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Thread: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

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    Default Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Help me out with this one please. I met an HB8 about a year ago and we have stayed in contact on and off since we met. For the last two months we have been hooking up on a regular basis. Plenty of times she will text me to see if she can come over after spending a night clubbing with her friends. These last two weeks she has been spending more time than ever with me and we have really been going at it.

    I left tow on Friday for work and she even took me to the airport. After being gone for a few days I send her a text letting her know that I'm back in town and invited her over. She replies with " Hey! I'm in a relationship now and we can't continue our fun, if things don't workout BELIEVE ME! I WANT SOME MORE OF YOU."

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Not sure what it is that you want my friend. Sounds like it was just a booty call relationship. Then she found someone she wants to take seriously.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    I'm just wondering if there was something that I did wrong that let this other guy push me out of the way.

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Once a certain dynamic has become habit it can be difficult to break out of. Such as a booty call relationship.

    Doing things like letting her know how special you think she is, can help if you want an LTR. Or having quality time together without sex. Having deep conversations is a nice way to build intimacy.

    Basically if you find yourself only texting her what time to come over then you got yourself a booty call relationship and she took it as such. Not a bad thing. Just different intentions.

    Now you've known her for a bit so maybe you feel you have done this stuff. Like making her feel special and having convos with her other than the time you guys hang out. So more detail would help.
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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    I talked to her today. She told me that I was fun and exciting and that I made her do things that she normally wouldn't do. She went on to say that I brought out a part of her that she didn't know that she had and this guy is more of what she is really like.

    I'm going to miss the "fun" with her but, I can say that overall the ordeal was a success. I met her on the metro and ended up being able to get her into my bed. I am going to also say that being able to convince her to mess around with somebody that was out of her comfort zone.

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    So what exactly is your question?

    To explain to you why she is doing all this would depend on how long you were together/ known each other, if she told you she was hooking up with other guys or not, and your all around relationship with her.

    I'll tell you this much, I wouldn't believe she just got involved with that other guy if she is even in a relationship. Sometimes people say things like that as a matter of control so that you throw yourself at her and lose your cool.

    Don't lose your cool no matter what. You can either let her walk away, and chances are once she sees she didn't get a rise out of you she will be back. Or you can meet up with her and tell her you want to hear it from her in person. It's harder to stand your ground on a decisions against someone you care about when they're looking you straight in the face.

    Good luck dude & Enjoy the single life.

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Well, she was never my gf and I made some AFC mistakes when I first met her so, I'm sure that I didn't build the best foundation. I was always able to keep some level of attraction and she never mentioned that she was hooking up with other men.

    After the new boyfriend conversation she has sent me a few text messages saying that she misses me or wants to hangout again. I usually respond to them hours later or the next day. I think this lets her know that I have a life besides waiting for her to text me at her leisure.

    I really didn't lose anything out of the ordeal. As long as I have known her I most likely spent about $30 on her, had sex with her over 20 times, and she still seems to have a positive attitude about me. It isn' t like she was the only one on my roster or even my favorite. I posted this mainly looking for some solid feedback on any mistakes that I may have made that I didn't notice myself and for thoughts from others in the game. Much appreciation to Sponge and Batman!

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Quote Originally Posted by FreeNdc View Post
    Well, she was never my gf and I made some AFC mistakes when I first met her so, I'm sure that I didn't build the best foundation. I was always able to keep some level of attraction and she never mentioned that she was hooking up with other men.

    After the new boyfriend conversation she has sent me a few text messages saying that she misses me or wants to hangout again. I usually respond to them hours later or the next day. I think this lets her know that I have a life besides waiting for her to text me at her leisure.

    I really didn't lose anything out of the ordeal. As long as I have known her I most likely spent about $30 on her, had sex with her over 20 times, and she still seems to have a positive attitude about me. It isn' t like she was the only one on my roster or even my favorite. I posted this mainly looking for some solid feedback on any mistakes that I may have made that I didn't notice myself and for thoughts from others in the game. Much appreciation to Sponge and Batman!

    Sounds like a Friends with benefits(FWB) and thats all it ever was. Your dealing with a different set of negotiations when it comes to FWB and if you agree to it the "disclaimer" is freedom to leave or go AWOL whenever.

    I was in a very similar situation as yours with this hottie, and we both were sort of silent about the decision but consciously agreed thats all we were to each other, was friends with benefits. But we had alot of fun and good times, neither of us would have regretted it, and in fact I am still on good terms with her.....just no action The whole tone of the situation just warranted FWB and nothing more...what we both wanted.

    I also prepped my mind mentally in the beginning knowingly that any moment it could end, and that if that happened I would not down myself or think what I did wrong, as in such a situation abrupt changes are likely...especially in the situation I was in. Guarantees and warranties do not apply on relationships like this, or at least thats what I believe, its just the nature of them.

    She would occasionally text message me when she was around out of no where. Literally my phone would go off after a few years of not hearing from her and its her looking to get together. Half the times I wasnt even available is how random she would be. But it did not bother me, and in fact I would do the same thing to her. Neither of us got upset or told each other to "stop it" as it was all negotiated in the beginning.......

    That's the name of the game......

    Something I always say to myself in those situations...and in the end I take the experience and do not judge myself other than Yes/No questions, Did I do some work and have some happy moments? Yes. Did I make her happy and enjoy herself? Yes.

    Mission Complete.

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    Default Re: Sex on Thursday new bf on Sunday??

    Thanks DJ Chill! that is a pretty good outlook on the situation. I will have to adopt it for the next one that comes around.


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