This is my first FR. I made it deliberately in details since I am looking for feedback and having a lot of details will help others who haven’t put all pieces together yet.
A little bit about me as a context. Whenever I am in a presence of available girls I automatically start flirting. I am usually cocky and funny with everyone, just with the girls I turn my game on. I work indirect game (Mystery Model) modified for the day game using philosophy by Roosh (Day Bang). Usually I play social circle game. The philosophy is not to scare the cat away by being too direct. Steps I take are basically MM (although I am not that strict). This game model suits my personality best.
Day 0 - introduction
When I came to the coffee shop I was introduced to the gang. What I tend to do is to figure out relationships of the group early in ("Where do you guys know each other from?"). This helps greatly figuring logistics later on and prevents any unnecessary time waste (and I don't want to hit on a girl of the guy who brought me in). Also, during this starting period I never miss an opportunity to tease or bust some balls on whoever (guy or girl) who I think is opened enough (and usually everybody is). This is the power of social circle game.
Sooner or later we came to those "mandatory boring early rapport building" questions such as "what do you do for living". Here is first difference between night and day game. During night I make girls work for it. I will either ask "guess" or say something like "wrestle sharks". During day I tell a story.
"I know what you will think about me when I tell you what I do. I work for a large corporation in R&D department but we actually don't develop anything. When my company wants to have something, it buys it. My job is to make sure we buy correct thing..." Then I usually describe the whole process via example of buying and customizing a glass or bottle that is at the table. I introduce a lot of DHV spikes such as working with foreign business partners (and travelling), leading a multinational teams, working on a long lasting, large projects... I tend to describe everything via pictures and emotions since that is the language of woman psychology (and I really love my job). Again, talking about job at night is boring and I tend to skip it or keep it as short as possible.
Again during this there are small details that can make or break the whole presentation, such as body language (lean back, arm splay, concentrate on the whole group not just the target), eye contact (during that coffee I made several strong eye contacts that were slightly prolonged) and never missing an opportunity to be cocky & funny or bust some balls.
Sooner or later the topic of traveling or hobbies comes out. I have been travelling extensively during my high school years so I have a lot of interesting stories to talk about (they also have DHV spikes).
Other side of the coin (or A2) is to let your target (and others) to show their stories. Target, if she is interested enough, will usually starts to qualify herself here to "keep up with cool you".
There were to girls and two guys in the mix. One girl had to leave soon after I came and she had a (legit) boyfriend. Other one stayed and I started working on her. *She "had to leave" a couple of times but decided to stay when I told her to ("you can leave but you will be missing all the fun”) (false time constraint on her side, it is always nice to notice that, ignore it and turn it to IOI). Basically that whole evening was story telling and general chatting. Then another guy came who was a friend of that guy who introduced me to the gang. He was also very cocky and funny which is a type of personality I enjoy most talking to. I used that opportunity to completely ignore my target. One thing that I noticed now as of writing this is that my target (who is a very quiet and shy girl) started talking intensely with the new guy who I was chatting most of the time.
One thing that I like to do early on is to seed a possibility (or as I like to call it an excuse) for later meeting. This girl works at some lab and I asked her if she can get me some test tubes I could use for drinking shots. She said she will ask about it (IOI).
At some point I told everybody I usually like to open some brainstorming subject and stop talking about boring subjects such as weather. Topic I chose was "which is a better reproduction strategy for man - monogamy or polygamy". Reason I choose this subject is that telegraphs I have no problem talking about sex and it is an introduction to sex vibe I will start at some point with my target. She later called me moderator which is another IOI (being a leader).
Later we were talking about going out somewhere but it was Thursday and nothing was going on so we went to the nearby Chinese restaurant.
