mission impossible-guys please help !!!

Hi guys!
I recently broke up with my girlfriend
I will try to describe the situation best as possible
the storry goes:
for a fact I ceartanly didn't act like an ALPHA
that was my nomber 1. mistake
I was alpha in a begining,and she was eating from my hands
but something happened, i cracked and didn't be alpha no more...
Becouse i was jelous all the time, we
were arguing(not yelling) allmost every time.
that lead to a break up,then we make up
that was repeating a few more times...till I didn't
get enough of it and decided to end it all...
...that was lasting for two days when I started to miss her
by the way, we allways talked for hours before every
break up...I meant to say I talked for hours
becouse she couldn't say anything,she was allways sitting
and listening for what I have to say.
I know now that I was to strenuous to listen to..
so, when i wanted to make up for the last time she sead to
me that she wasen't feeling the same way like
before towards me
boy how much she loved me, and I scrued it all up
we had beautifool moments
before it all started to fall apart
I have a strong fealing that I could Get Her Back
I need your help for this one
I have to become an ALPHA again
HELP GUYS,
I love that girl and she loves me to,i know!
everybody was amazed when we broke up
they sad to me that they can't belive it becouse
they saw hov she was loking at me,vith great amount
of love in her eyes
once again,I need your help

how long ago did this happen?

i wont lie. if we were to help you quickly you wouldnt have enough time to change ur frame and overall attitude. i actually feel that if you want to Get Her Back that you should make this change over about 1-2 months. it gives you enough time to get over her a little so you can actually change ur attitude and not sound like you do now. i wont lie, well i was reading this i could hear the tears hitting the keyboard with empty boxes of tissues. you sound like you need to calm down first and think things through and then start with the frame and attitude change

Dude, when a girl dumps you:

#1: What was good about her, outside of her looks?
#2: What sucked about her?
#3: What did SHE do to mess it up?

Ok, now you want to find a girl who:

#1: Has those good qualities, and perhaps some others.
#2: Doesn't have the qualities that sucked.
#3: Won't mess it up, and is LOYAL enough to stand by another imperfect human being.

This isn't mission impossible. This is Mission Don't Even Try Because It's Not Worth It.

I can tell that you are not getting this girl back. I had the same kind of relationship, I almost married the girl, and it was a shock when we broke up. She gave me the whole "I've changed, I don't feel like I used to" speech. Right now, she's sluttin' it up with like 3 or 4 other guys, and I hear stories about her "sleeping over" other guys houses and "getting rides home" from guys at the club from her friends (they like me better). Obviously this girl had issues, she was very high maintenance and we had to spend tons of money every week. Now, if this girl broke up with you, and didn't even have the kindness or the ability to speak to you while you poured your heart out to her for hours, you just have to ask yourself: why are you so distraught? Forget about it. Forget about all the times you had sex, forget about all the special moments, the Christmas's, the rings, the first kisses, the magical moments. This is a new wake up call to manhood. Never give a woman more than one chance with you, unless she comes groveling back to you, and only then, if you can deal with the fact that she probably screwed a few other guys before figuring out she made a mistake. We men deserve better than women who don't listen and change on a dime, and need 1000 bells and whistles to keep them around.

Also, watch Fight Club.

haha i like how you put that. ok you have two different opinions. figure out which one you want. after reading ravens post and rereading yours. i feel like you should move on to different girls cause this girl definitely isnt that good. but if you do decide to do it. maybe we can figure out ways to help you. this site is just about helping and informing.

thanks guys for writing back to me
she isn't a cind of girl Raven described
I want to thank you Raven for giving your opinion
She is a girl pure in heart
she is like that,she doesen't talk,
I knew that and I cept pusshing on...
I think I pusshed her away from me
but believe me there is no worse feeling whene you put your heart out and you don't get any thing back
becouse she is a person that can't tell you anything in
your face,goog nor bad
she has a lack of self-confidence
I realy want to try to make this work,I mean my
"mission impossible"
beleve me before she came along I made my way with girls
(I do not know if I get this phrase right)
I feel like I forgot how to flirt,I think that this to
was my problem through the relationship,when I forgot
this beautifool game of flirting with my girl or should I say gameing
so guys, once again, lets make my mission become possible
thanks

crobinson,first lett me say thank you
for writing back to me
well this all happened about 3 days ago.
you'r partly right about my state of mind
I feel like everything I do doesent work
before, when we first started going out I had all the right moves I was a man like no other she went out before
and I won her attention,and love later on

