Hey, I wasn't sure where to put this thread, but it is hugely important so I've decided to stick it here anyway!
Now, when it comes to becoming a PUA, there is a lot of information out there!! This can become confusing, and lead you down one path only to find another way of doing something that defies your previous logic, and that's great! When you are getting nowhere with something, then usually something different could be the deciding factor. So in no way am I about to tell you not to try new things. But say, you have found something, and it looks great. But you just can't choose how to go about it, about implementing it into your game.
Well this is why I have created this thread. Because when this happens in your life, the key to getting where you want and what you want is through motivation, perseverance and determination. But today, we'll talk about motivation
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Right, where do we start? Ok, well I'm going to list 5 things, 5 points that you should do, right now, with a clear head. And once you have done these, I want you to get up, have an intensive shower with your favourite music LOUD! Clean yourself, shave, brush your teeth (twice), then go get changed into the clothes that make you feel the best. Spray on your saturday night cologne and look at yourself in the mirror and just admire how much you scrub up. Then call up a good friend of yours, can be a guy or girl, and just have a cool little chat. Do whatever you do, that makes you feel good before going out.
Anyway, back to the 5 things:
1)Create an opportunity: You must create yourself an opportunity for meeting girls, and tonight you will do. The club is your field, the city, town or village is your field, the local dryers is your field. Just go out and the more people around you, the more likely you will meet someone to talk to. Just have a great time.
2) Find your boundaries: Okay, now you need to find your boundaries, you really need to push yourself tonight, once you feel emotionally drained, hurt and like you've screwed up, then you have reached your boundary. This is good, this means you now have a boundary to break and improve on.
3) What do you want?: This stage is where your learning the PUA life style comes in. You must find what you enjoy the most, you must find a reason to break down that wall. What is it you most want to be like in 3 months, 6 months time? A PUA? An AFC? A womanizer? You pick the reason and stick to it!
4) Persevere: Now is the time to hang in there. Keep pushing that boundary until that boundary is nothing! It's like pushing a tyre from 5 metres in front of you. The more you push it, the further your boundary goes. And you can have a rest and your boundary (tyre) will remain at that spot. But keep on it. I recommend you use a similar visualisation or gimmick. Get on the laptop, make a chart from 1-10, and on the x axis put a timeline. Then rate yourself from 1-10 as a PUA. Now push that each time. It's ok to lose a mark or two from now and then. That means you reached a boundary. Mark this on the chart!
5) Go with the flow: Eventually you will reach a state of flow. Your boundary will be pushed so far, you will be much more comfortable in your now much extended zone.
Now repeat. Imagine you are pushing this wall. It is heavy. But it moves, slowly. Once you have moved it, it stays where it is. Now look back. Look at how much space you have. Now fill up that new space with new items, friends, lovers.etc. Get to the point where you need more space, and go push that wall further so you can fit in that extra item, friend or lover.
Good luck PUA. The fact you are here means you are already a PUA. As Mystery said, you can only be either AFC or PUA. You can't be a bit of both. Or you'll fall in the middle. Now commit yourself buddy and get the most out of the one life you have on this earth!
Finchy x