Hopefully this gets itself to the college guys out there who can give me advice.
As those of you know, Ive been "daygaming" when I have time. Now that I have to work jobs, I have less free time during the day. The flow of girls is much more scarce when I am free now and I have less time. Today I spent two hours walking around. A precious 2 hours wasted. I did not approach once due to a combination of Approach Anxiety, pickiness, and lack of hot girls or HB10's. The best I saw was probably like a 6-7 and I just wasn't feeling the need.
Occasionally, I do see a very pretty girl but she's surrounded by other passerbys walking near her and I just dont want to open directly as its the only way that seems normal. Anything indirect doesnt work unless I quickly translate it to direct. I just hate doing that in front of people because I feel like a sleaze or dont want to be embarrassed or dont want them glaring at me with the 'you dont deserve to talk to her shes out of your league' face. There are some AFCs floating around that I feel would just be jealous pricks glaring at me from afar.
Of the few interactions I've had and just talking to random people, they seem to all suggest and point to school clubs (not night clubs). I try to avoid mentioning me daygaming and just tell them how I feel I need to meet more people and this is what they suggest. A few of these suggestions were from girls I approached.
So it seems clubs is where its at. The thing is Ive gone through the list and have already decided nothing interests me that much and its not worth the time. This is like the same thing the whole of last year except last year I actually went to a few clubs with no real spiking interest, nor did I find them with the HB10s I occasionally find walking around campus.
It seems all is lost. Every now and then I will go to class and see a crowd of very good looking girls walking amongst the huge crowd of people and then feel frustrated since there's too many people around her to approach. So I say, dont worry I will wait until I dont have class (which I have found to be an excuse) and then I waste hours walking around doing nothing and chickening out.
It seems Ive identified some key things and some sticking points that I may just be able to solve:
-If you see a 10, f@ck it. Stop making excuses and just do it. Approach. Even if there's people around. Youve truly never done it before and you just waste weeks frustrated with regret and frustration. If you have to, come in indirect and keep it indirect as long as possible.
-Join some clubs and stick with them goddamnit. I dont care if theyre not the most fking interesting in the world. Even if youre half interested. Its better than moping around all night. Stick with the club at least for a few weeks.
-Even if the girl seems below your standard of intelligence by far. Stick with it. Youve passed up a couple girls because youve labeled them as boring or uninteresting or wont have good job after college is over since they party too much...... then you spend the next week moping around whining that you just want a good looking girl. You passed it up!
Other points Ive noted:
-I have to stay humble. Ive had quite a ton of rejections from the small amount of girls Ive approached. It hurts and stuff but at least Im proud to say that they were all good looking. I dont want to mislead anyone. I have gotten majority of rejections from the small amount Ive approached. The ones that have given me their number (2-3) were not 10s by any means.
-I regret not asking this girl for her number. She was good looking. She wasn't a model but was pretty up there. She was uninteresting and partied while I care about schoolwork and a good job in the future. For this, I chose not to. And here Im sitting alone regretting it and all I want is a good looking girl now with a decent personality. :/
*Finally, my plea: Daygaming is not working at all. It comes down to lack of opportunity to approach a 9 or 10 despite my seeming "large" state school. what to do? A possible solution would be to lower my standards for now, approach all girls no matter how ugly they are, and somehow rid myself of ALL these fears completely: fear of having a bad reputation (sleaze or pick up guy), fear of getting jealous angry glares, fear of other people observing
I think the best course of action is to do this AND also try to join some clubs even if theyre not half interesting. What are the best clubs with hot girls?
I have no connections to parties at all. Which is fine. I find them to be a huge time sink when I have schoolwork. They can take over your whole weekend. But it still just saddens me.
Final observation note: The most hot girls on campus ... it seems to me... that my guess is they have a variety of random majors and simply just go to class and are a part of maybe one or two clubs (which are also quite random) and then just have a big natural social network and they party almost every other night. A good percentage of them are in a sorority.
My thoughts: getting to meet them I either have to: join an affiliated frat (No) , get into the club they are in (possible but doesnt guarantee anything unless I make a noticeable effort to meet the person at the club which I will try), cold approach on campus (hard, they are rare), white people parties and/or bars (not invited, fine by me).
Final final thoughts: Ive realized I dont want this to become too much of an obsession and it taking too much time since it's truly not that important at this stage of my life. But I realized that with no real social life and no real hobbies or enjoyments, my life just seems so dull and I dont feel like doing anything else so my grades slip. Other than hot girls, my only major enjoyment is MOBA computer games. Fck. Ive tried going through lists of hobbies and sh1t but nothing interests me. Gym and working out just becomes a chore too. Ive got to solve this fking problem. Clubs. I gotta join them. btw, we have a runners club but its like fking 5pm every day. Its already middle of fall and so fking cold.... dam. I'll try it out though. Maybe there'll be girls. Fck.
Also, I dont think Im alone. My roommate does nothing but class and marching bad and random games on computer. And theres a whole group of people on my floor and other floors of all grade levels who spend their time going to class and playing video games and thats it. Still, I feel Im fking missing out. Fck these guys. 5/8 of my college is already over. No girlfriend and no kiss or anything.
On the upside, girls are not that important and I have more time after college. Grades are more important. Also, Ive been getting better and have had some microsuccesses with approaches and decent conversations.