The answer is= be her friend! If she looks sad, or worried, ask whats wrong. be there for her. when she "asks why do you care", you can say "because I care for you, and just want you to know that I have your back". If thats something you can do
(In oldman voice) This reminds of a romance I had with a co-worker! My agency moved to a new office that we shared with another agency(between both agency's there was only 4 guys including myself
). Well, I noticed two ladies warming up to me, one was married, the other exotic(what was I to do
).
Well after dating the exotic lady for a while, she moved in with me(although she owned her own house, with tenants=A boss). Needless to say this was one of the best years of my life so far. We did, shared, and learned so much together(we did things like make love, covered in a blanket, in the morning on my roof, while it was snowing) A book could be wrote about the love we shared. I would have married her, but I was seperated at the time
.
Anyway, as every relationship has its issues; her's were I smoked to much wacky tobacy, and mines was she was a perfectionist; although I am as well, she bordered on OCD! (also she was fed up with my video games= the nerve
)
WE ENDED IT MUTUALLY.
We still work closely together to this day. I still flirt with her, HBTEN
, although now everything is said in passing. Everyone wants her, and I get off on the times we shared, as well as concentrating on my future(my own house).
The morale of the story is to take the whole thing lightly, you never know what the future holds(me and her could get back together).
My advice to you=Talk to her, like a friend, she will come around, and love you for you patience