my girl is on vacation

so ive been seeing this girl for past few weeks, and its going really well. so anyways she went away on vacation to Vietnam last Tuesday and shes gone for 2 weeks. i just want an opinion if i should message on facebook or wait until she gets back to text her?

Wait until she gets back. When I go to another country for a vacation I never check on my Facebook. Why would she check?

some of her friends leave messages on her wall and she replies to them so she does check it.

Then don't send her Facebook messages. Wait until she gets back. Let her have her fun. If, however, she gives you a message, answer it, but don't initiate. OK, one will do. But that's about it.

thanks dude.

so hey sitfad, the girl comes back from vacation tomorrow night and i didnt message her on facebook while she was gone and she didnt message me. so im hoping that she initiates texting with me when she gets back if not i plan on texting her on sunday. and im not really sure on what to text her. i was thinking somewhere along the lines of like "hey you didnt plan on messaging me when you got back? im heartbroken lol" (not that I actually am heartbroken, but she does understand my sense of humour)

if you have something better to text which you probably do, id love to hear. thanks a lot man.

Adjust to the situation, whether she texts you first or you do :

"Hey, Rambo, is Vietnam still there or did you blew it..."
Right after you sent this message, sent another one
"...up?"

if she texts me first than im in the clear, ill be able to work on the fly with what shes given me. but damn that Opener you gave me is gold. thanks a lot!

hey sitfab i know turn to you a lot on this topic and it probably gets annoying but you give solid advice and you also are the only one replying lol so i need help with the same girl. i apologize in advance for the length but i tried giving as much detail as possible so people can give the most best and most accurate advice. the texting went like this starting on sunday:

me:hey rambo, is vietnam still there or did you blow it...
me: ...up?
HB: haha got back friday night so jetlagged, how are you?
me: still jetlagged eh? that sucks! im good, im in this really intense game of chess with a monkey, im close to winning lol how was the trip?
HB: the time difference is 13 hours, of course i am lol and i see. id be worried if you were losing. the trip was amazing, wish i couldve stayed longer
me: i told you that youd have an awesome time! id like to hear some stories. at the same time i can share some of my epic adventures.
HB lol nothing really worth mentioning happened i just constantly had a good time.
me: lol im sure there is plenty to mention. are you free at all tomorrow?
HB: no sorry, packed
me: what a shame... so when are you free ms. (name)?
HB: not sure. just got back to real life and have lots to do. let you know when.
me: alright let me know. ps dont make plans for saturday, its my birthday
HB: yikes i dont think im able to make it, sorry
the next morning (monday)
me: ouch...
2 days later (wednesday).
me: hey (name)! next week i actually plan on robbing a bank fleeing down to the ocean and faking my own death. umm scuba tanks are in the trunk. oh and ps we are probably going to get hungry so bring a sandwich or something because it smells like farts. so (name)... are you in or out?

-okay so i know i messed up making myself seem needy by asking to chill so often but at the same time before she left for vacation and i would ask when the next time we are seeing eachother she would say "whenever you want" so i dont get what could have happened within the 2.5 weeks where she completely lost interest in me and give me the cold shoulder the way she is.
- part of my game is to be ridiculous and unpredictable and every girl i talk to especially this one loves it (or at least she did before vacation) so i dont see why she didnt respond to my text yesterday...
-i dont know why she is acting the way she is now, before she went on vacation everything was great, i did everything perfectly and we both felt like there was something there
- i really like this girl, and i would like to turn things around and fast... i was actually planning to make things like "exclusive" (or whichever word you prefer to say ask her to be bf and gf) with her within the next 2-4 dates.
-im trying my best not to have oneitis, this entire time of seeing her i was seeing 2 other girls as well but i still cant get this girl off my mind...
-my guess for a recovery is to freeze her out for about a week and send another reengaging text. if you have something in mind to text or a better strategy, please let me know, i would really appreciate it
- sorry for this being so long but i wanted to make sure i gave enough detail for you to give the best advice. thanks a lot.

OK, I'll take you message by message on this one

You tried to force a sort of "investment" on her part. Not good. If she said there isn't, then it most likely isn't. Saying "So what, you just stood there in your room and stewed with their noodles? You could've at least visit their rats, I heard they're naughty this time of year. Oh, no, wait, I'm confusing Vietnam with Thailand" ( Arrogant and stereotyped a bit, but it would've worked )Also, you show availability and quite early in the interaction, I might add. Drag it more next time.

HUGE cocky funny OPPORTUNITY :

1) "What do you mean "you just got back to real life"? Is Vietnam a virtual world or something? ( Gasp ) OMG, you played Farmville Vietnam Edition for ( whatever amount of time she was there )?....LAAAME. Although, I'd like to see some picture with you and a Farmville animal )"

2) "What do you mean "you just got back to real life"? Is Vietnam a virtual world or something? ( Gasp ) OMG, you visited Vietnam's page on Wikipedia for ( whatever amount of time she was there ). Shlaaaaaaaame. Although it would be nice to see pictures of you.....too bad they're all gonna be photoshopped.

And that's what I can come up with at the moment. But there are more. )

Sounded kinda try-hard.

Ridiculous yes, unpredictable, not really. Don't confuse randomness with unpredictability. The thing about unpredictability is that you CHANGE GEARS. Meaning go from ridiculous to serious to cocky to randomness and so on and soforth.

She might be genuinely busy. She probably has friends she wants to see, family, relatives, what have you. Don't get hung upon this.

3-4 days is enough in this case. Then re-engage with low investment text, like :

"omg, a cat is chasing a squirrel. a subaru won."

or something to fit your "ridiculous" act :

Yo, Rambo, let's make pickle pops with vodka and sell them to kids at the ball park.

That's what this community is all about. Good luck with her.