denying a girl that wants sex

Fellas, Fellas.

I know what you're thinking and no I don't swing the other way. Just looking for some advice on how to recover from denying a girl sex, which come to find out from her own mouth the next day she really wanted.

I'll try and keep this short and to the point.

So this true 9 and I met at work about 3 months ago after she transferred into my job from another location. Co-worker of mine took it upon herself to make sure we met and I got her number.

We'd text back and forth several times a week and flirt at work. But it really never amounted to anything, especially since we flaked out on each other a few times. After that I really didn't try to game her up, and then yesterday happened.

Text convo:

her: clocked out to go home yet?
me: Ya. I'm finally off. woop woop!
her: cool cool. what you doing later?
me: food, video games, and then hw. how bout you?
her: hw right now. sit ups, facial and a shower. followed by hours of lotion and moisturizer. join me?
me: i duno how much of that you'd actually get done if I was there. but i'm down.
her: haha. we can do our facials together and read to each other while we do situps and then a hotass shower.
me: duno bout the facials part but everything else sounds good, including the hotass shower.
her: only if we can lotion each other up after
me: oh there's plenty we can do after
her: hmm...like what
me: start off with a nice back rub. use my strong hands to relieve some Tension n work my way around.
her: that sounds awesome tell me more
me: naw i'll just show you next time
her: when's next time? i'd rather know now?
me: you'll know when it happens. it'll be a suprise.
her: i feel attracted to you differently now...weird
me: it'll be worth the wait muahaha
her: what am i gonna do with you? wish i could fast forward time and know the worth sooner.
me: well it was sweet of you to invite me to your hot ass shower. so sweet, if i ran out of jolly ranchers i would suck on you.
her: you like jolly ranchers?
me: with a passion
her: fantastic...so you going to bed soon or u down for a mission?
me: depends if you're part of it
her: oh yes babe. i say we sneak out and enjoy a midnight snack.

Needless to say, I picked her up, we started talking and then things got hot and heavy in the backseat. Now, crown me as the world's biggest dumbass but I wasn't sure how far this chic was willing to go. Mind you looking back, she was dropping the biggest hints EVER. Unzipping my sweater, tugging up at my shirt, taking off her short shorts and showing me her lingerie. Not wanting to seem easy to her, I sat there like an Amish prick named Jebediah Smith and didn't give up any real estate. We exchanged hickies and nothing more.

The next day we get to talking and she tells me she's frustrated because she really wanted me inside her. I couldn't believe it. Then she said it was ok because we're coworkers and it'd be weird for her to work with someone she'd slept with and that she wanted to wait till she had a ring on her finger but not really. I was like wtf...

So my question is...can I rebound from this?

AFC SOLUTION in terms of the One-itis

About year ago i had a situation that was kinda like this. But instead of a collegue she was in my class and we were in love. I even slept next to her once and gave her massages and sh1t, we admitted our feelings for each other that night because i was to uncertain of my situation that i could not stand the shyness and games anymore. Thats what screwed everything up, i listenend to my care(full) emotions for her and i did not used my mind or instincts. I was all farked up by this love.
Anyway, not long after that night that i slept at her house, i slept with her another night. We did not had sex, i just kissed her. I kissed her for like 4 farking hours in that bed and i didnt touch anything else than her neck, her stomach and hips. As i was doing this speechless and all farked up in my head she spoke the words: "...you are so carefull..." HOLY farkIN sh1t
I felt like my heart stopped when she said that. Like if i was in a final state of denial while she was right. She asked WHY?
What was i supposed to say? I brabbled something like being scared of her rejection which farked up all of her beautiful images of me. In a few seconds of brabbeling I REJECTED HER and smashed her happy feelings of being freed of her lonelyness. I would have gave her an 8 for looks, her shape was what attracted me most, next to her heavy talk and intelligence. And i just threw it up in that bed. i admitted that i was scared of rejection,, litterly.

The following 6 months were filled with attemps to get her love back but she was not attracted to me anymore and it even worsened at the point were i was trying to break into her mind with corny speeches and sh1t. She even gave me some more chances after a few months, but i was acting like an infant.

I tried to analyse everything, to build perfect rejectionproof lines, but i was afraid to use them because i was paralysed by a mixed up feeling of needishness, love and shame. Although im sure some of the lines i came up with would have done some good and seen the fact your not in this 1ITIS situation like a was, ill share them with you.

