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    Default Church report, backup singer from the band.

    Hey guys,

    So the other day I went to this new church nearby, thinking what the heck might as well check it out. They had a band playing and there was this gorgeous backup singer. After they were done, there was a short intermission and everyone got to socialize with each other. Anyway, the backup singer was sitting by herself and messing around on her phone. This was a golden opportunity to try to get over my aa and practice opening (baby steps).

    So I decided to go for it and went over to her with a direct approach.
    (Nervous as hell)

    Me: I came over here to tell you that you are gorgeous and I would be absolutely kicking myself if I didn't say hi to you. I'm chewbacca

    (Her smiling)

    Her: I'm (name)

    Me: You did a good job singing up there btw.

    Her: Thanks!

    Me: (assumption stacking) you look like the type of girl who enjoys and appreciates good music.

    Her: (talking about music) fluff

    Then break time was over, thank God because I felt the conversation was getting boring for her. Told her it was nice meeting her and went back to my seat.

    Then once the service was over, I made such a huge mistake (an AFC move). I went back to her and said, "you seem like a cool girl to get to know, and I was wondering if I can have your number?" Once I said this I realized I didn't build enough attraction or get enough ioi's from her to go for a Number Close. Plus, I totally forgot to use suave kino's number close method.

    Her response: (hesitate) uh, why don't we just talk some more next time.

    Me: okay (give her a handshake and leave)

    All in all, I still got to practice and I realize some things I did wrong, but I am glad I took the initiative to approach. This is the first step and hopefully there will be more successful field reportsl to come. Thanks for reading and feedback will be much appreciated!

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    Default Re: Church report

    If you're going direct and don't know what to say,watch Sasha Daygame(youtube) videos,he's showing you everything,from successes to failures.

    And i think you were probably nervous,but music could be a very good topic,you could expand it,i suggest you read one of the topics here "The simple art of conversation",could have helped you a lot in this situation,especially if you don't know what to talk about.
    The topic is in "How to Flirt" section.

    And notice that she didn't reject you,you could have said "Cool,then give me your number so we could talk more later".And you don't have to worry about building enough attraction and ioi's when you go direct IMO,she's talking to you,that means that she accepted the fact that you're hitting on her,that's an IoI right there.

    You should have simply approached her after and said something like "Listen,i gotta go,but you seem really cool,give me your number,because i wanna talk to you".

    Another small thing is,don't ask for a number,tell her to give you her number,or use one of field tested routines like Kino's that you mentioned.

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    Default Re: Church report

    Why are u sarging at a church? :S lol

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Church report

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    Why are u sarging at a church? :S lol

    Linking x
    That's what I was thinking. Can you imagine the social pressure and the slut shield she would put up as a response.

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    Default Re: Church report, backup singer from the band.

    Duno, maybe it's an untapped resource, you know what they say about the quiet ones and to be fair, I was with a girl who's parents were very religious......she was filthy lol :L

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Church report, backup singer from the band.

    So I forgot to mention that before I approached her, the speaker said this break would be a good opportunity to grab coffee or talk to people before service began. I used it as a good excuse to talk to her. But yeah a church out of all places, now that you mention it linking, does sound pretty funny but practice does make perfect right?

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    Default Re: Church report, backup singer from the band.

    Hell yeah, but maybe not the best place to get results

    Linking x

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    Default Re: Church report, backup singer from the band.

    Quote Originally Posted by linking View Post
    Duno, maybe it's an untapped resource, you know what they say about the quiet ones and to be fair, I was with a girl who's parents were very religious......she was filthy lol :L

    Linking x
    Lucky. My last girlfriend was full on religious. No sex, no swearing, no nothing outside of her faith. Couldn't do anything to break through to her. You ever heard the Ron White joke about keeping the dog under the porch? Yea, that was me, for well over a year. It became a relationship of me, her, and my hand. As you can probably tell, I ended up liking the hand more
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: Church report

    Quote Originally Posted by Ra1d View Post
    If you're going direct and don't know what to say,watch Sasha Daygame(youtube) videos,he's showing you everything,from successes to failures.

    And i think you were probably nervous,but music could be a very good topic,you could expand it,i suggest you read one of the topics here "The simple art of conversation",could have helped you a lot in this situation,especially if you don't know what to talk about.
    The topic is in "How to Flirt" section.

    And notice that she didn't reject you,you could have said "Cool,then give me your number so we could talk more later".And you don't have to worry about building enough attraction and ioi's when you go direct IMO,she's talking to you,that means that she accepted the fact that you're hitting on her,that's an IoI right there.

    You should have simply approached her after and said something like "Listen,i gotta go,but you seem really cool,give me your number,because i wanna talk to you".

    Another small thing is,don't ask for a number,tell her to give you her number,or use one of field tested routines like Kino's that you mentioned.
    Okay bro I'll try to be gracious here buddy. Take my advice and don't run any game on Church Women. I have experience in this area and it never panned out as a good thing.

    Not to be too frank but I had a friend come up to me at Church and say "Umm the girls don't want you to talk to them, touch them, or approach them." Yeah biggest and most painful rejection ever. Point is in Church people are a little more judgmental of your behavior because of some "hidden standard". I got corrected so many times for simply talking to Church girls it always got me in trouble.

    If you meet someone there play it super low key and never run any game there or you will get a bad rep with the ladies there since they will warn their friends about you.

    I go to Church for Church. I go to the Club or do day game to run hard core game. Club women by the way are so much more open and less judgmental about being hit on. Church women don't like it because they are praying for a husband and want a perfect setting.

    I've had way more luck this way by no longer trying to hook up in Church since it is frowned upon.

    Personally I would love to meet a Religious woman but they have way different standards than any other normal girl.

    I would rather meet someone I like then take them to Church with me. This what every other couple there does. Hardly anyone there met each other during services then hooked up. From what I heard most Church people that became couples through some program, in College, doing Ministry, Single's Groups,
    Normal stuff, etc.

    I have tried the Single's Groups there too but again you can't make it there without getting to know the people, having a social circle, going to all the events, talking to the women but only for friendship, acting like a normal person until she starts flirting after an extended period and shows deep investment. Then maybe asking her friend's if she likes you.

    Like I said Church women can't be gamed and if anything you will have to work first on becoming the perfect candidate which is just way too much work. Try somewhere else other than Church
    like a Bar, Club, Water Park, St Patty's Day Parade, Local City Holiday Events, etc. Life is full of paradox's unless you adapt.


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