She wants to bring a friend !

No it's not what you are thinking.
I met this girl during a english course i was doing. She workes there and i was always teasing her, saying i love her, that she was amazing, the love of my life, but always laughing while i said that, like a pretentious don juan who doensn't even care more about beeing subtle when hiting on a girl. She laugh everytime, saying i was crazy. She is realy hot. I would say a HB8. I finish my course and nothing happen but the other day i was in front of the school waiting for some friends and she appear. She smile and ask what i was doing there. Again and in a playfully way i told her that i came just to see her, she laughs again and say : come on man ..!! Like stop that, Then i told her that in fact i was waiting for some friends. She said.. Now i beleive in you and smiling. We said goodbye, but she turns back and say thet we should meet for some drinks. FCK! I thought! If this isn't a sign i dont now what a sign is. Soo I told her .. ok, i'll find you on facebook and i gave her my number ... just in case.

This week i sent her a message, saying: "Hi how are you ? Ready for some beers during this week ? kiss !" And she awnser, "Helooo, good good, Maybe wednesday, how's your scheudle ? We should ask Z (girl) to come with us"

Z is a common friend.

This last setence killed me. Why the fckk she wants another girl to come with us. I dont understand this. I didn't want to fck this up! But now i have 2 options: 1) I sent her a message saying: "Hey .. i thought that when you said drinks you were talking about you and me!" or 2) i am gonna have to go to have some drinks with this other girl in the middle too and it will ruin any possible escalate interaction. If you know what i mean.


Sooo I need advice on this people !!!!
What do you think i should do now. I have to give her an answer tomorrow

Thanks guys !

Ok ... i had no help.
I just decide to tell her that i thought that when she said "drinks" she was talking about "you and me" only ! Now i'll wait for the answer. I dont care. I want sexual/romance interaction, that's why i go to have drinks with a girl, and not to make friends. Friends i already have, alot. If she plays dumb, like she dont get it i dont care either. To get a woman we got be willing to loose her! (where did i read this? I dont know!)

i really dont like the attitude of demanding answers but ill say what i believe.

i believe that you should have no put too much pressure on her and be smooth about everything. maybe she would feel more comfortable by having another girl take care of her in case she drinks too much or something. ALWAYS play the cool, smooth role in any interaction and sh1t shouldnt bother you cause you are a PUA. No matter if she brings her mom together for drinks you have to be cool and colected and you have to work you game smoothly.

so what you sent was not the message i would have send. she doesnt want it to feel like a date, maybe the other girls wants you, or simply what i believe is that she feels more comfortable having another girl there for drinks. thats even better you have more options, just dont drink too much and things should go well, in fact, drink as little as you can.

Are you in a hurry or something? You badly want to escalate it, and you will look desperate because of it.

I do the same with women but in reverse. I like this girl I know, but I'm not so sure I'll go all the way. She'll have to prove herself. So, I go to a concert with a friend and then invite her as well. If she's cool with it and she'll enjoy herself while I divide my attention -- good. If not, then bye bye beautiful.

Well, first of all i would like to thanks to prjav and Bart Doe for your precious advice.
Second appologize if i gave the impression of "demand" something. It was never my intention. Probably that happened because i thought that this forum was alot more active, or even, because english is not my original language which can lead to some misconceptions.

I definitely agree with the smootheness and coolness in dealing with girls has a great part of "game", and also that trying to rush things can show some neddyness. However not show sexual / romantic interest can lead to "move to friends list" in her mind which is something i avoid.

I think that part of my game involves playing with possible sex and romance in a funny, playfull, light way. Maybe that's why my game is more direct, even so learning to be more patience can give more, better and durable results.

This setence from prjav "ALWAYS play the cool, smooth role in any interaction and Sh1t shouldnt bother you cause you are a PUA" hit me like a ton of bricks. I never consider my self as a PUA, to have that sense even for a few seconds, to truly realize that even for a brief moment is a great shift of perception towards woman's playground.

It's not that i consider myself one, i dont, in the sense that 95 % of my game is based in natural instinct rather then theoretical strategy. But i want to learn. I've always been a "one she is" kinda guy, And i want to be a "alot they are". So every advice is very welcome.

Back to the situation:

I actually follow your advice. After sending the message saying " I thought that when you said drinks it was you and me only..." And wait one day without answer, i sent another message saying. " loooool off course you can invite (Z) you want me to call her, kiss" Trying to show that i was kiding and confortable with it.

But, this girl knows alot (i think)

So, after this message she send me one saying:" hahahahaha, you're cute! We can go solo, i finish at 6:00, meets ?"

It's like she's the one playing and i dont know if i like this feeling, or maybe she felt more comfortable after the message saying that i was ok with the other girl joining us.