It could be that i forgot the exact order but these were the jokey lines i came up with, to scared to use them, and ended up with her giving me second chances that i after all was to scared to follow.

(now i take a look in my notebook i see its filled with drawings of her name!!!!)

I asked her if she wanted a leanback confersation. She agreed. We sat down and i started talking after looking her in the eye in a loverable but serious way for like six seconds and said: "You now i am really attracted to you, i'd love to do pleasurable things to you and i'd like to be with you forever but there is this little argument going on inside me...ahhum... IM GAY...( look her in the eye in a seductive or kinda horny way) this girl understood the joke but said: "Well i am not suprised by that."
(i took that as an insult but ignored it, after all it was my way to Get Her Back) I said: "Yeah that's why we fit each other, but you are not supposed to say that since i dont want you to feel alone because i dont know how, but i feel some sort of a responsibility towards you. (she took that as an insult or whateverdefark cause she is a individual person and sh1t)

there were some more words after that but i forgot. It might sound strange but it kinda worked cause after this conversation she laughed to me again and (at the ultimate end of the schoolyear) she invited me to her house again saying she wanted to have a pleasing goodbye. At that time i was so isolated in my farkedupness and lonelyness that i felt i had to turn her down but i kissed her anyway (was not able to do that for six months of shame and sh1t and the last day it didnt matter to me)


thats almost my lifestoryi told you and i hope its not to late. If you already found some other way, please post it, although i figured you were more succesfull than me.
It this time i am recovering of a very depressing time and im after this woman who must be fifteen years older than me. I dont give a fark anymore cause i need to disisolate myself. Im new here and i waited a full year of emotional and social failure and loss. I dont know what i learned yet, but i feel like never rejecting a girl again. Im sure you know it
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WOWWWWWWWWW!!!! that is really all i can say. first u start with the sexting and she is already dropping hints that she wants you balls deep inside of her. and then she is doing all that. i am disappointed in you sir. ok well yes you can come back. i mean its going to be hard cause u basically rejected her. but im sure we can come back. the whole coworkers thing is something to say so she doesnt seem so rejected. you can come back.

here is the game plan. get her to text like that again. get her curiosity going about having you. then go hang out again but this time works tons of keno, be sexual and then close when its time to. this time get her in the back seat, fog up the windows and work that ass son!!!! i want her to have trouble walking the next day!!!..

but yes u do have a chance just dont drop the ball this time sir!

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everytime i hear i story like this from one of my friends i slap their faces like a farking addict pimp would smack a lazy bitch.

what the fark is wrong with you? that was like the farking easiest target ever. I hate it when guys dont know when to pull the trigger and they get scared and pissy and miss opportunities like this. I hope she hates your guts, maybe next time you will grow the balls to go for it. Its not hard to escalate, just get to the next step, keep going until she gives you resistance then blew that sh1t out of the water too and continue. sigh...

I had a huge story typed earlier and accidently unplugged my computer before I got it posted.

lemmek92, not only can you recover from this with this woman, but you can use it to your (and her) advantage.

Don't do anything stupid between now and the time I get this story re-typed. It will be done sometime tomorrow.

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Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

A little over two years ago, I met a young woman on a traffic stop. I wrote her a ticket. Later, I found out her and I shared a mutual friend.

Fast forward about a year, on a Tuesday morning, and I receive a FB add from this woman. I saw she was online so I added her as a "friend" and sent her a chat message that I didn't know her and it was weird she added me as a friend.

We chatted back and forth for a bit. Toward the end of the conversation, I told her I was going to bed and she could join me, if she wanted. She said she had to work until 5:30, but she might stop by after that. Okay, but I am going to sleep.

I went to bed and immediately started receiving text messages. She had found my phone number on FB and took it upon herself to give me hers. I told her to leave me alone unless she was on her way over.

Around 5:30, I got a text she was off work. Around 5:45, she was at my house.

I sleep naked. I got up and went to the front door. I opened the door and walked back to my room. I told her to be quiet. She followed. I told her which side of the bed was hers and that I was tired and was going back to sleep.

She wouldn't leave me alone. I kept pushing her away. She wanted to talk and cuddle and....Just leave me alone. "I don't go to your house at 4:00 in the morning and bug you."

Eventually, I gave in a bit. I put a pillow between us and started talking to her. She told me she was moving on Monday. Perfect! She also told me her last day of work was the next day and she had nothing going after that on Wednesday, but she was busy with farewell parties from Thursday until she left. Perfect!

