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    mindbender is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Arrow First ever Field Report from Mindbender

    So I've just finished reading The Mystery Method, after finishing The Game a few days ago. I've never been into the club scene before so I've been trying to find someone to go with just to familiarize myself and become a bit more social.

    No luck so far, but I've been keen to get my foot in the door of trying out pickup so I went down to the mall today on my own. I've practised Mystery's photographic memory routine and also had the jealous girlfriend opener and question game in mind.

    My intention today was mainly to get over Approach Anxiety, so I was prepared and willing to get shot down, and was reminding myself "nothing that happens in the field is a big deal", to just let it go and try this stuff. Consequences be damned.

    The first thing I set about was buying a notepad for the memory routine. I didn't know where the newsagent was and so used this opportunity to warm up by asking a cute girl - "Excuse me, do you know if there's a newsagent around here?"

    To my surprise the girl was very helpful, almost eager. She gave me lots of detail, initially saying "well it's not really a newsagent, but there's this place over there... no wait, actually there's a newsagent upstairs... [explains where to go]". She could have so easily been much more brief or even just said "Sorry, I don't know". IOI.

    Unfortunately, I wasn't sure how to respond to this unexpected opportunity, and my being self-conscious about that even meant that I wasn't 100% listening to her. She may have noticed that, not sure. Afterwards I came up with "Cool, thanks. You were really helpful, more than most people. I like that. I've really got to get going, would you like to get coffee sometime?"

    I'm guessing that's not great, but better than nothing. Has anyone here been in a situation like that and turned it into something more?

    I found the newsagent and bought myself a notepad. Then I walked around for a fair while. There didn't seem to be many opportunities. I also suppose I was unsure whether I wanted to try opening a set of people or just try and approach other women on their own. I was walking around with the notepad in my hand, and wondered whether that would seem weird. I was also getting self-conscious about whether anyone had noticed that I walked past the same places.

    Finally I decided to just go up to the next girl I saw. It ended up being this older girl, maybe 30 (too old for me; I'm 21), but I didn't realise the moment I saw her and said "right, I'm going for it". I need the practice anyway. I started with "Excuse me", gave a false time constraint, asked if I could get her opinion on something, and proceeded with the jealous girlfriend opener (the one where a guy has photos of his ex in his bedside table). She seemed a bit uncomfortable but willing to respond out of politeness. She said the guy needs to get rid of the photos, even burn them if that's what the girl wants. I found that surprising, thanked her for her opinion, and moved on.

    I was somewhat happy with the fact that I hadn't completely chickened out, which I thought I might, and there kinda was the approach with other girl before as well, so I decided to start walking back to my car. On the way, I saw a giant chessboard with people playing and some spectators. I decided to sit by and watch. I figure the principle about building comfort and familiarity with clubs kinda applies here too. Clearly I need to get out more :-).

    The chess game finished, and I got up to continue back to my car. I looked over my shoulder, and in the opposite direction there's a cute girl just standing, doing something on her phone. I remembered something I heard today "if you hesitate, you masturbate". I talked myself into trying another approach.

    Similar story as before; tried the jealous girlfriend opener, she wasn't very interested, but played along. At one point while I was talking she looked down at her phone for a few seconds and did something. IOD. Turns out she also said the photos had to go, completely, not just moved out of the bedside drawer. I didn't push for much explanation because I could see her discomfort.

    Well then, I'd say that was an acceptable first try. Bit of a shame that I couldn't do more with the first girl, but I'm trying to condition myself to Mystery's advice - "nothing that happens in the field is a big deal".

    I have a question for those with experience with the jealous girlfriend opener - do most people agree with the girls above? Do they say a guy must destroy the photos of his ex? Or is that just the easy thing to say when they're not interested in the conversation?

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    Default Re: First ever FR

    hey man, glad to see youre putting yourself out there and making moves. as i always say to friends of mine who are less successful with women, "you don't know what will happen until you go for it and take a chance." the biggest step is doing it in my opinion.

    anyways, my suggestion is to stop using the Mystery lines (that question about the ex's pictures). who knows when youll run into a girl whos already heard those lines? :P go for situational openers- "excuse me, where is the newstand?" was good. try that one again, or just get her opinion on something- but this time turn it into a conversation and dont be afraid to try and take it further. ive had that shit happen, where i was like "DAMN i should have said more!" after she was gone. dont hesitate! and good work so far

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    Default Re: First ever FR

    Agreed with last one, mystery's lines are a bit overused.

    I think its most natural to go with situational openers and then go for an opinion on something you can really relate to yourself(I find if you dont really believe the openerer its not going to work) for example what I find to work where I come from is beard or no beard(mainly I find it boring to shave and normally have 2 day old beard)

    But overcoming the shyness is priority then situational openers will be easier

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    Default Re: First ever FR

    I tend to agree with the two gents above me. Situational openers just seem more natural. Also, by approaching a girl by herself, which is common in day game, you lose social value immediately, unless you appear to need help ( with directions, the time, where to find a good place to eat, etc.), that is what they call, coming in under the radar. Then once you have "opened", if she seems receptive, then throw in an opinion question, or comment that her nose kinda wiggles when she talks......or whatever.

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    Default Re: First ever FR

    I also agree with the above statements. Situational openers are the least detectable and most genuine sounding. It doesn't naturally trigger her shield.

    I remember my most successful line. Girl and I were sitting next to each other on the bus. Saw her put on some cologne as I was entering. After a few minutes, I looked at her and said:
    Excuse me miss, I hope you don't think I'm gay or anything, but I wanna know the name of the perfume you're using.". She replied, "What for? Gift for your GF?". I said, "No, it's for my mom..." =). She smiled and told me the name of the cologne. We chatted for a bit about perfumes, then I went for the Number Close and got off the bus.
    When the Wolf walks by you--> you will remember.

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    Default Re: First ever Field Report from Mindbender

    Agree with all above. Certain lines are over used. The Jealous girlfriend routine obligates the person your talking to to give a lengthy answer or appear rude. So it kind of put her under a bit of pressure. I think people underestimate the power of negging (Obviously done in a classy way).

    You can open with negs as well like :
    I like your hat
    Really! (She will like that)
    Yeah it looks really good. Not sure it goes with the coat though. (Say in a jokey way)

    Well done for having the balls to give it ago though!

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    Default Re: First ever Field Report from Mindbender

    Sounds like you just need to walk into malls and ask where the newsangents are

    keep doing that!


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