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    Default 1st real attempt - mixed results

    hey guys,

    I went out last night on a works do and thought this would be a good time to try and get over some Approach Anxiety, the night wasn't a great success but wasn't a complete failure.

    my intention was to at least smile and say hi to girls I bumped into or were around me, I smiled at several girls and got a couple of smiles back but didn't follow it up.

    I had the perfect opportunity at the bar to talk to 4 girls who were in front of me but I just went blank and froze, I did manage to stand at the side of one of them at the bar as I got served and tried to chat but it was nothing more than small talk and they walked away once their drinks came.

    I got chatted up by the worlds worst cougar later at the bar which could have gone somewhere but I do have some standards lol.

    there was a 3 set on the dance floor who offered me the last bit of their cocktail pitcher and looked like they were gonna go but I managed start talking to them, 2 of them were friendly while the other one was a but stuck up, I did get the number of one of them before they left so not a complete loss.

    I tried opening a 2 set later by commenting on the novelty glasses one was wearing but it went down like a lead balloon and then her mate went really nasty and started having a go, so I felt it better to move on lol.

    so not as confident as I was hoping and I kept seeing girls I thought were hot but I couldn't approach and kept doubting myself - I was also pretty tipsy as the night went on (is it best to remain sober) and didn't really have anyone out with me who would have been a good wingman

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    Default Re: 1st real attempt - mixed results

    Ah, don't worry about anything, mate. This was only your first attempt and taking that step is a huge one already - trust me, I know.

    An ugly woman in her fourties is NOT a cougar. Cougars are hot! When they're not, they're just..... old. Or possibly someone your mother went to school with.

    Yes, it's better to remain sober. Alcohol will not Take Away any Approach Anxiety and it only harms your game, as you lose your ability to think straight after a couple of beers.

    All in all, I think you did well, because you actually went out there and practised. A lot of guys, even myself, have trouble doing so. So you can pat yourself on the back for that. The actual pick-ups will go better once you get some more practise. Remember, practise makes perfect and you're quite imperfect at the moment, but you'll get there with your current attitude.

    BTW don't get a wingman yet. You have to learn to fly solo because that makes the game harder, and thus you will become better than practising with a wing. When you've become a good PUA you can use a wing to get even better results easier - like HB10s

    Good luck, bro!

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    Default Re: 1st real attempt - mixed results

    Dude, that is definitely nothing but a success. A lot of people get into this and learn the theory, go out and think "I got this" and then chastise themselves because they don't get as far as they think they would. This happened to me at the start. We have to learn that it's more about in-field practise that will make us good at PUA. You got that straight away, well done .

    You did well my friend, on my first sarge I made one approach and it was extremely weak and I completely farmed it up, so congrats on having the courage to make a few approaches on your first real try.

    I agree with Virgil about the wing. If you got one now, you may become too dependant on having a wing with you and your game would suffer without one.

    Good stuff, mate, keep it up

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