Alot of guys chase a girl to love them, because they can't love themselves. This is why men become so needy and girlish today. They are taught that their natural urges and desires are wrong by a super feminist world. The truth is, women don't want a man who follows those rules and men don't want to follow those rules.
The question is, do you want to find the right girl, or do you want to find a girl who makes you feel, how you should be able to make yourself feel alone?
When I help guys with this stuff, I usually make a rule: "No one-on-one relationships for the first 16 weeks." What I mean is, you need to date multiple women, learn the difference between love and sexual desire and the need for self validation. The difference is quite big, but I truly feel that modern men mistake Sexual desire and the need for self acceptance/validation for love.
Don't lie about it, date three or four women at the same time, constantly improving your ranks of the 3-4 for 16 weeks, then, you can consider taking one for a one-on-one. But don't be one of these guys that sleeps with 4 or 5 women his whole life, and ends up needy forever.
Just knowing and being confident in the fact that you have plentiful options alone is going to be priceless once you are 2-3 years in a long term relationship.
This is why your girlfriend gives you so much bullSh1t, because she knows that you aren't happy with yourself alone and that you need her to feel good enough. She knows that she can get away with it, because you aren't going anywhere, your actions will tell her this.
The more options you have, the more value you have, the more your women will respect you and herself for being with you.
While the p*ssy media would tell you that she wants a guy who gives everything away right away and needs her for his very existence, women find this unattractive. She wants you to be out of her league, and obviously. She wants to worry that she is not doing good enough, she wants to be reading 10 new ways to please her man to keep you interested, and go shopping with the goal of keeping you hot. She wants this drama, she craves drama. Without this, she has no direction in the relationship, and she will become quickly bored, or, if she also has low value, will start creating fights and arguments just to create it.
If you need her, then it has nothing to do with her, and she knows this, the relationship is all about you in your eyes. It's not healthy.
Once you get your first f-close, the timer starts, 16 weeks. Then, you can have a successful relationship, with two happy members, who don't NEED each other, they are there because they make each other better, not just good enough.
(this whole feminist thing is like a global
Sh1t Test, lol, if you can pass it, it seems all the feminist go coo coo for cock-o puffs)