Girlfriend losing interest and always flaking

Okay so at first I was just hooking up with this girl for about 3 weeks I liked her she liked me, you know it was cool. So I wanted a bit more than that so I asked her out now we are dating. The first week was fine, she was always txting me and wanting to hang when she is free.

Now here is the problem after the second time we hung out and hooked up while dating, the day after I think I seemed WAY to eager to hang.......she flaked she said something like 'hanging out with my little bro.....maybe later...' oh man I'm so AFC I didn't know wtf to say so I said some gay farken sh1t like 'Oh yea, family first you know :P'......TOTALLY SCREWED ME UP FOR THE NEXT WEEK. I tried to make more plans more Flakes, now its me texting her more than me I wouldn't have a problem with that before cause at least she would seem happy to hear something from me. Now I don't think she gives a fark.
I never try to be too available for her cause well I just can't I'm a busy man, though when I am free I would love to hang with this girl but these flakes are killing me. Actually thinking of breaking up with her cause of it even though I don't really want to.........

Hey ballflesh

I think you're giving her too much attention. Girls like having guys chase after them. Really boosts their egos. I think it'd be good if you cut off communication for a week or so. Make up excuses as to why you can't text or call. See how she reacts. When (if) she bites, then reel her back in.

Max

Hopefully that works man, but I have a feeling it won't. I hear that for that to happen you need attraction and well..... I don't think I have much of that at the moment. My thoughts are get her more interested in me then freeze her out. Just not sure how I am going to go about doing that though.

Right.. Not enough attraction. I guess showing her that you're not affected by her flaking would help boost your personal worth, which makes you more attractive.

Also, I figure she's not attracted to the way you're presenting yourself as a person, so it might help to change that.

Max

Right.. Not enough attraction. I guess showing her that you're not affected by her flaking would help boost your personal worth, which makes you more attractive.

Also, I figure she's not attracted to the way you're presenting yourself as a person, so it might help to change that.

I'd post this article I found that helps build attraction, but the forum won't let me till I've made 15 posts lol.

Max

Check out this audio on keeping a girl attracted to you:

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If you have some sort of relationship defined as in there is some kind of relationship there, you need to be able to communicate exactly what you need out of the relationship, "time together", and if she cannot provide this, then you know that this relationship is not going to work or she'll know what she needs to do in order to make the relationship work and she'll understand that this is a big deal. I think communication might be a better option for you than trying to figure it out. Worse case scenario, she gets upset and leaves, well you are breaking up with her anyway it seems so you aren't really losing anything right?