Tried daygame for the first time and man did it ever suck!
Let me just preface this by saying that though I have approached girls in bars before last night, not once had I ever approached a random girl in the day. I barely even converse with hired guns when I'm shopping. I think it's fair to say I was out of my element. Strangely, I did not realize this going in.
Given the ease with which I was able to open sets in the bar last night, (it was my first time sarging if you haven't read my other field report) I really wasn't all that nervous going in. After I practiced my opener of choice (the cologne opener, modified so that it was a bet between me and a friend on which cologne women prefer) on two amnesty international recruiters I had very little anxiety at all.
I approached a girl walking towards me with the same opener, then went direct saying "Actually to be honest I did have an ulterior motive for talking to you. I noticed you and thought you looked really attractive so." I then suddenly realized this must make our entire conversation up to this point look like exactly what it was: a ploy to pick up chicks. "What I said before was all true" I stammered. "But I noticed you and.." Im not really sure how I ended it, but rest assured it sounded pretty lame. She seemed somewhat flattered but then she kind of laughed and said "Im 17 so.."
"Oh really," I said. "I thought you were older because your face has such great bone structure." (she had nice high cheek bones). I then said I was 23 and maybe a bit old for her, and the interaction was terminated. I was relieved. Unfortunately my next approach was even worse.
The guy I was sarging with does not to my knowledge have an alias, so for today's purposes we'll just refer to him as "Jesus" as I witnessed him perform several daygame miracles. Anyway so Jesus was working his divine charm on an insanely sexy, cute, young dentist, and I'm thinking this is great! He'll flirt with a girl and I'll go find one too! No pressure this time cause I'm not being observed!
So I waited until I spotted a girl with a great bust, then attempted to do the run around in front of her and stop with palms out technique. The problem was there was a guy walking in front of her and to the side, making this approach impossible. I ended up kind of jogging on the spot beside her, trying to get by the dude so I could circle around. I looked over at her and saw that she was staring at me, so stupidly I stopped and tried a direct opener. I say stupidly because what I should have done was sprint the heck out of there asap, and pray that Jesus's dentist had a hygienist friend for me.
"Hi," I said instead. "I saw you from over there and just thought you look really attractive."
"okaaayyyy..." She said, with the unmistakable Im-talking-to-a-social-leper expression all over her face.
"I wanted to ask you a question. Are you confident enough to accept a sincere compliment?"
"Good. me too! you go first." She chuckled a bit at that and looked slightly less uncomfortable for a second, but there was no way she was giving me a compliment. Lamely, I said "just kidding, I'll go first."
Now shortly beforehand Jesus had told me he usually compliments the girls on an item of clothing, so I scanned her clothes to see what nice things I could say about them.
She was wearing shorts and a tank top, both incredibly generic. I looked her over a second time, slower, hoping I could find something, anything to compliment her on besides her rockin' body. Everything looked generic. It was at this point that I realized how much it must look like I was just blatantly checking her out.
I felt like falling to my knees and screaming "Damnit"! But instead I said "Anyway I thought you were attractive and just wanted to make you smile." which earned me a weak half grin, and her out of my life forever. Thank GOD!
I tried to regain my state by approaching two cute 40 year olds with the cologne opener, but the one just kept saying "oh my god is this for real?" like three times in a negative tone. I was tired and defeated so I just kinda said yes, sure, whatever, it's for real.
Not wanting to look like a total bum I tried to do one more approach before heading home. The girl was really cute. I tried the original version of the cologne opener and I think I delivered it pretty well. Problem was she is actually allergic to some ingredients in cologne, so she couldn't smell my wrists. There was a split second where I could have tried to go into some other bit and spike interest, but there was just nothing in my head. She left.
As I walked back to Jesus he said "I actually f-closed that girl in college, so did like four of my friends". This world is a strange place.
I think I learned a lot today. For one I learned that day game sucks, but appears to have some great rewards for those who can master it. Jesus got phone numbers from three out of the four girls he approached, and he just looked like he was on top of the world. There's something about daygame that just makes it seem more real, and it's not the absence of alcohol (pretty much all the girls i approached last night were sober as a judge). I think I will explore daygame further, despite its initial difficulty. Next time I'll try using only direct openers, and wearing a brightly colored T shirt instead of the black long sleeve. Irregardless I really doubt I could do any worse than I did today. In that strange way, this disaster is actually quite comforting.