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Thread: College update from peel - October 1st 2012

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    Default College update from peel - October 1st 2012

    Hopefully this gets itself to the college guys out there who can give me advice.

    As those of you know, Ive been "daygaming" when I have time. Now that I have to work jobs, I have less free time during the day. The flow of girls is much more scarce when I am free now and I have less time. Today I spent two hours walking around. A precious 2 hours wasted. I did not approach once due to a combination of Approach Anxiety, pickiness, and lack of hot girls or HB10's. The best I saw was probably like a 6-7 and I just wasn't feeling the need.

    Occasionally, I do see a very pretty girl but she's surrounded by other passerbys walking near her and I just dont want to open directly as its the only way that seems normal. Anything indirect doesnt work unless I quickly translate it to direct. I just hate doing that in front of people because I feel like a sleaze or dont want to be embarrassed or dont want them glaring at me with the 'you dont deserve to talk to her shes out of your league' face. There are some AFCs floating around that I feel would just be jealous pricks glaring at me from afar.

    Of the few interactions I've had and just talking to random people, they seem to all suggest and point to school clubs (not night clubs). I try to avoid mentioning me daygaming and just tell them how I feel I need to meet more people and this is what they suggest. A few of these suggestions were from girls I approached.

    So it seems clubs is where its at. The thing is Ive gone through the list and have already decided nothing interests me that much and its not worth the time. This is like the same thing the whole of last year except last year I actually went to a few clubs with no real spiking interest, nor did I find them with the HB10s I occasionally find walking around campus.

    It seems all is lost. Every now and then I will go to class and see a crowd of very good looking girls walking amongst the huge crowd of people and then feel frustrated since there's too many people around her to approach. So I say, dont worry I will wait until I dont have class (which I have found to be an excuse) and then I waste hours walking around doing nothing and chickening out.

    It seems Ive identified some key things and some sticking points that I may just be able to solve:
    -If you see a 10, f@ck it. Stop making excuses and just do it. Approach. Even if there's people around. Youve truly never done it before and you just waste weeks frustrated with regret and frustration. If you have to, come in indirect and keep it indirect as long as possible.
    -Join some clubs and stick with them goddamnit. I dont care if theyre not the most fking interesting in the world. Even if youre half interested. Its better than moping around all night. Stick with the club at least for a few weeks.
    -Even if the girl seems below your standard of intelligence by far. Stick with it. Youve passed up a couple girls because youve labeled them as boring or uninteresting or wont have good job after college is over since they party too much...... then you spend the next week moping around whining that you just want a good looking girl. You passed it up!


    Other points Ive noted:
    -I have to stay humble. Ive had quite a ton of rejections from the small amount of girls Ive approached. It hurts and stuff but at least Im proud to say that they were all good looking. I dont want to mislead anyone. I have gotten majority of rejections from the small amount Ive approached. The ones that have given me their number (2-3) were not 10s by any means.
    -I regret not asking this girl for her number. She was good looking. She wasn't a model but was pretty up there. She was uninteresting and partied while I care about schoolwork and a good job in the future. For this, I chose not to. And here Im sitting alone regretting it and all I want is a good looking girl now with a decent personality. :/


    *Finally, my plea: Daygaming is not working at all. It comes down to lack of opportunity to approach a 9 or 10 despite my seeming "large" state school. what to do? A possible solution would be to lower my standards for now, approach all girls no matter how ugly they are, and somehow rid myself of ALL these fears completely: fear of having a bad reputation (sleaze or pick up guy), fear of getting jealous angry glares, fear of other people observing

    I think the best course of action is to do this AND also try to join some clubs even if theyre not half interesting. What are the best clubs with hot girls?

    I have no connections to parties at all. Which is fine. I find them to be a huge time sink when I have schoolwork. They can take over your whole weekend. But it still just saddens me.

    Final observation note: The most hot girls on campus ... it seems to me... that my guess is they have a variety of random majors and simply just go to class and are a part of maybe one or two clubs (which are also quite random) and then just have a big natural social network and they party almost every other night. A good percentage of them are in a sorority.

    My thoughts: getting to meet them I either have to: join an affiliated frat (No) , get into the club they are in (possible but doesnt guarantee anything unless I make a noticeable effort to meet the person at the club which I will try), cold approach on campus (hard, they are rare), white people parties and/or bars (not invited, fine by me).

