Style Improvement

Oops that got cut off early I was gonna put 2 links up, we had a similar discussion recently after my field repor here

Dissapointing field report

Where I put up an album with some of my subtle flair, note I had scaled down the pictures to 20k to try to post them on the forum first so they're pretty low quality but u get the idea

Peacock - a set on Flickr

You don't need to read the field report but definitely check out the album

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I mean I understand going out of my Comfort zone. There is no sense in asking for help if youre not willing to change. But I think my main purpose in joining this forum wasn't and still is not to juggle girls. Its more or less to help me get over my social anxiety when dealing with the opposite sex. I think peacocking is good in many cases, just not in mine. Im a very broad, large, guy. Peacocking a little bit as far as clothing and fashion is amplified when applied to someone of my stature and size, so youll have to excuse me if I dont go as over the top as some of you.

I guess I may have what I believe is called one-itis. Im not a player. I could never be a player, I think. However, I see and respect the work you guys do. I have the personality and philosophy of a AFC, however, I want the confidence and skill set of a PUA. Im trying to rebuild myself as a person, and this is one part of it. Im glad for your guys help though, and will continue to seek it out in certain matters.

This is a common misconception I need to address

There is a huge difference between a Pick Up Artist and a player

Players lie and cheat and disrespect and devalue women

Pick up artists have a code. Pick up is about trying to understand women and how to interact with them. It's about learning the rules of the game so you aren't played by it. A true PUA never lies about his intentions or where he's at.

A real pua will tell every girl up front if he's dating other girls. I've never lied, disrespected or used a girl I was dating, and if you agree to a relationship you stick to it

Take the game or leave it but please don't mistake a PUA for a player

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That's exactly how I explain the difference, too. Only I say that PUA's were usually terrible with women (virgins, bullied, nerds, etc.) and are now guys that are attractive to women instead of the 'understanding and how to interact with them' part.

I wonder if women could spot the difference?

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'Fear only holds you back. Get the fark out of your comfort zone!'

'I am now at a point I never thought I would reach, and there are still points I can't imagine being at yet, but I'll slowly break down the barriers one by one and keep reaching every next goal.'

They can spot the difference in how you treat them. I typically date 3 or 4 women at once (think multiple LTR) until I find one that really amazes me and I want a one on one with
But I tell em each I'm dating other people, and in the end if we've split up many of them said they've never met someone so genuine and honest, and they loved the experience

Players out there are giving guys like us a bad rap. But hey at least they make us look better once girls figure out the difference

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sh1t, sorry if I offended anybody. I tend to make assumptions and that was one of them. I definitely don't plan on leaving, but I'm glad I made the statement now to understand what Ive bought into however. Just sort of planning the new me. Changing myself. I already feel more confident in myself and I havent even "truly" started it.

I'm new to this and it sounds funny but I went to Home Depot and bought about 30 thick pull chains for ceiling fans and a few other accessories. (told you it sounded funny) I make most of my own Peacock stuff and the ladies love it. Plus if you wind up giving it to her (as a reminder of you) it was very inexpensive and you still have about 29 more. I gave 2 away last night AND got a BJ close because she thought I was a jewelry designer. Anything different from others works great.

Jacal.