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Thread: Swing Dance Number Close

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    Howdy,


    I was out with my boys last night, and the club scene at the local college town was a little off, so we heard about a swing dancing thing at the local ministry. They were content with being wallflowers watching HBs dance with nerds (this is a swing dancing event, after all), so, being the go-getter I am, I started putting my hand out and dancing with every girl there, striking up conversation, until I found one I liked. We vibed for a bit after, she said she wanted to get back on the floor so she danced with her (male) friend, but later found herself around my group of guy friends, so that when I was talking to them, she obviously eavesdropped and jumped back into the conversation. We vibed a bit more, and the same male friend (I believe) grabbed her mid convo and danced (whatever). We talked for some more, then we danced and I said "You're kinda fun to talk to, we have to continue this conversation." She agreed, and I said, "How do you recommend I contact you? Then she stammered a bit, got giggly, put her head down, and said "I guess I could give you my number."

    Positive body language was rampant throughout the conversation, she was constantly twirly her hair, we were touching each other, and especially during the dance. I was dropping hints ("You're lucky you're kinda cute, I normally don't do this). I think at one point I was even playing with her hair. Once I got the number, I said "Hey, this is W.Axl.Rose, who is that hot guy you're talking to?" (while i was still standing right in front of her)


    In retrospect, I should have isolated her by bringing her outside. Even though it was a religious institution (I'm by no means religious), after I called her a rule breaker, she was telling me how "sinful" she was and how "lustful" she is. Definitely not a history making story, but still feels nice to be back out there cold approaching. Thoughts are always appreciated.

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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    Follow up--got her number Friday, texted her Sunday, and she is giving me short and simple sentences. I've decided to not respond tonight, and tomorrow, go for more open questions that would require more investment. Today's texts featured wimiscal responses from my end, a la, "Magnetic Messaging," but her texts really have not given a lot of input, so, tomorrow, I might throw a question in, but ultimately push for the meetup. If it's going to happen, it's going to happen, waiting probably is not my friend in this instance. Thoughts are always appreciated.

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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    Go for a meetup, that's what text game is for. Something casual like "[dhv comment] + the question is: coffee or icecream?"

    Probably she'll be into one of those two.

    [Gotta give credit to Cody. I took that ^ exact advice from him (almost word for word) last summer and it worked perfectly!]
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    Question CONFUSED!

    First of all, Autismus, solid advice. I borrowed from another thread "I just made you open your phone for no reason...looks like I got you in check =]" and she responded with a smiley saying it sounded like I was dying to talk to her. I pushed back, and used the "coffee or ice cream line" and we went out for coffee. Hung out for two hours getting coffee and at the park, and she had even said earlier, she had to be back early to study for an exam. There was definitely flirting. Some sexuality (though, not a lot, she seems more reserved, so I pushed till resistance, then backed off) Some qualifying. Light touching, I tickled her for a bit. A couple of times she would back off, nothing major, just slight reactions, but, overall, she seemed comfortable with Kino. Lots of teasing...



    Here is where I need HELP, because we were in public during the day, there was no opportune time to kiss her, except for when I dropped her off at her house, and she got out of the car too quickly to move in for it. It didn't feel awkward at all hanging out, and, as far as I could tell, everything seemed to be on track. We both even talked about hanging out in the future and whatnot, but, I just don't get it. Previous experience dictates that lack of K-closing on a first hang out makes it nth degree harder to push things forward next time. She is an HB, but, she's nerdy and a little awkward, so, not a typical HB. Can I have any thoughts? I was totally alpha, and we bonded, and I teased as much as I could, but again, she is more sensitive than other girls of her attractiveness, so harsh negs were out. I'm okay with failure, as long as I can learn and improve for next time.




    Thanks again, guys.

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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    Well, you could have just told her to come back when she was getting out. Say "I see you're a bit of an amature at dating. You're supposed to kiss me before you leave."

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    That definitely would have been an interesting approach. I will have that in my arsenal for next time, however, in terms of gaming this particular girl, what would you advise? Waiting for her to text me? Me texting her again? I feel like hanging out for two hours is a long time for there not to be any attraction. She could have wanted to leave the coffee shop super early, she could have said no to the park, instead of lighting up, she could have talked about leaving as soon as we got there. I'm not an expert by any means, but, nothing seemed off.

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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    I'm not sure, she seems insecure and shy and i'm terrible at gaming those types of girls since i'm too outgoing. So they tend to be overwhelemed. Maybe you should just try setting up another date? You said you talked about hanging out in the future. Maybe you should go to one of the things you guys already talked about.

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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    That sounds great. Thanks. It sounds so simple, but the thing is, I have it so ingrained in my head through experience that not k-closing is certain death. But she definitely is less mature and secure than girls I normally go for.


    For instance, there is a girl in one of my classes that constantly sh!t tests me, and I constantly neg her. There is a definite Tension there, and as I catch and release (in class) she has got to the point where she will open me in the beginning of class, and I'll catch her stealing glimpses at me. I have a pretty good feeling I can Number Close her after class Monday. Those are the girls I find easier to read, because, you just put a positive spin on any sh!t test they give you, and eventually they come around.


    I'll wait a few days and send shy girl a text Monday the latest, and push for a meet up in a location that is a bit more isolated, so I can escalate more comfortably.


    ...And actually, I'll push for a place she already mentioned, because she basically already proposed the invite. This way, it'll seem like her idea, and she'll probably be more apt to go for it.
    Last edited by W.Axl.Rose; 09-19-2012 at 08:00 PM. Reason: Additional thought
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    Default Re: Swing Dance Number Close

    Prep for Round 2!


    Okay, so I added her on Facebook Friday, texted her Monday. She played along with the inside jokes, some light connecting. I pushed for a meet Monday night, she said she was too tired, I asked when she was free, she said Tuesday if I wanted to, I said that worked. Ten minutes later, she said it didn't work, and she'd let me know. It is now Wednesday and I'm not sure what the next line of attack is. How long do I wait before going at it again? Nothing to lose, but, the OBVIOUS lesson learned seems to be, no matter what, no matter what, be more direct on a D2, and if need be, go further out of my way to go for a K-close.


    I'm not terribly invested in this girl, cool as she is, I'm just making it a point to plow until it is a for sure "no."
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