it's been a month. still not a kiss.

I met the girl at the beginning of the semester and we became good friends but i don't think i'm in the friend zone yet, what i mean is, we hang out but it's clear that im attracted to her and she has told me she likes hanging out with me and that im different. in other words, she knows im looking for more than friends.
now let me add that this is the girl that i like and would like to date because she got it all.

she told me she broke up with her ex around summer because he moved and long distance didnt work out and she said that she hopes we are on the same page, which means to me, "dont try to get serious, i still got feeling to my ex"

yesterday my buddy and his gf, me and this girl went on a double date. she loved my buddy and his gf so that bonus points to me that i have good type of friends. we went bowling after a few pitchers and one time i striked and she gave me a hi5 and i kissed her on the lips. she said "Watch it" and i knew i farked up big time. then we walked home and i said im sorry for doing so that it was inappropriate and i added "but its just cuz im farkin attracted to you what can i say" and she said "yeah i didnt expect that but thats okay dont worry about it".
we were waiting for the skytrain and went our eys locked i told her some good stuff about her and she said "Stop you make me fluttered" and touched my knee, ioi? well i took it as one.
anyways, i got every possible ioi, she agrees to go on dates and we have fun. no awkward moments at all... i cant think of any at least. some of her friends liked me and said im a cool guy so her friend probably support everything. why cant i even get a little tiny kiss?

wait but u said u kissed her. the language on this post is a little wierd. try revising it so i am not confused on what im reading and then i can help you out!

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when we played balling, my buddy gave me an advice, he said when she strikes (knocks off all the bowling things) give her a kiss on the cheek. Instead, i stricked, and she was happy (she was my partner against my buddy and his gf) so she raised her hands to give me hi5 and instead i leaned in and gave her a kiss on the lips; a quick one. she quietly said "watch it", she said it because she told me before she isnt ready when i tried to give her a goodbye kiss (happened twice). my buddy saw it and told me when she wasnt around that i shouldnt have done that and i agreed it was stupid. but as i said, im too damn attracted to her and received so many ioi's, and its been about a month now that we go out like this. i mean, is she just not into me or is she still testing to see if im a player? im sure i passed that point.. she knows a lot about me and im sure she knows i want her, i dont show that i want her so she doesnt think thats im here's and she can do whatever now, just throwing an ioi when i receive one here and there, trying not to be needy.

Control your attraction. Here's an exercise: Do not fantasize about a real girl in any way for 2 weeks or longer. You will gain a ton of strength if you can master lust. If you don't master your lust, your lust will master you, and it will really hurt your chances with women.

That said, you shouldn't have apologized. You seem to be AFC'ing yourself away from her. You can't get a kiss because you have not built enough Sexual Tension. All the sexual Tension is in your own head, not enough is in hers.

I'm going to say that she feels guilty because of her x but obviously wants you or you would have received a very different reaction from her.

I haven't found a full proof method of dealing with girls who have boyfriends or have any attachment that makes them feel guilty, but one thing that doesn't work is talking to her about it. The one thing that has partially worked for me is just to act like this boyfriend, or other attachment, doesn't exist at all. I'm not saying try and seduce her and pretend he doesn't exist, I mean don't bring him up, ever.

Lastly, I hope you only apologized once, AFCs apologize too much, PUAs apologize once and then don't bring it up (thank crob for this one).

yep i only said this: "yeah sorry for that kiss, it was really in appropriate. but im farking attracted to you what can i say?!" and i did this with a smile and arms extended wide open playfully you know.. she smiled.

my plan is to take her for a few hours to chill after her exams are done, which she should be in a good mood, and tell her some sh1t that will make her wet, then i was thinking setting the frame between me and her, like say "we have being hanging out for quite a while now, and im not looking to get in your pants, this isnt my intention, if it was i would be here with you.. you're a smart, beautiful girl and we can take it as slow as you want" then whisper something to her ear like "but dont get your hopes up, i aint throwing a ring and asking you to marry me in the near future" with a big smile and thats just to make the situation go from serious to casual and funny and then back to serious kinda thing, and if i feel like i can get a kiss and not get rejected, ill go for it obviously. if i get rejected though, that's game over.

i could be wrong. however, if its been a month and you still cant get a kiss, in my opinion your friend zoned. i understand you say she had an x that she just broke up with but at the same time, if you havent built enough attraction by this point its hard to start it up. id say freeze her out for a lil and get her to wonder why and to think about u more then work alot of Kino on her when you chill again. maybe crob would be better at answering this tho

Go on a date with other girls or at least, don't hang around her too much (if you don't want to date other girls). The others are right, maybe when you take a breather, you won't be as intoxicated with her charms.

Plus, how do we know we miss you if you won't give us any chance to actually be without you?

so i did what i planned to do. took her to a mountain with sick view, told her what i think, she told me that she is flattered and wish she could say something back but she doesnt want to say what i dont wanna hear. i told her that she doesnt have to tell me and we can take it as slow as she wish and asked if that sounds good and she replied with a yes.
and no i didnt get The Vibe that i could kiss her so i didnt. i felt that i will get rejected just by the face expression she had on. it was like, 'fark you trying again... we talked about it already...' kinda of look

sounds like you are close to a LJBF.