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    pua_wannabe is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default First night out solo

    I went out tonight to see if I could run some game but the Approach Anxiety got the best of me. Although I didnt approach tonight I did become more confident as far as being solo. I shall be going out day in and day out until I reach a better me. If anyone can relate or has advice please let me know it will be greatly appreciated.
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    Default Re: First night out solo

    Something I found helps me with Approach Anxiety is to do the "make 20 random social interactions with complete strangers every day for a week".
    I've found it makes approaching people in general not a big deal.

    I watched a video on approach, and the speaker told us "Imagine when you go and speak to this girl, you have a harem of 5 beautiful models to go back to at your house. Even if you do get rejected, psh, so what? you have all these gorgeous women"

    I like to keep that mentality. Even if you don't have those women back home, think of scarcity. How many beautiful women do you see on a daily basis? there's more out there, and she's not special.

    A neg I like to use that kind of relates is "Sure, you're beautiful.. but beauty is so common. What makes you special/different?"


    Hope that helps.

    Cheers.

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    Default Re: First night out solo

    Baby steps mate. If you felt like you got some confidence out of the night, then view that as a positive. Going solo at night is tough because you can become very outcome-dependent, since you're only out to pick up, rather than hanging with mates or whatever. I've only gone out at night solo a couple of times and any rejection is compounded by the fact that you can't just laugh it off with your mates and enjoy their company instead. Also it's very difficult to have social proof when alone at a bar or whatever.


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