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    Default First time approaching girl in mall

    Hello,

    Just about 30 minutes ago, I approached my first HB in a mall. She was a HB 8, maybe even 8.5, probably around 26-27.

    I walked up to her after about 15 minutes of contemplating and doubting myself, and began with an opinion opener in which I told her i was having a bet with my friends about who cheats more in relationships, guys or girls.

    We talked about that for a little bit, and i told her i hadn't seen her around before, and asked if she had just started working here...blah blah blah.

    Furthermore, i then transitioned with a direct close, telling her i couldn't lie to her, and smiled, saying that i came over here because i thought she was adorable, and wanted to introduce myself.

    I introduced myself, she told me her name, and I then said, anyway, I gotta go, but i'd like to get your number if that's ok, and she told me she had a boyfriend. I then said, alright, we'll just be best friends, and I smiled, shook her hand, told her it was nice to meet her again, and walked away.

    Any criticism/feedback?

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Congrats on your first approach! I would say good job on your opener but if it were me i would have chose a different topic. When she said she had a boyfriend i would have said something like...
    Me: "i have 3 goldfish"
    HB8: "Huh?"
    Me: "oh sorry i thought we were talking about things that dont matter"

    Or...
    "he can make us breakfast"

    Or
    "i'm sure hes a great guy thats there for you (starts bf destroyer), maybe we can all hang out sometime"

    You get the idea. You want to try to break through their barrier. Possibly if you talked with her a little more on other topics ex school, work, etc she would have given it because she would have that rapport and trust you. Make sure your body language is alpha as well.

    Or maybe she just had a bf

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Quote Originally Posted by DandyLion View Post
    I introduced myself, she told me her name, and I then said, anyway, I gotta go, but i'd like to get your number if that's ok, and she told me she had a boyfriend. I then said, alright, we'll just be best friends, and I smiled, shook her hand, told her it was nice to meet her again, and walked away.
    DandyLion: "I'd like to get your number if that's okay."

    Chicka: "I'm sorry, but I have a boyfriend."

    DandyLion: "That's cool, give it to me anyway."

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Cody,

    Really appreciate you responding to my post.

    One quick question: I really like the feedback you gave me, and I could see myself saying that, but where do you go from there, especially if she says, no really I can't, or i'm sorry, i would if i didn't have a boyfriend?

    Also, i'm sure all of you guys know i was pretty nervous in my approach, even though i acted confident and smiled, and gave off friendly body language. Does this just go away with time, or do you find that aa always exists?

    Any suggestions on how to implement Kino there, especially since she's at work, and i'm not sure how many girls are likely to be picked up in a setting like that.

    Regards,

    DandyLion

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    -If she insists on her not giving u her number then don't nagg her about it remember don't give a shit.
    -Everyone has a certain degree of aa, but if u'd 'warmed' up before it would go away. I think all HB sense the AA but only the SHB's will make a big deal out of it.
    -The only Kino i would do is a light touch on her shoulder before u leave.
    -If I have to give it a number i'd say maybe 80%. In fact studies show that most girls prefer to get picked up in day time.
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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    One quick question: I really like the feedback you gave me, and I could see myself saying that, but where do you go from there, especially if she says, no really I can't, or i'm sorry, i would if i didn't have a boyfriend?

    I'd commend her on her loyalty and tell her that he must be a lucky guy. For me, there's too many girls to get hung up on one. Brush your shoulders off, but if you still wanted to persist I would ask Xavier [Edit: Nevermind, he responded already lol]; he's a boyfriend destroying champ.

    Does this just go away with time, or do you find that aa always exists?

    Yeah, sometimes I miss it. Lol, but seriously I don't think twice about it anymore when sometimes I should. I come on too strong and get blown off because I'm such a prick. Oops.

    Any suggestions on how to implement Kino there, especially since she's at work, and i'm not sure how many girls are likely to be picked up in a setting like that.

    Just do it. Most girls are bored out of their minds at work. It's an ideal place to get picked up for them (excluding waitresses who get sick of it and exploit it for tips.)
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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Cody and Xavier,

    Thanks a lot guys, really appreciate all of the feedback you give me, and how willing you are to help me on my journey haha.

    Xavier: Hopefully you found my message on MM useful, but if you have anymore questions feel free to ask.

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    -If she insists on her not giving u her number then don't nagg her about it remember don't give a sh1t.
    -Everyone has a certain degree of aa, but if u'd 'warmed' up before it would go away. I think all HB sense the AA but only the SHB's will make a big deal out of it.
    -The only Kino i would do is a light touch on her shoulder before u leave.
    -If I have to give it a number i'd say maybe 80%. In fact studies show that most girls prefer to get picked up in day time.
    U could have tried to get her number by saying something like this' i thought u were interesting and i wanted to get to know u but u have a bf, so what ljbf, can't u have any male friends?' If she still persists don't nagg her.
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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    Quote Originally Posted by xavier View Post
    U could have tried to get her number by saying something like this' i thought u were interesting and i wanted to get to know u but u have a bf, so what LJBF, can't u have any male friends?' If she still persists don't nagg her.
    Xavier,

    No i initiated, but after about 3 days of not talking to her.

    Regards,

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    Default Re: First time approaching girl in mall

    I generally transition much faster for the direct. The conversation needed to get more sexual and you needed to qualify her. You were simply entertaining her which would have led to a flake because she would not have any reason to remember you. If she tells you she has a bf, look to try a bf destroyer. You could even say "what's it like to have someone who's is willing to do anything for you and truly appreciates you for you are?" (You speak of an ideal bf thats likely not hers)


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