So I'm working on 4 girls currently, all very different. Ive been using different approaches with each to appeal to what I can see is their personality type, but a lot of things remain the same with all 4.
1 - The Seductress - You might recall from another thread that I was putting in a lot of work on a Seductress who ended up being a roommate of mine. Surefire HB7. We F'ed again a few weeks back but have since mutually shut things down. I had an indication that she wanted me to fight for her due to her insecurities, but I wasn't going to overextend myself. I ended up losing a lot of interest in her, and have been Freezing Her Out for days at a time. It finally got to the point where she asked if I hated her to which I responded: "I dont have time to hate you, Ive just been putting my attention other places where its more appreciated." - This has driven her crazy! She texts me out of the blue every few days saying how she wishes I would come home (I work out of town), and sometimes I ignore it, other times I respond, carry on a RFT conversation, then split. She will still be around, but I'll be interested to see what happens when we are around each other in person.
2 - The Free Spirit - I met this girl at work, always carried on great conversations and laughed a lot. Things escalated from emails to text game (She gave me her number without me asking), and we texted back and forth a lot. Normally pretty light, a lot of flirting, and some quality conversations on entertainment, food, and otherwise. I employ cocky funny quite a bit in my texting as well as in person. We have hung out a few times, she told me she hasnt had sex since April, but we have made out fairly passionately as well. I froze her out yesterday, and she texted me last night saying she felt something had been missing from her day, and when I didnt respond texted back saying "Oh, youre ignoring me now! I see how it is!" I've reengaged today, but being careful because I'm quite positive she could turn into a clinger, she makes a lot of future projections about things we could do together. Great girl, an HB7, but I know I have her hanging on my every word so the interest has dwindled slightly.
3 - The Blast from the Past - This HB8 and I dated a few times last year, never even K-closed, she is very reserved and shy when it comes to these matters and confessed to me that she hasnt even dated anyone other than me since 2008. I heard from a mutual friend that she had been asking about me recently, so I texted her. This one requires a little more work than the others. We always have great conversation, but she is fairly unresponsive to any flirting or teasing, its just not in her nature. Currently we are working on meeting up (Live in different cities, on different work schedules) but it doesnt look like we will be able to arrange anything until the New Year. We text semi-daily and discuss a lot of mutual interests.
4 - The Young Seductress - This one is my current favorite of the bunch because she is a challenge. HB9 easily. I had heard that she thought I was cute at work, so I went out of my way to go chat with her. Later that afternoon she emailed a reply to a report I had sent saying "I see youre supporting Movember", to which I replied "Whats Movember??" and threw her for a loop. Off on the right foot, made her laugh and out of her comfort zone (Guys, this is one of the biggest turnons for a lot of girls.)She immediately said I could text her if I wanted, so I gave her MY number to gauge interest. Sure enough that same evening she texted me. It's very light with us right now, a lot of push/pull from both directions, she is a tough cookie for sure! One really good line I saw here that I used with her was when I she asked me if I had a gf and I returned the question and she said she was seeing someone. I replied with "Oh Thank God I thought you were hitting on me!" and she replied "Maybe I was... " The second day, she said she wanted to come over and "cuddle" because she was cold. So I invited her to my room, and we built a ridiculous amount of tension just by using our hands (in underwear), I had her breathing heavy before I even kissed her! She spent the night with me (nothing sexual just making out and grinding), and then texted me first thing in the morning afterwards (yesterday). A lot of fun, flirty conversation, she was having a rough day so I was being fairly sweet to her. At one point she asked me if I was bipolar because I can be an ass and sweet at different times! The thing I enjoy about her is that she has an answer for everything I say, and I told her I respect that she's a tough girl, she ate it up! She asked when our next "cuddle date" would be, and I said not tonight, I have things to do, maybe tomorrow. She obviously couldn't wait for that, so she wanted me to come over last night, which I did. Much the same, we chilled and laughed for a bit, then built a lot of tension when we got in bed, but it never amounted to anything sexual. She kept saying how "bad" we were being and how fast this was progressing. I spent the night again, and she started texting me immediately this morning once again. I've been stretching out the time between my replies to not seem dependent/needy.
Now for a summation of what I have found works for 3/4 (The Blast from the Past has some issues, so my approach with her is definitely different)
1. ALWAYS PLAY IT COOL. No matter what a girl says, don't take offence, its difficult to tell via text if they're joking or not, always act like they are! If you seem too sensitive to a woman, they will not stick around!
2. PUSH/PULL/PUSH/PULL, etc. Don't be shy to tease her, its fun, flirty, and a perfectly placed emoticon will surely put a real one on hers. There is nothing wrong with showing a girl youre sweet and showing your interest, but at the same time keep them on their toes! If they know they've won, you're done!
3. Use laughter to build emotion. Its no secret that funny guys get girls, and that laughter releases endorphins in people. If you can put a smile on a girls face when she is having a bad day, she will feel a connection to you like a drug.
Obviously the goal with all 4 of these girls is F-close, only 1/4 has been achieved thus far. 1,3, and 4 have LTR potential for me, but I'm not working toward that right now.
Looking forward to keeping you guys updated!