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    surferdude is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default 2set at the beach made eye contact, I need to take action

    Surferdude here,

    I was at the beach the other day with my dog. It was a scorcher and there were tons of girls 18-22. I've been working on just saying a few words to everyone I see to get into the habit of being very social.

    As I was walking on the boardwalk I see a HB7. I opened just being friendly:
    Me: Hey, how's it going? Is the beach busy?"
    Her: Hey. (smile) Yeah there's a lot of people, but if you go to the right side of the beach it's empty."
    Me: Thanks. See you around.

    I walked onto the beach and this is where I got thrown off guard. I'm an okay looking guy, but nowhere above average. I'm 5'6", tanned, pretty muscular, and was wearing pink shorts and a white beater.

    There was a 2set of HB8's tanning in front of me on their stomachs, and they made eye contact with me for about ten seconds straight. I'm used to making eye contact for a few seconds, but this was crazy for me. I used to be very insecure when I was younger with women, but I'm getting better. I had this idea planted in my mind (I don't know how) that when a girl looked at me and smiled, it was more of a "look at this guy, what a loser", instead of a sign of interest. I've changed my mindset and I consider myself a new person. Was this 2set being very direct with me? I didn't even go over and talk to them. I should have delivered a line like "You can't look at me like that and not say something", but it was like I had no balls.

    The HB from the boardwalk reopened me on the beach as well. It was something generic, but she was smiling and holding eye contact. I feel like when I get IOI's, I don't act on them because I'm unsure of their interest. I'd like to work towards being shameless as my ultimate goal. It's going to take a lot of work, but life is more fun that way.

    I know how important inner game is, and believe it or not, my confidence is much higher than it was even a few months ago.

    Advice, comments, help are all appreciated. It's summertime and I want to improve my game exponentially.

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    BUMP
    I'd like to add as well that I have read a lot of material. I'm at the point where I need to man up and start applying the knowledge that has filled my brain. I think about pick up every day now like an addiction.

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    Good job surferdude, id say you're on the right path. Don't psych yourself out, be dominant and carefree when approaching girls, especially on the beach (I think that's a great field element at your fingertips too)
    Don't bother thinking about pickup when you see them, just be friendly, not a 'nice guy', but tease and flirt like u don't care- nothing affects you.
    If you have all the material in your head, then ya u gotta get out and start practicing it. Bits and pieces will start to come into action for u naturally, the more u practice.
    Remember there's no guarantee every girl u talk to will like u, but every girl u don't talk to.. well you'll probably never know right?
    I pickup with the sense that the girl is interested in me, and I'm the selective one. I mean that's kind of the general idea. Sure you'll get a little aa sometimes, but just try to talk to them like their ugly, or they're really annoying or something.
    On the beach though man, just be talkative and outgoing. Tease and neg a bit. That should keep u going and the more girls u talk to the more you'll learn, and give u choices along that line.
    Cheers dude!

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    Thanks man,
    Yeah I need to force myself. I shouldn't really care how my approaches go because I'm casually dating someone now. That's definitely the Mindset I need to keep. I find I do a lot better with warmer approaches (introduced through friends of mine, work, etc). I need to field practice as much as I read.

    Thanks for the help!

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    Also, think from their point of view. They see a good looking guy, give him an ioi, and he runs away. Frustrating for them, no?

    So go and talk to them, that will be your good action of the day

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    Mik you make a good point. Thanks for reminding me that I'm actually frustrating that 2 set at the beach and not opening (after getting clear ioi's) is pretty weak. I'm going to the beach tomorrow.

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    10 Solid second of eye contact = major ioi. Only super confident ladies do that. Next time, hold it a few more seconds, like do your best to have her break eye contact first. You deffinitely starting to internalize the basic principles of the pickup arts and even doing just that is such a life changer, as you noted. Just keep practicing when you can. Developing that ability of reading IOIs is very important, keep the improvement going.

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach

    Thanks for the response shadow. I guess I just didn't have the inner confidence while I was there to take that as a major ioi. Self doubt basically. But now that I know sexy girls are checking me out, I'll have to change that.

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    Default Re: 2set at the beach made eye contact, I need to take action

    Keep going. After a few months of studying game and being in field you realized its about read and react. Reacting is usually the harder of the two. lol


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