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    Unhappy had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    so i took her on a picnic, and gamed her with some dhv stories and worked on getting a kiss, we went to my house and just cuddled on the couch for a while, she even kissed me on the cheek. we Kino escalated each other and it seemed like things went well. but about 2 hours after our date was over she sent me some dissapointing texts
    "i don't know if i can do this right now. you know i'm distant. i need time to figure myself out before i can expect anyone else to understand me"
    and later before i could answer her text
    "i don't want to be romantically involved with anyone. not now. that may change in three days or a week or twoyears, but for nowthat is what i need. just know that this has nothing to do with you."

    is this just her way of politely blowing me off, or is there another factor affecting her decision? what did i do wrong? is there anyway i can save this play, or should i just moove on?
    sorry for the long post,but i'm just confused right now, i thought i had pretty solid game what can i learn from this?

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    Default Re: had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    I'm sorry bro, one thing you start to learn with girls is that, at least at first, they can make you feel like everything is ok and then drop the bomb. I'm also consistently surprised on how quick girls can change their mind.

    The thing about it, the thing she said is somewhat true, but you shouldn't look at it that way, a girl will hardly tell you upfront that it didn't feel right with you.

    A girl once told me pretty much the exact same spiel you wrote, months later she told me how she felt like i was a player and because of my friends and the things i told her, she thought i wouldn't want to commit to her. It blew my mind a little.

    Out of what you've told us there's no way to know for sure. She probably gave you a congruence test somewhere you didn't notice and you failed, or maybe something you said activated an alarm in her that you weren't being sincere, its always the littlest things that girls can pick up on.

    What now? Figure out if you want to take the easy route and just be friends with her, or if you want to take the more elaborate route if trying to win her back.

    If you want to win her back, some guys might suggest friend zoning her, i don't think thats the best option you have.

    I suggest working out a way to respond on how you're dissapointed without sound needy, as casual as possible as if it didn't bother you that much. Then tell her you want to say something to her, making it sound as casual as possible, telling her you want no drama.

    If she bites, CALL her and just tell her you wanted to say goodbye to her and tell her she was really cool and it was nice knowing her, end call. Then proceed to freeze her out completely, weeks, months, years might pass. There's a big chance you won't hear from her again.

    The reason it sometimes works is because you're flipping the script. Right now she has all the power and influence, and she controls the outcome, the other way around you've given her something to lose, and its now up to her to win you back. It worked wonders with a friend, this girl was super confident in blowing him off, he did the exact same thing i described, a few days later the girl came back to him in tears telling him she didn't want to lose him.

    Whatever happens keep in mind the lessons: No matter how well you think things are, keep on your toes because a breakup might come out of nowhere. That small things can trigger other bigger things.

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    Default Re: had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    thankyou jtores, i think my problem was that i faked confidence,because of my inner game issues. i think she finally saw through it, and realized that i'm not near as confident/comfortable around wemon as i'd like to be do you know of any good/free imfo on inner game problems? also i sort of started to get one-itis towords the end, how do i do nc if i have a class with her everyday? i know i have alot of questions right now,but i need answers :/

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    Default Re: had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    Inner game comes with practice and just time in the game. You might not believe it but i swear that you start to change without noticing and the world around you reacts differently without you trying.

    You say you have a class with her, thats a good opportunity. Switch it up and sit a couple of seats away from where you were, away from her. Then game other girls, maybe one different each day.

    Just run a different routine on different girls each day in the class, she WILL notice this and start to think maybe she made a mistake. This will also help out with your inner and outer game and will be a good opportunity to see how girls react to different material, its win all around.

    Don't stare at her, don't say hi, don't smile and don't frown. Act like you've never met her before. You should act in class like you're great, everything's great and you lead an awesome life.

    And post any questions, i know it sucks bro.

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    Default Re: had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    meteroa read up dude, the part about 'whats a nice guy' and 'Second to last, do not think relationship' : My observation about women and other guys out in the field

    Think of it this way, let her be the one who wants to take it slow or wants to be in a relationship. You should concentrate on you, sounds selfish but it isnt. It is expected for a man to man-up and to fark any emotional indicators. You showed her that you was a 'nice guy' and 'you wanted a relationship'.
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    Default Re: had an ok date, but she broke up with me, what went wrong?

    i think i became to emotionaly attached and she saw through me, witch destroyed my game, thanks for the advice guys,i'm glad i can count on you guys


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