Sex with an Older Woman

This might be off-topic but I couldn't find a better place to post this.

I'm 20 and she is in her 30's. I met her through Facebook. (Don't worry about her being a fake, I have proved that she is not.) We messaged back and forth and I told her I visit her city for a month once a year and asked her any good places she might know. She said "We can see some new places together and I can learn at the same time!", suggesting we meet when I arrive there.

Then she asks what my expectations are. I reply to her that I am not looking for a long term thing and I would like to have some "fun" and excitement with NSA. Here is her reply:

From her message, I can see that her intentions are purely friendly. However, I always beleive that actions speak louder than words. I take her words for granted but I also realize that she is leaving an open door by still welcoming me, knowing my intentions and expectations. Maybe she has never thought about it but I might have planted the seeds in her mind, making her think about it until she sees me and also after she meets me in person. I am still willing to give it a try.

I would like to take your opinions on how to proceed and help me lead things to bed.

noooo dude, you gotta fly under the radar take over when shes not expecting and without her noticing. just try to be smooth, being so upfront using the internet as a gateway is not very smart. like she said, those things are said face to face.

agree with prjav
she has to protect herself from apearing like a slut to others' eyes

I third that, though I dont think you've blown it, and she does sound open, best said face to face!!! So now to cover your tracks, no more mention of the last emails! and when you reply, delete them from the string to its a new thread and she don't see you're replying hot off of those ones. Look up some sites and attractions i nthe area on the net and send a couple links to her about fun things to do or see, ask if she's been to any of them, how far they are and if thats something she'd like to do ro could show you were they are, etc. also to cut some of the Tension.. which admittedly doesn't sound liek she took it too hard, you might ask her what her friends are liek and if they'd enjoy doing any of those things. You're going to be there a month you should have plenty of time for alone time, but including her friends and looking like you want to have fun outside of the BR might really help your hand right now... I wouldn't even sexual innuendo, or flirt too much over email after this warning.. nothing you you can do over the net..unless she's initiating it, might be best waited till you meet her, it does seem like she's leavign the door open.

Also seems like english may be her second language, and if over the internet isn't hard enough to misunderstand meaning, she's basically translating two languages and then back again to you.. so better safe than sorry.

i got an older woman i found online who is a lingerie designer. we have been chatting and she is real cougar stuff. she tells me when to go to sleep and is totally comfortable with her power. i find it attractive. we are talking alot about men and women and the differences and she seems encouraging... there is something about beautiful more experienced women

I wish my woman was open as yours. Is she open to sex or does she bring up the topic?

nah, and its on the slow burn. i haven't met her as she lives in another state... i got told off this morning for talking sex with another girl i date as bugger all is happening. she liked my GM style stuff and this morning she told me to lay off it as it was getting repetative. not getting sex from some girls gets bloody repetative so i decided to reshuffle a few priorities where a few of the girls are concerned.

i regularly have to clean out the cobwebs and when i stack up the pros and cons it is often the older women or the sex workers who have a lot more going for them in the bonuses column. for me anyway.

sexy older women seem to hard to come by lately. i got another one who is in the same scene and goes to some of the same clubs and i am yet to meet her in the flesh yet. she loves my foul talk and says her ex was a poof. when they are in their forties they appreciate cock and aren't ashamed of the most beautiful thing in this life.

something about older experienced women. i was with once once though and she talked of her ex being a biker and i was ok but when she said her 21 year old son had just got out of jail and was out for the night i shat myself... i dont want to get caught in the sack with someone's mum even if it ain't his business

Any other advice on what to do when I meet her?

Coyote did you say "sex workers"? I dunno if that includes strippers or is just strippers which in the US are "dancers" or "entertainers" but sexworkers are generally escorts aka prostitutes...? could you clarify a little?

a sex worker is anyone in the industry. that is from strippers to escorts and prostitutes to street walkers.... anyone in the game