Wow. Sometimes in the course of human interaction, there comes a pair of people who are so attracted to each other through natural means that terms like "Alpha" and "Beta" just become irrelevant to it's power. I've been Picking Up for 5 years, and my game is absolutely rock solid. Never had it been tested as it was today, and it broke down before the raw sexual attraction this woman and I felt for each other today.
She began as just another POF pickup. I had absolutely zero expectations, like always when meeting such girls and I showed up at the venue we were meeting at and I stepped out of my car, ready to run my usual POF game.
I knew she was good looking, but I had absolutely zero idea HOW good looking until I was standing in front of her and she stood up to give me a hug.
Model hot, African American, soft spoken, her voice like a soft whisper. Extremely intelligent and successful medical professional. Completely out of the league of a skinny white boy who makes maybe 1/3rd of her salary. 36h bra size! When she gave me a hug it was like two firm watermelons against my chest. I couldn't believe my luck. Right away the raw sexual energy between us was palpable.
IOI's flew between us and lightning zinged. Instant, overwhelming attraction. We stepped into the venue and ordered our drinks and just hit it off right away. For the first time since I was an AFC my palms broke out into a sweat. I couldn't maintain eye contact for any standard of time becuase she would smile at me and her eyes would light up and I would be lost in them. DHV? Pfft. Out the door, there was no DHV.. I was reduced to a giddy school boy in the presence of this woman and she ate it up. The only thing I had the presence of mind, probably becuase of raw natural ingrained instinct was to kino escalate. I was absolutely, completely destroyed and reduced to a jelly.
Approach Anxiety? Hell I had nothing but complete and total loss of control. I couldn't think. My mouth went dry. I was scared to death in the presence of this woman and yet.. despite the obvious signs of my nervousness. She was quite okay with it. When I explained to her that I'm never this way, that I'm suave, confident and calm. She laughed and said she found it quite endearing actually and mirrored my kino and body language exactly.
At one point we stepped outside and I pulled out my harmonica, of which I am a very decent player, and began to show her the instrument, playing little tunes for her and she was completely smitten by the talent. It was probably the only time during the entire interaction in which I felt confident and secure.
At some point, a pair of African American males, good looking guys, walked in and they took a seat down the bar from us and began watching us, shooting stares at me probably wondering WTF this skinny white dude had that he was able to game this amazingly hot aa woman. Turns out she has no eyes for AA males in general. She finds white guys attractive.
But these guys couldn't know that. All they saw was me and her laughing and giggling like a couple school children at my blabbering responses and silly questions.
I got up to the go to the bathroom, and while I was gone, one of them came over and opened her. I came back and dude watched me approach, our eyes met for a moment, I smiled and nodded and as soon as I arrived and sat down she moved close to me and leaned against me and I placed my arm around her. The message was clear. Get lost.
Dude's mouth dropped. He was so good looking that I have absolutely zero doubt that he had probably never been rejected in such a manner. I myself was shocked. I should've, by all rights, lost her to this guy. Yet I didn't.
Dude just sighed and turned around and went back to his chair shaking his head and we went back to our conversation, laughing at the situation we found ourselves in. I asked her about it and that is when I found out that she is almost exclusively attracted to white men. What luck eh?
Anyway, we made plans for our mutual night off, Thursday, and I walked her to her car and we kissed, she said she had the best time and I was really awesome guy who she couldn't wait to see again.
As I left the venue to come home, I kicked myself in the ass.. I had completely lost my game in front of her and I thanked my stars that the natural attraction we had was so strong, or maybe because it was so strong it tore my game up. I'm sure that as time goes by my anxiety will fade and I can return to my more comfortable alpha demeanor, but there is no doubt that this woman broke me down in a bad way and there might really be something between me and her that goes deeper than just gaming a chick.
I've just got to maintain control on Thursday, I sure hope I can becuase it is almost guaranteed lay.
I'd love to hear from the experienced PUA's on the forum if they ever had this type of interaction happen to them, because this is the type of stuff that you always hear about happening naturally between two people but up to this point in my life I had never personally experienced it.. at least not from a position of dominance.