I've always had massive aa even with girls I know personally. But the bar scene really opened my eyes to how fortunate I am to have found this forum and tonight I decided to try a new method for breaking my AA at the bar. Observing how other guys behave in the bars is really quite sad....They are all dressed up in their nicest collared shirts, hair spiked, cologne sprayed so thick you can taste it in the air...and yet almost all of them were either all huddled together at their own tables peeking over their shoulders at the talent...or acting obnoxious trying to get some girl's attention. A lot of these fellas are 2x as good looking as I am (I'm 5'11 and 140lbs).
My friend Jessica came to meet me for a few (friendly) drinks.
Jessica is an HB9 in my book and so I decided to use her as a dhv in front of the bar crowd. I looked around the bar for a girl I thought was cute, told Jessica I was going for it and I got up. Suddenly everything I read on these forums and taught myself escaped me. I walked up, didn't make any sort of eye contact until I was standing right in front of her(bad) Didn't address her friends just her (bad) And I opened my mouth and the dumbest verbal diareha came spewing out. "Hi there, I'm Jake and i don't mean to be rude but I saw you and I just had to come over and talk to you...you look adorable." I stuck out my hand and she shook it and smiled "Oh my gosh thank you!"
At this point my mind went blank...Instead of asking her friends names, or at least asking more about her I said the worst thing possible:"Would you mind If I bought you a drink?" As soon as the words left my mouth I was knew I was beyond saving at that point. She replies:"Oh no thank you, my friends and I are leaving soon." I say: "Well it was nice to meet you" and I walked away.
Gents, I have to say even though this was a horrible trainwreck of a pick-up, it finally made me realize that even though I don't want to be rejected, I NEED to be rejected. Face the fear head on so I don't ever lose my cool again, especially when I need it the most.
Thanks for reading! I'd love some input/advice/feedback