

If you need her, then it has nothing to do with her, and she knows this, the relationship is all about you in your eyes. It's not healthy.

Once you get your first f-close, the timer starts, 16 weeks. Then, you can have a successful relationship, with two happy members, who don't NEED each other, they are there because they make each other better, not just good enough.

(this whole feminist thing is like a global Sh1t Test, lol, if you can pass it, it seems all the feminist go coo coo for cock-o puffs)


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Old 02-05-2010, 10:06 AM
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Alot of guys chase a girl to love them, because they can't love themselves. This is why men become so needy and girlish today. They are taught that their natural urges and desires are wrong by a super feminist world. The truth is, women don't want a man who follows those rules and men don't want to follow those rules.

The question is, do you want to find the right girl, or do you want to find a girl who makes you feel, how you should be able to make yourself feel alone?

When I help guys with this stuff, I usually make a rule: "No one-on-one relationships for the first 16 weeks." What I mean is, you need to date multiple women, learn the difference between love and sexual desire and the need for self validation. The difference is quite big, but I truly feel that modern men mistake Sexual desire and the need for self acceptance/validation for love.

Don't lie about it, date three or four women at the same time, constantly improving your ranks of the 3-4 for 16 weeks, then, you can consider taking one for a one-on-one. But don't be one of these guys that sleeps with 4 or 5 women his whole life, and ends up needy forever.

Just knowing and being confident in the fact that you have plentiful options alone is going to be priceless once you are 2-3 years in a long term relationship.

This is why your girlfriend gives you so much bullSh1t, because she knows that you aren't happy with yourself alone and that you need her to feel good enough. She knows that she can get away with it, because you aren't going anywhere, your actions will tell her this.

The more options you have, the more value you have, the more your women will respect you and herself for being with you.

While the p*ssy media would tell you that she wants a guy who gives everything away right away and needs her for his very existence, women find this unattractive. She wants you to be out of her league, and obviously. She wants to worry that she is not doing good enough, she wants to be reading 10 new ways to please her man to keep you interested, and go shopping with the goal of keeping you hot. She wants this drama, she craves drama. Without this, she has no direction in the relationship, and she will become quickly bored, or, if she also has low value, will start creating fights and arguments just to create it.

If you need her, then it has nothing to do with her, and she knows this, the relationship is all about you in your eyes. It's not healthy.

Once you get your first f-close, the timer starts, 16 weeks. Then, you can have a successful relationship, with two happy members, who don't NEED each other, they are there because they make each other better, not just good enough.

(this whole feminist thing is like a global Sh1t Test, lol, if you can pass it, it seems all the feminist go coo coo for cock-o puffs)
Alright so the point is to do the full close (F-close) and then start the timer, but.... Here's the complication.

I'm trying to juggle 3-4 girls around after I've F-closed them (assume that this all worked out), if they find out about each other and start having fights then wouldn't I be at loss?

What if they became friends instead and wanted to plot a conspiracy to screw me over?

Most of the girls at my university aren't like the girls in College where they're used to being with guys dating (f-closing) other girls.


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Old 02-05-2010, 10:45 AM
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Alright so the point is to do the full close (F-close) and then start the timer, but.... Here's the complication.

I'm trying to juggle 3-4 girls around after I've F-closed them (assume that this all worked out), if they find out about each other and start having fights then wouldn't I be at loss?

What if they became friends instead and wanted to plot a conspiracy to screw me over?

Most of the girls at my university aren't like the girls in College where they're used to being with guys dating (f-closing) other girls.
Then I guess you should just marry the first girl who lets you kiss her. Come on dude, we have spent probably hundreds of hours doing coaching over skype and e-mail, you know what I am going to say to this, and please do a me a favor and say it, in this thread, so that the rest of the people can read it.


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Old 02-05-2010, 10:53 AM
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This reminds me a strategy I learned from a bartender (long story but he was hooking up with about 7-8 girls that either worked there or visited the bar). He was managing them all pretty well until one night the perfect storm hit and THEY all showed up when he was working (for one reason or another). The only thing he could do was play it cool and be friendly to all of them.

In my situation, I actually use it to my advantage when I am dating and hooking up with other women. For whatever reason, if you are upfront about actively dating (but not throwing it a girls face by talking about other women or letting her see you with other women) than most girls are OK with it. Heck I would also encourage them to date other guys.

Girls are much more resilient than guys think.

In fact, when you are known to be dating other women, it makes you more attractive.

I think it goes back to natural selection, when women see that other women approve of a guy - it saves them having to do all the work to screen and qualify him. They just take it for granted that the 'other women' did the screening and this guy must be of high mating and replication value since he is with other women.

Make sense?


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Old 02-05-2010, 10:59 AM
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This reminds me a strategy I learned from a bartender (long story but he was hooking up with about 7-8 girls that either worked there or visited the bar). He was managing them all pretty well until one night the perfect storm hit and THEY all showed up when he was working (for one reason or another). The only thing he could do was play it cool and be friendly to all of them.

In my situation, I actually use it to my advantage when I am dating and hooking up with other women. For whatever reason, if you are upfront about actively dating (but not throwing it a girls face by talking about other women or letting her see you with other women) than most girls are OK with it. Heck I would also encourage them to date other guys.

Girls are much more resilient than guys think.

In fact, when you are known to be dating other women, it makes you more attractive.

I think it goes back to natural selection, when women see that other women approve of a guy - it saves them having to do all the work to screen and qualify him. They just take it for granted that the 'other women' did the screening and this guy must be of high mating and replication value since he is with other women.

Make sense?

I have found the EXACT same situation.

I actually use the fact that "I am not married, I want to be married someday but right now, I would be foolish to just date one woman until I am certain she is the right one for me, but I don't lie about it, I have a girl who I see as my girlfriend, but I see many women and she knows about it and even joins in often" as one of my dhv stories to get women attracted.

So many women get turned on by that, of course, now days I say "I believe a man can date many women, and a woman can date many women, but more than one male energy seems to create trouble" does separate some would be "friends" but, more often then not, the women actually agree that this is true.

If a women cant have three-somes and cant handle me being with other women, she is probably not my type.


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