So after this i got back to my sexual / romantic agressive playfull style hahahaha and i sent her this message:

"girl, you must love to dance ... what a sudden move
I can pick u up at that time OR do you need to go home and take a shower first? I can help you with that too hehehe
5.30 is ok for me"

And she answer:

"hahaha.
you're such a typical, cheeky (nationality) dude.
I'll just wing it from work - i live to far for showers and Sh1t.
so 530?
i can't have a late one - so much on my plate at the moment, and i'm going back home for the weekend"

So tomorow i have the girl sharing a beer with me and that's the most important so far.

Any advice / critiques are welcome.

Well, i just wanna say how everything went on, or try too.

I pick her up at the time scheudle, we said hi, kiss, and she ask me where we where going. I ask her if she wants to go to some place she likes, she said that she had nothing in her mind, so i quickly made a suggestion, giving the impression that i know what i want and that i am not indecise. We went to the place, i bought my beers she bought theirs, the way it has to be, to show that i dont need to pay anything for get her apreciation, we went to seat down, she told me that it seems that i had gone to that pub many times before, like with other girls ( wich is true ) but i said noo, i only went there 2 or 3 times with friends.

We seat and start talking, i wanted her to talk more about her self them me, first because everypersons favourite subject his themselfs and then because if i talk to much about me it gives the impression that i am trying hard to impress, which is a turn off, but it was the other way around, she kept realy focus on me, and start asking me questions, like in an analise kind way, i try to remain cool and smooth, i told her about me but made sure that somethings were kept under the blanket, mistery is always something that girls want to solve and want to go after, telling her something, but not everything, and with subtleness giving her dhv, it's funny to see, how much of technique is starting to be applied in my relations / dates, what ever.

We talk for hours, man, i've never talk to a girl soo long, i pick her up at 5:30 pm we finish at 1:30 am

In the middle of the that, i told her we were going to play a game, the questions game, which i read somewhere i dont remenber, i told her that it was just to know us better. I would ask her a question and she would question me back but never with the same question, this is good to build rapport, it's funny, and the topics can go everywhere turning the conversation more rich and playfull. We end up talking 2 hours in just 3 questions each.

She told me that she heard that i was like d.juan, that i want all the girls, i told her that information was not totally acurated. I explain to her that when i realy
like a girl i commite myself and i am faithfull, but when i am not with someone i am free, and i try to have has many girls has i want, i actualy told her that i have 3 more dated that week, looool she was admired with my sincerity, laughing but with a face like i dont beleive how this guy can be so straight, i think i gave her the impression that i dont need her. I dont know if it was a good move or not. After that told her that now i want a kiss, but laughing at the same time. Off course, she said, "you think that i am going to kiss a guy that have 3 more dates this week" I anwser . Yes ! I ask her do you think this is bad ? She told me that for the kiss it was but for the future it could be a good thing, because i admire sincerity and u seem very confident of your self." Nailed !


the kiss. When she was coming with 2 beers, i told her " you dont know how s3xy u look with that beers in your hands" she laughs and say : it seems that you always know what to say, that you do this for a long time" lool
She seat donw, and i made a gesture like telling her to seat near me, ( all the date she was in front of me), i was in a couch, she came , we keep talking, than it was my time to get more beers, and when i came, i gave her beer put mine on the table, took on e of her hands, like she was helping me to seat, and in a fraction of second, i put my other hand on her side face, near the ear, she look up, i smile, we kiss. And what a kiss ! After hour and hours of teasing we enter the enemy territory !! looool

I had alot of fun. This girl seems the romantic type, she will play hard to get, for sure, but she kept me realy interested, she is older then me, 31, i am 28. But i promise myself, never more "one she is" ...


Any ideas for next dates, critiques, comments, feel free, be welcome. I learn alot with you guys, realy, you are my PUA family, i need you, and i will help in everything you need. Togheter we are unbeatable !

seems like you are doing very good by yourself. congrats!!!

i would suggest that you take her outdoors maybe. like find a beautiful place and take her there, the beach is absolutely amazing for opening up these girls. you get to play in the water, see her with little clothes and you can get her going in the sunset and fooling around in a public place is amazing.

Thanks prjav, that's definitly a great idea, some open air place could do wonders i think. I am gonna research. I want to go with this girl to the last level, that would be amazing. Even if she told me that she doesnt have one night stands. I think it's the kind a girl that needs to get evolved in a more deep level, but we never know, this is not going to be easy. But it's definitly a challenge and someone with who i can practice my seductive skills. Maybe that will be my frame. Beleive me i made your advice my frame, smootheness and coolness as the driver thought of all my behaviour.