new gf... problems arising

Hey all, so I'm a junior in college, and up until recently I've had 1 gf who I had sex with a bit and 2 there were two other very short flings I was lucky enough to have, probably 2 7's and a 6. The last fling was actually exactly 1 year ago yesterday. So I was going on about a year without having any sex and just getting some drunk make outs... which are nice but come on.

So I just moved back to my college town, and through a friend I meet a girl, she's a 8 on a good day n she was lookin good this night. We hit it off and I actually have my first One Night Stand, and I just wacked it before I left so I was ballin that night. Anyway, I like this girl and I had just gotten braces (kinda self conscious getting them at this late age) so I ask her out before classes start. By her response I know she likes me a lot and we're now bf n gf.

Anyway, this summer I had been reading up on a lot of PUA material, and "just for fun" when classes started I decided to do a lil cocky funny ya hur? Well I've been gettin' a lot of IOIs from 7's, sometimes 8's, and this one 9. My god. She smiled and made eye contact. Haha anyway, has anyone ever been in the position where they have a gf that they want to make more casual again so they can try to lay pipe elsewhere? Or am I just trying to have my cake and eat it too in this situation? I feel like if I break up with this girl now I may not have sex for a while again, and its nice n I'm not tryna do that EVER AGAIN

its what u want, if u want a gf for this time stay faithful. if u want to be single and chase tail go for it. its all up to how you want to live your life but make sure if u drop ur gf, make sure u wont regret it!

An obvious factor is that your now regaining confidence through this gf, and confidence shows, girls pick up on that and dig it.

It might be a smart decision to dip one foot into the water with the gf (seeing eachother) while keeping some options open and if you like the water then go with it, if not get out.

--Paramount--

I think the biggest factor here is that he Does Not have the confidence. Im not trying to slam on you here but some tough love needs to be said.

“I feel like if I break up with this girl now I may not have sex for a while again, and its nice n I'm not tryna do that EVER AGAIN”

This statement is totally AFC. Reason being is that you lack the confidence to know that you can go out and find something new. This is going to create neediness, and jealousy inside your relationship. So what’s going to happen is you re going to latch onto this girl, even when she starts to aggravate the crap out of you because she puts out to you. All because you don’t know when the next time you are going to get some is… come on dude man up. PU is about confidence, knowing that you can go out there met and interact with women. Choose the women you want to be with, and maintain a high value.

Now if you asking if you should cheat on this chick cause you are getting ioi’s from other… well that’s left up to you. I value set tells me no, but yours might be different. If you are wanting to take it back a few steps and make it more casual, just tell her. Honesty works, just convey it correctly and youll be ok.


Sorry for the tough love dude, but I really think it needs to be said. If you need help trying to figure out exactly how to do what you want to do hit me up. Ill be more than happy to help you.

Great advice Tcomea ... We need people to put it all out there like that.

I would say probably drop the chick. Just the fact you are thinking of being unfaithful means that deep down you want other options. Like Tcomea said, she is giving you false confidence and it sounds like you could really progress on your own with out the crutch of a chick.

eh its all a moot point she dumped me today cause i get high lol, my ego is a little bruised but i number closed a HB 8.5 that i recognized from english last year today, we'll see what tomorrow brings

sounds like a quality value problem you might want to fix.