After YEARS of being in a pretty good relationship I just had to get out! The girl was awesome but I am just not ready to get married. So, 2 weeks later I need to get back into the game.
Today was my first approach. I went upstairs in a local coffee shop to sit down and read "the rules of the game". As I sat their envious of my basically imaginary role models I saw a decent looking girl looking around the room, kind of like someone bored from studying. It just happened to be was reading a section about "limiting beliefs" so I thought about what was limiting me from going to talk to her...1,. I don't know what to say, 2. I am not dressed well and had onion breath from dinner, 3. I haven't finished reading the books...but then I thought fark IT...why not. The only way I can loose is if I don't try, so I got up.
I start walking to her, confidently. Then I froze. My armpits dampened with sweat...what was I going to say. After I open, then what. I stood there mid-room awkwardly staring at the wall ahead of me. Luckily, the girl had not caught me standing there frozen in the room for nearly 30 seconds. I sacked up and continued my approach. As I got closer I saw this "alright from afar" girl increase a point in hotness with each step. By the time I got right to her table I started to notice her shinny brown hair, olive skin, and amazing body. "Holy sh1t" I thought, this girl is farking hot!
She was still looking down at her phone and I gave a weak "Hi" and waited. As she raised her face and made eye contact I was paralyzed by her amazing green eyes. Holy sh1t, this girl is straight out of a magazine!
"Hi" she responded with a weird, what the fark to you want from me look.
"Hi, I was just studying over there and I wanted to take a break so I figured I would come talk to you". Now my voice was stronger. I was committed. As I said this I sat down at the chair directly opposite her. It was immediately obvious she was shocked my approach. Her eyes scanned the room and she looked down at her phone. She avoided eye contact.
"Hi, well I need to go actually" she muttered as she started to collect her things.
It was going bad fast. I noticed her key chain with a local univeristy symbol.
"Do you go to XXXX university?" I asked.
She looked at me like I was full of sh1t. She asked me what I studied. I told her and I could tell this was going into every other boring college convo, where we ask majors and such, so I just jumped into a story about the crazy sh1t I had seen that day. She seemed more interested. She dropped her phone back on the desk and relaxed a bit. The stories were working so I told her some about my travels to Egypt. She started to give me eye contact and stopped checking her phone. This whole time I was DHVing with my stories...conveying that my life is exciting and fun....that I care for others, etc.
Realizing I was talking to much I asked her to tell me what she likes to do for fun, as if I was totally unimpressed by how boring she was being.
She rose her eyes and in a very seductive stair said "I do everything".... I totally felt like this was her line that she told guys to get try to get them all excited and to jump on her.
I totally acted unimpressed. I responded, "Come on, you don't seem like a boring person. Are you?"
She went on to talk about her interests and I looked for similarities. She asked where I was from and blah blah...we talked about all the boring stuff other people talk about. After about 7-10 minutes of talking she looked down at her phone and said she really needed to go. I could tell she was intrigued by me but still kind of confused by my approach. I was demonstrating lots of DHVs with my stories and not bragging but it was tough to really connect with her and get to know her on a deep level.
Realizing the convo was coming to an end I said, "Well you should give me your number". She smiled and said, "how about you facebook me?". I paid no attention to her and handed my phone. She put her number in and said "I guess I'm giving you my number". It wasn't really buyer's remorse but more like disbelief that some guy had just sat down with her, chatted her up and then got her number. I had just gotten off work, had just eaten a ton of onions and had BO from sweating, so I passed on trying to hug and said bye as I walked away.
Now I know things didn't go perfectly but I am psyched. She was legit FINE! Let me tell you, I don't give 9s away to just anyone. Of all the guys I know I am the toughest in terms of a point scale. She was a 9.
So there were a few things I know I need to work on. I need to work on building attraction/comfort in the early stages. My open could have actually been better too. The only things I actually did right were being confident and going for it. My stories were pretty strong too, though unpracticed. I also could have done some keno but it just didn't feel like her body language was accepting of that yet.
Lets see what happens in a couple days when I call her. I would love any comments. Thanks for reading!