Hey fellow buddies
I've been using the material in this forum and PUA books and materials actively. I've got many good suggestions, advices and gold words from many members here to improve my game. It's time for me to add my few cents here in the case some beginners might find it helpful.
The first date field report:
After knowing this HB8 through CL by replying to her ad (which is a long story and field report itself), I set a date and we ended up meeting. I was not really hoping much since I haven't asked for photos and she did not either, so I just took it as a chance to go on a date to practice my game. Recently I had few successful dates like this that came through online dating experience that I'm more master in than a day/night physical approach.
Anyway, I met this girl and surprisingly she was a HB8 (a fun one ). Well, the moment we met I kind of about losing my comfort but I truly controlled it out and I gave her a big smile and a hug (That's what I do recently when I meet a girl for the first time). We went for a coffee date and while light flirting with the cashier in the coffee shop (to dhv) and teasing my HB8 a bit I paid for the coffee. She wanted to pay but I used it to tease her a bit and then I paid.
We sat and I started to DHV, being cocky and mysterious and not replying to her questions directly. She asked what do I do, I replied by doing part time striping in gay clubs. she asked about my house, I said I'm living no where. She asked about my education and though I'm highly educated, I answered by teasing her looking for nerds and degree kind of people. It was all laugh and fun. She told me that she go 100 replies from her ad and she was disappointed till she received mine! we blah blah and tease about an hour. I pretend reading her palm and not telling her what is there. this is when you cant directly touch the girl to go more physical. I also gently kino few times. After an hour I asked her to go for a walk and she of course agreed.
We walked on a very very quite place by the sea. During the time I kept on teasing here and not answering her and she kept of giving me this sound "auuufff" which means the game is on! While walking I pushed her by my shoulders few times and got very positive feedback so I did it even more and walked closer to her. She said something that was funny and spontaneous so I laughed and she felt really success making me laugh, so I felt is a good time to hug. I said "come and hug me" and she did a cold hug. I said "is that all? do you always hug like that! disappointing! I want a real hug!", then she gave me a real one and while hugging me tight I lifted her a bit and while she was deep smiling of joy I kissed her and she replied back too enthusiastically. We kissed for a minute or two deeply and I pushed her back while she looked at my eyes for more. I cooled down myself and said "I'm not sure to give more, you have to gain it" ... we went on walking and laughing while she kept on asking about my job and people that pretend to be well-educated and they are not. I said "yah just like me, they are awful" .... made her laugh more.
She begged for two minutes of seriousness and I asked what will I get for that. She said a kiss. I asked for three. She gave two and I still kept it three till she agreed. So it went on and on! Made the long story short, I walked her to her place. (I did not wanna bring her to my house just to keep the pace slower and more mysterious)
Well, we are not perfect and we do mistakes ... So on the way back to her place I said I don't walk girls to home (that is actually true). I don't know why I'm doing this to you. They usually walk me back home or drive me back. I think I should have not said that since it demonstrated a strong interest that I should have avoided. Could not lee it cool at the last stage. That was a listen learnt as well.
Well, she is the winner so far out of 20 dates I had during the last month. I know it's too much but I wanted to increase quantity to get a better quality and also practice my game. So, I'm warming up for the second date.
Questions: When should I call her for the second date and what do you suggest? How often should I keep in touch with her? She is the first one I'm truly interested. Others were easy and some went to the second and third with no challenge and I brought them to my bed easily. But I think she is a challenging one and I like her.
P.S. For beginners: since I truly passed this stage by myself with no one to one coaching or classes, I do definitely try my best to pass over my experience, so any question is welcome.
Have fun and again thank for all members that I learnt something from during the last months of game improvment.