A little background, my room mate's friend with benefits seemed to be attracted to me. That already seems like a terrible thing to pursue from the start; it complicates things with the room mate and the girl can play the situation to gain power. I do not care about how it affects my room mate, I do not like him so screwing his friend with benefits would be a plus.
Anyways, she invites a few friends over. I had just hiked so I was planning on doing absolutely nothing for the rest of the night. Once I got home, I showered and ate then plopped my ass in front of the computer in sweats and a worn T-shirt. My headphones on, getting into the music, she knocks lightly on the door (which I do not hear) and walks into my room. I turn around and say "oh hey. What's up?" A friend of hers I've never seen before is peeking in and both are smiling. As she starts to close the door, I realize my hands were down my pants with a nice cuphold on my balls.
I swap out some clothes and come out to meet the new girls. There were three total, so lets call my room mate's friend with benefits girl A, the one who peeked in girl B, and the other C. I approached the one who peeked in first, and said "Well its always good to meet someone in their natural environment." I extended my head to shake then added "Don't worry, I washed it off first." She laughed then everyone took a few shots.
My room mate asks me to turn on the fan. I reach up to pull the handle hanging down, but it was like 8 feet up. "Are you serious? There's a switch on the wall." God I hate looking like an idiot in front of girls. "Yeah I don't know where simple shit is in the apartment I've lived in for months either" he added. I didn't even want to fake a smile to try to keep the situation positive when I said "I'm not big boned like you, I never have problems sweating." Unfortunately, the two friends-of-friends were bigger, so the come-back wasn't even as strong. I was about to say fat when I caught myself.
More on that, I think some hot girls (like girl A) surround themselves with less attractive girls just to boost their own ego. Bitches.
We end up heading out to go to a club. At this point, I'm around 6 shots in. The first club was fun. A lot of girls were dancing on the bar counter. I mentioned this and girl A said "This group of girls doesn't like that group of girls." I said something like "I suppose you could see it as degrading."
At this point, I tried to run the strategy of winning the group of girls, not just one.
The thought crossed my head "Do not buy a single one of them a drink," but I went against my better judgment. I think if I had bought all of them a round it would've been better, but still bad. I singled out the nervous one and said "Hey you don't seem to be having fun, would you like a drink?" I was in no way attracted to her, but I thought it would run well with my strategy. It didn't. I finally got her to dance, then I tried negging her a bit. I don't think it's a good idea to neg girls that have low self esteem, because she seemed very offput. At this point girl D entered the scene.
I sit down a minute later and girl A stares at me and says "I can't believe you didn't offer her a seat!"
Now, I felt there is an appropriate way to handle the situation here. I didn't know what it was.
I got up, there was a spare chair there - and I pointed it out.
I started talking more to girl C. Girl A said something along the lines of "You should buy her a drink." Another situation I would've loved to know how to handle. I felt like if I said no I would look like an asshole, but if I said yes I would classify myself as a beta who is easily controlled - especially because girl A knew I wasn't attracted to girl B.
I pulled girl B close and said "If I do this, you owe me a dance." I should have said a kiss on the cheek, I'm terrible at dancing. She said something like "What if I don't want to?" but she was smiling when she said it. I said "Then I won't have to spend 9 bucks on a drink, so I win. "
We talked a bit on the way to our next club, and things seemed to be going good. As soon as we hit the club though, girl D stole girl B away. I am 90% sure girl D is a hardcore lesbian, so I just got-outgamed by a girl
The new club sucked. It was a total sausage fest, and the 3 girls I asked to dance shot me down. I don't know if there's a ritual involved before asking a girl to dance, I never go to clubs, but I started getting pissed off at this point. I said something at speaking distance to girl A and placed my hand on her back. She said something like "get out of my face." She took 6 shots with me before we left, so that might have had something to do with it, but it still pissed me off.
I wish I had said something like "I'm close to you because it's noisy and you couldn't hear me otherwise, but either way if you don't want to talk I'll find people that do." But instead I just walked out.
A mean drunk started coming on. I usually give my license but I saw the military ID first and gave that to him. He said something like "can I see your state ID? This doesn't have your height and weight on it." I said "It says I'm over 21 and that's all you need to know, but if you're going to be a dick about it I'll go somewhere else." I went to IHOP to chill out and get some coffee - then I just texted girl A and said I was bouncing.
In hindsight, nothing bad really happened except a few rejections, a little confrontation with a bouncer (which was really my fault), and having to deal with a sausage-fest club (which they didn't want to leave, go figure - 4 chicks) but the 8-9 shots definitely made it worse.