I used this opportunity for little more socializing and DHV (we talked about wine and whiskies which are another topics I know something about). Girl had to leave after the dinner and I asked her if she can give me some contact so we can get in touch regarding the testing tubes. I usually ask one of three things depending on how I think the girl feels comfortable with me (and how she is in general). I asked her for her gtalk (aka mail). It is a little better than Facebook but worse than the number. I thought asking for the number would telegraph too much interest (as it turn out she was already sold and I could have asked for it).
Chat 1 -hooking
I waited 4 days to send her gtalk invite (during weekend and I never waste time with possible “next” adventures during a weekend. Weekend is reserved for family, friends and sealing previous deals).
While I was getting her gtalk contact I wrongly typed her name and while I asked her to confirm it she told me the name was wrong. This was her new nickname. I always do that with girls either during first contact (night game) or while chatting. She confirmed my invite in matter of minutes (and it was during working hours). I knew it was on. I opened with the nickname and if she checked what was she supposed to. Her response was "until now i didn't think i needed to” (a little resistance is always nice). And she said she will do it right away (ahh, such innocent girl who is already so into me). I did some Krauser routines on her (this guy has awesome chat routines): point system, "my mother warned me about you" routine, some more serious ball busting mixed with comfort building and I made an completely incorrect (but logical) assumption regarding her job and made her figure out my way of thinking. I then broke the conversation when it was at its highest ("have to help a colleague"). And asked her to leave me her phone number since my gtalk tends to have problems and loose messages.
Chat 2- next day
She didn't leave me her number and I didn't ask her for it when I came to chat that same day. Next day she opened me with her phone number "oh I am sorry I didn't leave it for you, here it is. And here is an info regarding the testing tubes." I told her it would be nice if she could help me buy them and choose correct ones (indicating interest – A3) and it sounds like an excellent excuse for a coffee. She said yes and we arranged to meet on Saturday (this is what weekends are for). *Also she told me that she was reviewing our chat from yesterday and she figured out the logic behind my statement. +10 points.
Day 1 - the date
We met at the city center. I was, of course, late. I met her with a hug (early kino). She was little uncomfortable. calibration. We bought the testing tubes and she bought something for her job. I paid for everything under condition that she buys drinks. Reasoning behind this is more comfort building since friends usually have this tit-for-tat relationship.
One thing I noticed early on is how closed she was. Like a little scared pu...cat. I understand that girls (and guys) are more open while chatting (reasoning behind getting FB or mail for low comfort girls). Used drinks for more comfort building with minimum cocky & funny. After drinks I told her I needed to do some chores and would like to do some window shopping. I don't believe in classical dates. This stuff is much better. We went to a shopping mall (which is accidentally closer to my apartment). We went for shoe shopping (for me). She was also looking something for herself. More talking, comfort building and kino. Regarding kino, I would rapidly change direction so she would get lost so at one point I started physically turning her where we were supposed to go. At one point I took her hand and put it under my arm. When I felt she was not comfortable I released it (MM kino trick). I also used a vin di carlo escalation ladder.
Next I suggest we should go to take walk at a lake. I am living pretty close. When she agreed I noticed a stand selling blueberries and I bought one package. I told her I need to drop them home because they would spoil in the car. We went to my apartment and I showed her around (because I was renovating recently and want her opinion ). We had one drink and then I told her we should leave. Reasoning behind this is that I want to get her accustomed to my place and not have any "big moments" next time she comes.
We went for a walk and explore what is going on at the lake. As the day progressed I switched more and more from cocky & funny to comfort and "deep" subjects. Discussing psychology, human behavior, human sexuality, good books, qualification questions...
It was getting dark and we stopped at some huge rocks next to the lake to rest. There I did palm reading, the cube, talked about childhood (talking about the past or the future always relates in comfort and rapport). She had some candy so I fed her. Then when I thought I had everything handled her phone rang and she had to go to her sister's (something came up). “Damn” I thought. We started walking to her train station. This time she told me "I don't want to get lost" and grabbed my arm and put her under it. I thought to myself "finally". We talked some more and she gave me a hug as we were departing (I could have gotten away with the kiss at this point).
