INTRO: Im from Spain, and I have been in the US for 4 months (sorry for the spelling).
Friday 30 november: I was at a bar with a friend relaxing (not in PUAwannabe mode), and I saw a girl that I really like, but she was with a guy. I saw her looking towards me sometimes but nothing special.
Saturday 1 december: I went back to the same bar, and after approaching some I saw that girl sitting down with 2 girlfriends. 10 min later I saw her ordering some drinks while talking to a guy. Once she gets the drinks, she passes infront of me, with one drink in each hand.
Me (I grabbed her arm), she looked at me and smiled.
Me: Hey, wait a second, let me grap one of this drinks, so we are more confortable.
So I grabbed her drink gently.
She: Do you want it?
Me: No Iím fine. (and with a half smile) The reason why Iím stopping you is because I saw you yesterday and you saw me, so now I want to know you betterÖ Whatís your name?
She: XXX. Yes I saw you also on Halloween, sitting in the same table as you were yesterday
At this point there were a lot of people, so I put my hand around her waist and told her to move (physical dominance).
Me: So yes, and actually I was with the same friend, do you remember how I was dressed?
She: Was it a doctor? (actually I was the character of American psycho).
Ö.. So from here on, Kino Escalation, hand on the arm, acceptance, hand on the hip and moving it around,
She: So you have an accent, where are you from?
Me: I let you guess that one
She: mmmÖ. SpanishÖ
Me: Wooow!! You got it, come here and give me a hug for this one (so we gave us a hug). Where would be your favourite place to visit (creating positive emotional connection)
Ö (after 5 min of conversation)Ö
She: So I still remember you from Halloween because I thought you were attractive.
Me: I like that, what type of guys do you like?
She: I like tall, dark hair, tan, blue eyes betterÖ (she pointed at me and start laughing, because she was basically describing me)
She: I donít want to say to many good things but blablabla
Me: Hey girl, you are making me blush, touch my face (I grabbed her hand and put it on my cheek, did that because she didnít Kino back, and I wanted her to be confortable kino'ing me)
She: So why didnít I see you talking to girls all those days I have been out
(I didnít understand if she said did or didnít, because I was talking to 3 different groups, although I started of the night just chilling). So after she repeated her question I thought it was a shit test so I replied:
Me: Well, I do talk to girls, but not in the way you mean because Iím very selectiveÖ
She: Well you better be bc blablablaÖ
Ö.. (15 min later ) Ö.
Me: Hey, lets get back to your friends otherwise these drinks will get warm (and I started to move)
She: Do you want my number?
Me: (I looked at her and put a :S) your number? No...
Then I hugged her and told her later when we get to the table.
When we arrived at the table, I saw her friends, so I thought that a good way of getting their acceptance was doing the following.
Me: (while putting down one of the drinks for the girls) Hi thereÖ. Iím the new waiter, your friend XXX just hired me.
So everybody started laughing, we exchanged names and I did like a quick 1 min talk to make sure I made a good impression. My target was still standing next to me (instead of sitting down) so I basically, continue talking with her.
Me: So do you know how to use this phone? (and while doing this I put my two fingers on her forehead like measuring it, and while moving my fingers so she can see it, I make the distance smaller (like telling her she hardly has a brain)). So basically im joking around a little bit.
Me: Ok I got to go to find my friends
She: If you want to come back later and sit with us youíre welcome.
Me: Ok, maybeÖ (and here I made a mistake by saying) BTW, Iím bad a texting (its true but I never say It, there is no benefit for me saying this)
Me: In Spain we give two kisses before leaving
She was hesitating
Me: I know you can do it, itís on the cheek. (so we just kissed on the cheek).
OK: So until here I would qualify it as a semidirect approach (in a moreless confident way I would say), easy handling conversation, with maybe one shit test, a lot of kino from my behalf, some jokes about her, physical dominance, creating some emotional bond, and she was interested.
I always look into her eyes, kino touching from arm, ending in the hips (as fast as they let me) and looking to her lips after a certain amound of time. So attraction was created.