Another long one so if you're slow, fall back. I know odds are no one will read this but I like writing these anyway because I can refer back to events later and it keeps me accountable to my myself so I can hopefully fix my mistakes.
Context: A girl I dated in high school has been telling me for a while she wanted to see me. We broke up after a few weeks in high school, then it was weird and at some point not long after I graduated we became friends again. We dated about 3 years ago and we've hung out multiple times together since then but not hooked up, even though I've gotten IOIs.
We go to different colleges about 6 hours away by car so this had to be while we were both home for break. I had been trying to see her for about a week but she works a lot while she's here so I didn't end up seeing her until tonight.
The date: She somehow didn't understand that I was gonna pick her up so I met her at the pool hall since by the time I asked her address, she was already there. No big deal, any good PUA(-in-training) can adapt. I pull in and she was sitting in her waiting for me so she approaches my car when she sees me. That was kinda weird so I told her to get in to look at my new car. She kinda pokes her head in but doesn't actually sit down so I guess she's not DTF (yet). So, I turn off the car, get out, give her a hug and we go in. She doesn't know pool so I start to think this will be easy as teaching her will involve lots of easy Kino. I start to teach her and all the while I'm teasing her. I think I teased her too much for sucking at pool and this was my first major mistake. I could see it was bothering her so I laid off. But instead of immediately picking up from there and telling some dhv stories, my discomfort led to her starting to bitch to me about her life and problems (with random guys, other ex's she's had) and losing any attraction I had generated through kino and whatever. I wasn't really sure what to do so I start telling her about my problems at her prompting. This was probably where things became irreparable.
All the meanwhile, I'm kicking her ass in pool and she's getting frustrated bcuz she sucks. I also really haven't done any kino in a while bcuz I felt like I was kinda hovering over her. I win and then we shoot all her balls in. This took just slightly less than forever. She asks about getting a Long Island Iced Tea. I'm 21, and she's only 20 so I have to get it. I resist at first bcuz she has to drive home but I give in to seem like I'm playing it cool. I go get us a drink and when I come back she says she got all the balls in. OK, whatever...that works for me anyway so we can go to the bar. She's kinda been checking her phone off and on but yknow, what the fuck am I gonna do? But I digress. We head to the bar to sit down and hang out. We're sharing the drink and talking and I'm finally kinda getting into my groove and telling her some funny stories from the year I took off from college.
Things seem to be looking up. Her body language is a little closed off but I don't let it get to me. We both get our own beers at some point while we're still talking. She gets another Long Island for us to share. I keep bantering about whatever and she says she has to pee and gets up. I sit down at this couch they have next to the bar and act like I'm looking at something on my phone. She joins me when she comes back. I get my hand on the outside of her thigh and I keep telling her funny stories. I get to the end of my story and put my arm around her. She starts bitching about her issues again, specifically this guy she really likes and has been with on off and on. I thought I was on familiar ground here so I ran a BF destroyer pattern, as well as I can remember it. By this point, I'm close to her, my arm is around her and (she was wearing a short shirt so) my hand is on her bare stomach. I start telling her how much I wanna get a tat and she says we should go. I wasn't kidding but at this point, I need to relieve myself so I step away for a minute. I'm thinking I'm gonna get some for sure so I wipe off my face, rinse out my mouth, all that. I come back and she's already standing up, ready to go. I'm surprised bcuz I never thought she was that spontaneous. I wanna at least make out with her before we leave and shes says she's not getting one, which is a problem since I've always imagined getting my first tat with someone who was also getting one. Major mistake 3.
We sit back down and I just go for it and she goes "No, we're not doing this...we already tried and it didn't work out between us." At this point, I can tell this isn't happening but I wanna re-gain some semblance of control so I take my hands off her and abruptly changed the subject. She says she's going home and I told her to let me know when she got home safe. She texted me when she got home. I never replied so I could pretend I didn't get it and call her later so she could hear for herself how unaffected I am by this. She didn't answer but she'll see the missed call tomorrow. I'm leaving the country tomorrow for a few days and she'll be gone back to college by the time I get back. She knows all that.
As always, any advice, is appreciated. Thanks again, guys.