Whole time my vibe was that I am experience collector and open minded (which is true). Cube showed her she wanted a free horse which was basically what I have been talking about whole time with her. Guys, use cube and any cold reading to your advantage. It is not hard and leaves that “omg” effect.
Next day she asked me when we will see each other again. I said I was pretty busy man (which I am) but we can work something up on Tuesday but only if she is going to be more communicative and opened (make her work for your time and if she is not as you demanded, at least you can tease her about it).
Day 2 - good friend LMR
We planned to meet at 21:00 but something came out on my side. So I canceled. She asked me if any other time is OK and I said same day 23:00 or maybe next morning but highly unlikely. She said OK for 23:00. Somewhere around 22:30 she texted me that she is tired and with sister (they two are moving couple of streets away from me). I told her I would like to meet her sister and that they can both join for quick drink and I will chase them away at 23:15. She said sister is going to her BF. I said why you don’t come. “But I will still chase you away at 23:15” (FTC).
She came; we had one drink ("would you like to try my family's whine?"). Did some thumb wrestling, and started escalating. Soon we were making out. After that she was on top of me. But then those dear four words came out ("it is too soon"). I said ok, I completely understand. Moved her away and took my cell phone to check FB. I walked then to the bathroom and came back, checked my messages and started chatting with my friend via FB. She was not very happy and we started making out again but again she said it is too early. I understood that it was definitive “no” for the evening. We talked and drunk some more, then I've sent her home agreeing that we will meet during weekend, probably Saturday.
Message 1- keep me in your mind
I have sent her one message on Thursday "I saw someone looking exactly like you from behind. But she was wearing some ugly shoes so I know it wasn't you". She responded with a smile. I stopped the chat. Idea is that I want her to think about me (and be unpredictable).
Day3 - closing
I waited for her to open me with the meeting details. I expected she was going to open me during Saturday morning but I received her message on Friday night. Since I was out with my best friend, I decided I would respond when I come home.
I’ve sent her message saying “We will meet round 20:00 and you should bring some mushrooms and a lighter”. I planned on cooking something and she was going to help and learn something (she doesn't cook :/). Lighter was just a distraction (MM).
I also told her to dress nice. She responded how nice. I told her as if she were meeting a sexy guy.
Half an hour before she should have come I have sent her text that I am hitting the shower and she should not do anything kinky. Next message was: "But if you do, you have to tell me".
Idea was to build a sex vibe before she comes as I don't want to spend whole evening opening her and setting her in the right mood.
She came; we cooked, dined, had a couple of drunks, and then watched some movie (as before swimming, you should rest after a meal). In retrospect some TV show would be better since movie is too long. We started making up near the end of the movie. She wanted to finish the movie (a hook). I said ok but I will make pay for it later. And that she has to bring me a glass of water.
After the movie ended I sensed LMR lurking again but in the meantime I have done my homework. I picked this from someone listening De Angelo “interviews with dating gurus”. Basically I told her a story of a girl friend of mine who was afraid sleeping with a guy she was into because she would be perceived as a slut. Message you want to send is that her life should not be dictated by her friends and if the guy is nice, she likes him and he treats her well then it is no big deal and is ok. This worked like a charm. We started making out and I started doing the escalation ramp. She is a wild one and has perfect thigh body (which is my preference). Her face should use some makeup, she should have long hair and I wouldn't mind if she would have bigger breasts. But she is a learner and I am considering working a little bit with her. I would put her as high 8 but because she is very introverted and she needs some work to open up, and no makeup policy, she looked like 7.
For those who managed to read this monstrosity of a post, I just wanted to say that my idea was to give as much info as possible since I am a beginner myself and having all parts put together is one large "aha" effect.
Please, any feedback is welcomed.
And one last message: “Always leave them in a better state that you have found them (at least in the long run)”.