make your ex into a fwb????

Hey All,

Just got out of a long term relationship last Thursday. Basically I told her I wanted different things right now, wanted to explore myself and meet new friends as our relationship was very close. We lived together for a year and we are in school together, were both personal trainers and we workout together. We did everything together so it was a tough breakup but really necessary if I want to grow. She kind've understands but she thinks we will be back together one day when we both mature, and I think its possible but right now I don't want a relationship.

I told her to relax and just do what she really wants right now. And she responded with, I'm horny so I guess I can't get what I want. (I witheld from sex for like 3 weeks before we split). So I told her she could come over if she wants but thats a bad idea and its not gonna make me fall back in love with her.
She said its not all she wants but she is cravin it,

I just told her 'ok' and then she said Its bedtime night

I really wanna try to turn this into a once a month kinda deal, I was thinkin hold off for 2 more weeks and invite her over b4 I go on vacation so I get some and leave and have her wanting more. And kindve keep a routine like that, maybe text her once a week or some bull to keep things live and try not to be too emotional..

has anyone had good success with this, I would kill to just be this girls lover as it'll be healthier relationship

In my experience, friends with benefits with a long term girlfriend doesn't work out. I was with a girl for 13 months and we were fwbs afterwards for probably 3 months. We had to end it because the emotions stayed and we wanted to move on. So I guess it depends what kind of person you are. If you are able to move on while still having intimate contact with a girl youve been in a long term relationship with, all the power to ya.

Just be aware that it's difficult and I couldn't do it. Even though I'm contemplating farking her when I move back home after school this year.

I have had first hand experience with this. It generally doesn't work because of the emotional aspect of it. I couldn't do it either time and had to end it. And its not healthy either if you want to grow.