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    Default Too Many Women In My Life

    Now I have too many women. Having trouble saying NO. I found one that I find perfect for me. I'm having issues breaking up with the others. Every time I dump one, I find two more, and I'm not even trying.
    Last edited by EMSaenz; 04-11-2012 at 04:35 AM.
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    Default Re: Too Many

    Quote Originally Posted by EMSaenz View Post
    Now I have too many woman. Having trouble saying NO. I found one that I find perfect for me. I'm having issues breaking up with the others. Every time I dump one, I find two more, and I'm not even trying.
    Years and years ago a natural player buddy of mine said it best.

    "It's either feast or famine."

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    Default Re: Too Many

    Yeap. Se7en lean years and se7en fat years. That's what Joseph said to the Pharoh.
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    Default Re: Too Many

    That is a problem any aspiring PUA would like to have. BTW have you discussed monogamy with that one perfect girl yet? It'd be a waste to break up with all those women only to find she doesn't want exclusivity.

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    Default Re: Too Many

    Virgil, yes we have talked about being exclusive. She agreed that I could keep my "Friends" but hands off.

    I'm not worried about losing two in the bush, when I've got one in the hand. Plus, I am confident enough to know that I can replenish my list of HB. My problem remains the same...how to minimize the heart break when I shut out orbiting HBs?
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    Default Re: Too Many

    Okay, so you have broken up with a some of them so far, right? What did you say and how did they react?

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    Default Re: Too Many

    I cut three out. One just walked away while giving me the finger. Another one started crying really bad. And the last one asked me to make love w/her one more time, but I refused. Then she started crying.

    I was blunt w/them. I said to them that I didn't feel the passion and was just using them for sex.
    Last edited by EMSaenz; 04-11-2012 at 05:41 AM. Reason: left out stuff
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    Default Re: Too Many

    Quote Originally Posted by EMSaenz View Post
    I cut three out. One just walked away while giving me the finger. Another one started crying really bad. And the last one asked me to make love w/her one more time, but I refused. Then she started crying.

    I was blunt w/them. I said to them that I didn't feel the passion and was just using them for sex.
    Ouch brother, That's truly harsh stuff!

    Honestly I don't think there really is a good way to ending a relationship except hope it fades away if you don't give it any attention.

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    Default Re: Too Many

    'I'm just using you for sex' does sound very rough. It might make them feel used/slutty if they felt otherwise towards you. And it's getting you these reactions so you're probably better off changing tactics, yeah.

    I'd tell them I met the woman of my life, but then again, we already discussed that. jealousy might come into play. I really wish I could be of more help here.

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    Default Re: Too Many

    I knew I read something about breaking up so I opened badboy's seduction guide and here is his take on the matter:

    "In the past I tried all sorts of strategies to ease into a breakup and make it less painful. Eventually, I found the easiest and most natural way to break up is to just stop having sex with her. You become less and less interested and she will understand what’s happening. She will feel that things have become less intimate and sense that the relationship has no future. As a result, it will transition smoothly when you tell her that you don’t think it should continue. This is probably easiest and most natural way of breaking up. It’s totally normal that partners get tired of each other. If things are still passionate, she will think it came from out of nowhere and be confused and hurt."

    It might take some time (weeks?) to stop having sex and make them realise the relationship isn't going anywhere. So you should probably let your girl know that. Anyway, this piece of text seemed really appropriate for your situation. I hope it helps.


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