An important part of pick-up... the put-down.
Taking the high-road and owning a break up the right way is tough to do but it is worth it. It feels strong and right - better than locking in with tight game.
So after reading this post I decided to break it off with a code five clinger I've been seeing since March. She's a cool chick and I do like her.
I had just got off work and we're hanging in the library (where I work). I can tell something's bothering her and eventually she says she feels like I'm not as "into the relationship as she is" - btw I'm moving town in a week.
*BOUNCE to a coffee shop to talk.
On the way we Fluff about non-emotional stuff.
At the coffee shop we go back and forth:
Her: "This can work long distance"
Me: "I don't see how"
Her: "This, or that is how"
Me: "We both know that's not practical..."
yada, yada, yada,
Her: "It sounds like we should just break up"
Me: "I think thats all we can do."
I offer to take the bus but she says she'll drive me home. She's been prettty emotional the whole way over. Then parked in front of my house it all comes out - all of her concerns, "what does she say when people ask about me?" "How does she talk to me?" "What are we doing for the next week?" "Do you just want to go back to my place and talk or have sex or whatever?"
*BOUNCE to her place.
Kino escalates and, as Sienfeld says, yada, yada, yada, then we're laying on the floor talking. She asks if we're still breaking up, I say yeah, she asks the same "so, what now?" questions and I tell her not to overthink it.
After crying it out, after a bit of intimacy, after talking, she comes to terms with (A) Long distance wouldn't work, and (B) She'll be okay without me, she'll move on.
It's like the last bit in the Mystery Method, when a relationship ends, the girl feels she's lost something valuable. It is our responsibility as men, to walk her through that: for our own integrity, out of concern for her, so as to not turn her into a b1tch to all men (especially the next PUA ) and above all because when girls are with PUAs they have a good time - even when they're being broken up with.