I don't know her, so I cannot pass final judgement, but, I think you're really romanticizing her. You're putting her on this pedestal. A lack of self confidence, a fear of telling a man how she really feels, and not telling you something to your face are character flaws not bonus points. Psychologically, when a man is infatuated with a woman, he will romanticize her flaws as positives. He is so into her he cannot see her for what she really is, he is blinded. Why do you desire a girl who lacks self-confidence, which means she has massive insecurity issues?

Any PUA program will tell you to fleeeee from the insecure girl. They are the worst. Most programs and books do not mention any other type of girl, but the insecure one, and just to tell you to avoid her, because we've all had one, and they pull the kind of stuff like this chick pulled on you.

At any rate though man, you cannot be her personal entertainer forever. If there is really something there, truly, then flirting and attraction will come natural. You won't have to try.

I don't mean to be insensitive or anything. I'm just realist. It would probably be easier and more beneficial to find a better girl, and fall in love with a better woman.

Here's a story.

There was this girl who was so insecure, that one of the reasons she broke up with me is because I supposedly did not compliment her looks enough. She said that when I did, I wasn't sincere enough (I was sincere, I mean what I say). I didn't buy her enough things to "prove" I loved her either, and she was mad at me when another woman hit on me even though I didn't respond in kind. She said she wanted to tell me this for months but was too afraid. She sent me an email which was a big list of things she was afraid to say to my face. She kissed me goodnight when I left her house and told me to read her email when I got home. It devistated me. She was highly insecure and lacked self confidence. These girls are the gutter. You know the loser guys who are drug addicts, alcoholics, wife beaters and such? This is the girl version of that. This is the Lower Value Woman, who sucks you in like a jerk guy sucks in some woman, but isn't good for you.

hitch i do have to agree. she is lacking the self confidence and you are romaticizing her to be an amazing girl and even saying that her flaws are good even when u wrote of it, you had a hint of anger mixed in with passion. you want to Get Her Back because you feel for her. but like everyone here, we all know love is blind and sometimes isnt enough. its like if you saw a couple that always yelled and fought and argued but insisted they loved each other. you need to have someone who meshes with yourself well and can compliment well, not complete you. she isnt there to complete yourself. she is there to be with who you are. so personally i agree when i say you need to take time and think about it before responding to this thread again. take time to understand whether you feel these flaws would be good if you got back together. lets say there is another time where she cannot talk, a time where her lack of self confidence will be a burden and make you mad.

i told you to take time to think, i know i went through the same thing. i had a girlfriend who had a lack of self confidence and was very demanding and then i romanticized her flaws as well. i was a shell of a person, doing everything she wanted and then saying its ok cause she does things for me. she did but nothing near as much and she was using me. i would buy her things, do what she said, and all that. i even went so low as to make her food and even get her a glass of water if she wanted one even though the kitchen was 15 feet away. i said i liked getting her everything cause the look of happiness and then the appreciation that followed was amazing. but she never really appreciated me. i actually romanticized her for weeks, almost a full two months before i was able to acutally analyze her flaws with a open, understanding and fluid mind. she was not made for me, i loved her and we had our time and made our story, but she wont be the end of my story. you should think the same, just like anyone's life. we love and live. thats part of the story.

so take ur time and when you can tell me about her without a biased view that she is everything you ever needed and that you feel she meshes well with your personality then we can help you, but until you pass this stage of the breakup process we cannot because ur trying to rush things in the worry of losing her and ur mind is not straight.

we are trying to give you what you need, not what you want!

once again thanks
in a matter of speaking you opened my eyes a bit
I see what you guys are traing to say to me
I appreciate everything you'r doing here
firstly,I have to get my head together
then I can go on...
I hope everything turns out OK