    Final final thoughts: Ive realized I dont want this to become too much of an obsession and it taking too much time since it's truly not that important at this stage of my life. But I realized that with no real social life and no real hobbies or enjoyments, my life just seems so dull and I dont feel like doing anything else so my grades slip. Other than hot girls, my only major enjoyment is MOBA computer games. Fck. Ive tried going through lists of hobbies and sh1t but nothing interests me. Gym and working out just becomes a chore too. Ive got to solve this fking problem. Clubs. I gotta join them. btw, we have a runners club but its like fking 5pm every day. Its already middle of fall and so fking cold.... dam. I'll try it out though. Maybe there'll be girls. Fck.
    Also, I dont think Im alone. My roommate does nothing but class and marching bad and random games on computer. And theres a whole group of people on my floor and other floors of all grade levels who spend their time going to class and playing video games and thats it. Still, I feel Im fking missing out. Fck these guys. 5/8 of my college is already over. No girlfriend and no kiss or anything.

    On the upside, girls are not that important and I have more time after college. Grades are more important. Also, Ive been getting better and have had some microsuccesses with approaches and decent conversations.

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    Default Re: College update from peel - October 1st 2012

    I feel like you need to change your whole idea of approaching sets and you really do make it all sound like a chore. I'm 24, but back when was 19/20 i had alot of success picking up ladies by just sitting around at the cafeteria or study halls looking like a boss and enjoying nice music through my peacocking headphones!

    Seriously the reason i think your success is dwindling away is maybe because after work you or the days after,you are tired and so anxious to get your pick up on that you fumble around and don't dhv properly. I find patience and self analysis go a long way in this game. There are only so many muscles on your face and body that you can control, the rest of your body moves according to how you feel psychologically.

    Don't burn out man, go for a jog, join a sports club, sit around and laze....go download some Chillstep music and go buy yourself some sexy headphones, then sit around and watch people and laugh for abit...guys or girls might just approach you and ask you what you're doing since you look so cool doing whatever it is you are doing...before you know it, you have a group of freshman dudes around you making you look good because you're soloing through the jungle with a big smile on your face....

    when you feel HAPPY, and in a GOOD MOOD....that is when your pick up skills can cut through anyone! Just don't force it....

    hope it helps...Peace

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    Default Re: College update from peel - October 1st 2012

    i think your stuck between a rock and a hard place, on one hand you won't approach girls who don't meet your standards, and on the other, you are to afraid of embarrasment that might come from approaching the few girls that do, i recomend you take up my current Mindset about aproaching girls "they are all just girls, no matter what they look like, and i need to approach girls if i want to have success with them" try to flirt with girls in general you can screen them later to see if they qualifie to meet your standards, the ones who don't meet your standards can become friends and pivots, the ones who do can become relationships. you are right that you need to lower your standards, you'll never get any better if you don't bite the bullet and flirt with girls who don't meet your seemingly "high" standards

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    Default Re: College update from peel - October 1st 2012

    You need to lower your standards on who you approach, not on who you sleep with or go out with

    I approach 5s-7s all the time if they are next to me to warm up. They're nice to talk to anyway, it's always good to be friendly

    Focus on being social over trying to get numbers. Since socialization is your biggest stickin point, make goals just to go out and talk

    And get to the gym, you won't meet a lot of girls but you'll feel better about yourself and you can find friends to go with you

    In all reality focus on expanding your social circal, you'll meet girls easier by being out with groups

    The clubs are a good idea, but for now I'd take the focus off hooking up and make yourself better at approaches. Stop worrying about approaching only 10s, approach everyone for the sake of talking to them then the 10s will be much easier
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    Default Re: College update from peel - October 1st 2012

    In my honest opinion, I think you care a little too much what other people think. If you approach an HB and some people are giving you dirty looks or have the "she is out of your league" look on their face, F*ck em. Who cares what they think? You can just have the f*ck you look on your face when you walk away with the HBs number. I agree with what RB said, lower your standards some. Talk to people just for the practice. Approach is not the time to be picky, later on down the road is. People are fun to talk to and the more of them you talk to, the more "fun" PU will become. Just stop caring what other people think so much and I Promise that will help you at least a little.


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