We talked for a bit before I started getting her entire sexual history. It's one of the things I like to get from women. She told me how she masturbated with a vibrator and how she really hadn't done anything "kinky".

Eventually, she asked about me. I told her about tying woman to my bed, using toys on them, and other fun things. She didn't believe me, so I got out of bed and went to her side of the bed. I lifted a leather cuff that was tied to the corner of my bed and put it in her hand. Then, I went back to my side of the bed.

The more wee talked about sex, the more horny she got. She started trying harder to cuddle with me and kiss me. I kept her away. She started taking her clothes off. I got up and grabbed her a pair of shorts and a t-shirt. She put them on, unhappily. She tried to goad me into doing something with her by saying that a guy as "experienced" as me wouldn't be timid or afraid of being with her. I told her to leave if she wasn't comfortable.

This went on for several hours. I touched her as little as possible.

Around 11:30, I got up and turned on the light. I told her I had to start work soon and she had to leave. I started picking up her stuff and told her she could change quickly or return the clothes later, by the mutual friend, if necessary. She tried to give me a BJ. (I was standing there naked). I stopped her and told her to get out of my house. She begrudgingly changed in the bathroom and came out offering to give me a BJ or whatever else I wanted and I didn't even have to do anything for her. I told her to leave, she was wasting my time and I wanted to jack off before I had to go to work.

I physically assisted her out of my house while she tried to talk me into a BJ.

I went to work and my phone got flooded by texts from the woman and the mutual friend. I told them I didn't want any more texts that night, but the woman could come over again after work, if she wanted. I made it clear I wasn't promising anything and that she better let me sleep if I was tired.

The next morning, I got a "Good morning" text from the woman. I ignored it.

I went to bed around noon. At around 5:30, I got a text, "Just got off work, on my way". At around 5:40, I got another few indicating she was at my house. I heard the doorbell ring when she called again. I answered and she said she was there.

Repeat me getting up naked to open the door and going back to my room.

She came in and I told her I wanted to sleep until 6:30. I told her not to touch me or talk to me. She started to complain and I told her to shut up, or leave.

She laid as still as a corpse. Around 6:20, I told her to take her clothes off. She told me I wasn't very romantic and she thought a guy as good with women as I claimed to be would be much smoother. I said, "then leave". I asked her where her vibrator was and she said she didn't bring it.

She started taking her clothes off. I turned the light on in the bathroom and pulled the door close to shut. Just enough light to see what I was doing. I went over and picked up a leather restraint. When she was naked, I put it on her wrist and walked to the other side of the bed. I pulled her wrist tighter and she tried to pull away. "Do you want to do this, or not?" She gave me her wrist. I then secured each of her ankles on the other corners of my bed.

Then, I turned on the light. She was not happy about that, so I put a blindfold on her.

I again asked her where her vibrator was. She again told me she didn't bring it. "Yes, you did." "It's in my purse." It was.

A few hours later, she was going home and I was going to work, again.

Why did what I do work? The first night, I made the Sexual Tension between us so high, she didn't know how to handle it. What would almost every other guy have done? Had basic sex with her at the first opportunity. It was the normal she wanted, to the point that she was willing to give me an unreciprocated sexual gesture. Anything to feel like she was in control of what was going on; to feel comfortable with the familiar.

After a night of wondering what happened, she couldn't wait to see me again. I had her mind so screwed up she had to have sex with me for her sake. When I allowed her to have sex with me, I took her to new areas of sexual awareness. I wouldn't have been able to accomplish this as thoroughly if I had jumped her ASAP.

To the OP:
Get this woman out again and take charge. Go through my posts on this site thus far, there aren't many of them. You will find one explaining a good way to lay a woman*. Follow that. Make her appreciate you making her wait. You're different, that's good. The hardest part will be selling the illusion you were in control the first time. Taking charge and rocking her world will eclipse her prior memory of what happened the first time. You want her to have doubt in her own memory. If you look like a chump, at all, you will verify it to her beyond a level that is likely recoverable.

*Here you go, post #7
http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-art...riendzone.html

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haha wow i couldnt help but think of a complete asshole badboy during this story. you never mixed words and built such solid Sexual Tension and attraction that it didnt matter what you said cause she wanted it. then since she hasnt done much, taking her thru a new experience probably made you look like a god there and she will more than likely want more sex from you if she ever sees you again. haha good job

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She's pregnant and engaged, now.

Thanks!

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Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.

or not! thats an option too lol

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