She has changed within the past few days

we've had a good relationship and we talk frequently. quality time together. all of the sudden she's becoming more distant within the past few days. she's no longer txting and calling me as much now. however when we do talk i hear her clicking away on her laptop. i ask her what are you up to? she says fb. so she's on fb more often now. she's going to college too. even while she's been in college she still made time for me.

i tried to talk with her asking if there was something wrong but she said nothing is wrong and she still feels the same towards me and us.

i feel she is getting attention from elsewhere...chatting on fb and friends at school. is it normal for this to happen? that the girl will start to become comfortable with the relationship and change up like this? part of me thinks she's met another guy. but, i don't want to assume. i dont have any concrete evidence to prove that. we've dated for 2 years now.

any advice would be appreciated. thanks


by the way i've been keeping busy going to workout and do other stuff. but i can't stop thinking about it. even i confronted her but, she doesn't see a problem. i don't know how else to bring it to her attention.

shes cheating

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Brada dont get distracted by her ,do the same yoself ,everytime she does something ,do the same ,u can be distant too .

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Dont have routines as the cards in your deck ,have skill instead ,because once a routine is done ,its done ,you cant do it again in the same interaction ,but skills can be done over and over ,so then you could play a card twice.

I have come to realize that emotions get the best of us; both male and female. I honestly want to say that once emotions get control of males, it is actually harder for them to get a grip on it all because we usually don't deal with emotions as much as females do, so we are kind of stuck in a phase where we don't really know how to handle it.

So, when people say move on or do the same to her, I know it can be EXTREMELY difficult to do such. I am not going to pretend that it is easy; because plainly, it is easier said than done. But, it will take just sometime to realize the truth, get your logical sense back, and fight away the emotional thinking of your mind and heart.

I am assuming, from your thread, you are not with her at college. I graduated college a few years back and from experience, I know, that there are girls that stick with their boyfriends or they go off and go crazy. A lot of girls tend to get their minds changed a bit while in college. They almost feel a sense of liberation and want to experience it. They go off and do things they normally wouldn't do. For instance, look at all those p0rn sites with girls in college doing those crazy (yet awesome) videos. We all know them, but a majority of them wouldn't be doing that were it not for that "liberating" experience.

From what you are saying in your post, I feel she might be just feeling a sense of independence and wants to explore this feeling. You can attempt to reel her in, you can attempt to sit down and talk with her to make her understand, or you can let her do what she desires.

I hate it because it does suck. I think all PUA's out there have been destroyed by a woman at some point in their life's (myself included). Sometimes the most obvious thing is the hardest to accept as fact.

yeah tell me about it the feeling is crazy, but it sucks when things just don't seem right and sh1t comes up from nowhere. i see what you're saying about the college experience. and no i am not with her at the college she is attending. i don't want to be a control freak but, don't change up what we've had and expect me not to wonder. she's never had problems before of keeping in touch. so why start now? she's very smart so i know she can handle her classes. no clues have led up to this point that she felt differently about me. if you value your relationship i believe you should give it the benefit of the doubt and give it some time. so i'm willing to give it some time.

striker...i would do that but, i think she would get the idea that i'm ignoring her or that i'm the uninterested one. if it were in the beginning stages i think i would have done something like that.

thanks for the insight people.

My advice, just sit down and ask her what is going on. Tell her that you feel this distance and this weird feeling. Just explain it to her in common rationale sense (as most men do anyways because we are logical creatures). If she loves you, she will make you believe there is nothing wrong. And if she has any decency as a person (not saying she doesn't), she'll tell you if there is something.

Don't seem obsessive about it. Just go with it.

In college I did a lot of reading about interactions between people. The best way to get a point across, or information out, is to not accuse the other but to just ask. Don't accuse her of being different, tell her you "feel" there is something weird and that you "feel" a vibe. When people get approached with accusations, they automatically back into a corner and either get defensive, or, they shut down.